My daughter Emma Katherine Roey, now Emma Buchheim, lied about a friend being raped and attempting suicide, claimed to have been molested by a priest, and then, just as her attorneys were about to file a law suit, Emma accused her mother (me) of physically abusing her and later of poisoning her with DDT. Emma claimed to have a toxicology report to confirm that her mother (me, again!) poisoned her, but would never turn over this report to my attorney. If you read through the blog, you will find many other examples of Emma’s lying. At one point, she even complained about the way her dad touched her and that he called her a “bitch” and a “slut” everyday. (I refused to listen to her when she talked about her dad like that.) As long as Emma continues with the lies, I will tell her story.  Emma and her husband, Tyler Buchheim now live in California where Emma sells insurance.  Love and thanks to all of you who read and have written to me. If you have any questions or comments, please contact me at: losingemma@gmail.com Please continue to share the blog with others.

Just a few thoughts for the moms out there.  I was working on another post, which has been more difficult to write, but wanted to check in with something short.  Being a mother is exhausting.  In addition to taking care of things at home, and in some cases, homeschooling, you drive them to private school, play practice, soft ball, soccer, swimming, karate, music lessons, karate lessons, sewing lessons, choir practice, youth groups, etc, etc, etc.  You stay up late helping them make and laminate 160 bookmarks for Happening (Church Youth) because they waited until the last minute and won’t get them done without you.  You stay up late Christmas Eve, when you just want to go to bed, wrapping their gifts because you want their Christmas to be special.  Every mom out there does so much for their children, and all we want is for our children to grow up to be decent human beings.

I know my case is not the norm.  There’s a lot more decent kids out there than kids like mine, and I know some people read the blog fearing that they could have an “Emma,” and here I was thinking if I could just get her to college, she would be ok.  How wrong I was, and for most of you, you worry too much.  Your kid will be ok.

I recently had lunch with a group of friends, and a newlywed friend was talking about her stepdaughters.  The girls’ mom abandoned them, doesn’t pay child support, and has very little to do with them.  The girls seem to be embracing their stepmom, and I asked her how their relationship was with their mom.  My friend said, “No matter how bad a mom is, a kid always wants their mom.”

I laughed and said, “Nope.  Not true.” and she corrected herself and said that a lot of times the kids who have a really good mom don’t want their mom.

What is the reason for throwing a mom away?  Did I give Emma enough confidence in herself so that she didn’t need me anymore?  Ha.  Ummmmmmmm, no.  I was the enemy.  I was the competition.  I was in the way of Emma’s freedom.

Anyway moms out there.  I just wanted to reassure you.  Most of you aren’t going to be the parents of an Emma.  We all make mistakes, and generally our kids turn out ok.  There are some that don’t, but I think, at least in Emma’s case, it’s biology or genetics or something out of the ordinary causing Emma’ problems.

Lots of love to you dear readers.