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Emma Ready for Marriage?
April 15, 2013
Thanks to those of you for the e-mails of encouragement that I have received, and for your concern because I haven’t posted in a while. I had a few weeks of internet problems and then I was out of the country for 3 weeks, so I am back, ready to get to work and finish writing the story of Emma. And to those of you who asked how I am doing, I am doing well, thanks. Yes, I was devastated for quite some time over what Emma did. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck I never saw coming, but what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I’m getting stronger everyday. I am fortunate enough to have work that I like and know I make a difference. I work with some great people. Amazingly enough, I have a pretty great life. God is good. That doesn’t mean I still don’t have some bad days. Talk to someone who was falsely accused, and it’s something you never completely get over, but you get back on your feet, take charge, and go on.
What can you say about a child whom the Dr. Phil show would like to have on as a guest? I recently received calls from two of the assistants from the show. Anyone that knows me knows I am a fairly private person, so tv is not my cup of tea, but I think Emma would love the attention except for the fact that she would be too afraid of someone would get to the truth.
Later, I will be posting some of Emma’s writings on her need for control. Emma got control, but at what cost? Cost doesn’t matter as long as she got what she wanted. She destroyed her parents marriage and her lies cost her dad a ton of money. In addition to wrecking two cars that her dad got her, the attorneys fees were huge, her dad lost half his IRA, 401K, and his pension. He also had to refinance our home which, at the time, was almost paid for.
Sometimes, thinking along the lines of cartoon superheroes, I wonder what Emma could have accomplished if she had used her powers for good instead of evil. Look at how much she’s accomplished. Yes, she did some horrible things, in fact, quite a few horrible things. Imagine what Emma could have done if she put all that energy into doing something good instead of destroying the reputation of a priest and of her own mother. Does Emma have a conscience? Is she a pathological liar? Another form of mental illness? I will be sharing the story and you can make the decision for yourself.
(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man named T. . Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for T’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )
I have been very busy and have not had a lot of time to work on the blog. Thank you to those of you who have written, asking how I am. I will continue to tell the story of Emma. It may just take me a while to get it all down.
As you can see from some of Emma’s posts to Pinterest, she definitely has marriage on her mind. I find this interesting after her lies so greatly contributed to destroying her own parents’ marriage. Emma had no respect for her own parents’ marriage, so it will be interesting to see what happens in her own. I can’t tell you how many people have told me Emma will find out the hard way when what goes around comes around. Several people have also me they believe in karma, and that Emma is setting herself up for a fall. Personally, I feel like starting out a marriage on as many lies as Emma has under her belt is a disaster waiting to happen.
I did receive a not from T’s mom, S. of xxx, who said Emma and T. are not engaged, so I really wonder why Emma is telling people she is. Perhaps she is, perhaps she isn’t. Either way, she’s got marriage on her mind.

Chapter 1 The Big Lie That Started it All
(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man named T. Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for T.’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )
Why would a child make up a story about rape? Let me give you some details of what was going on with Emma in Dec. of 2010, when Emma made up the rape story about on on-line friend she had never met in person. Could all this have been over a boy? Read on and see what you think.
On Emma’s 16th birthday, her dad and I went to pick her up at her church youth group. Upon entering the parish hall, Emma ran up to me to tell me that her on-line friend from an English class pen-pal project had called her during her youth group meeting. Emma claimed that the friend, whom I will call “Lacey”, called Emma from the hospital after being raped. Emma was so shocked and shaken up, I really believed something had happened, but the whole thing seemed so bizarre. Emma went off with her friends, and I talked to one of the youth group leaders for a few moments, sharing with her what Emma had told me. One of the youth leaders had gotten a cake for Emma’s birthday, so everyone had cake and ice cream at the end of the meeting. Later, when we got in the van to leave, Emma was very angry with me for talking to the youth group leader about what she told me.
Over the next few days, Emma claimed she tried to call Lacey several times, but couldn’t reach her. She said she spoke to her older sister. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that Lacey had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said Lacey’s extended family had been over for a family gathering, when Lacey had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed, was found unresponsive by a family member, and then taken to the hospital. I did not know Lacey or her family, so I was not going to call them about such a personal matter. This turned out to be a big mistake. Later on, Emma said that Lacey told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was so Lacey was afraid to talk about what happened. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how Lacey was doing . Emma said that Lacey was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that Lacey also had been molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that Lacey’s mother had breast cancer. She said Lacey had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me that Lacey had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that Lacey’s mom was in the hospital and was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive. Later, I was to find out that about the only truth to all the things Emma said was that Lacey’s mom did have breast cancer, but she was never hospitalized and never close to dying. She did outpatient Chemo and was never on death’s door as Emma led us to believe.
What would make Emma create such a bizarre story about her friend? Was it so she could get upset at youth group, feign concern about an emergency phone call, and let all her friends know how upset she was?
Over the summer and fall, Emma had been spending a lot of time around a young man in the youth group. The two of them seemed to like each other, and it was all very sweet, but after a while the young man pulled away from Emma. While it is my goal to get to the truth, it is not my wish to embarrass Emma as to why the boy lost interest in her, but Emma was still very interested in this young man. She talked about him frequently, had told me that he said he loved her, and said that when his dad was visiting from Va., the boy wanted Emma to meet him. I thought that seemed like a stretch considering the two had never even been on a date, but I just let it go.
I’ve spoken to a psychologist, a couple of social workers who work with problem children, and a Ph.D. counselor who told me that teenage girls often get so engrossed in young love, thinking that their love interest is “the one” whom they will spend the rest of their lives with, that these young girls don’t take it well when they are rejected. Is that what happened with Emma? She didn’t get the boy she wanted, so she made up all this drama? Did she just want attention, or was she hoping all the drama would get this boy’s attention? Kids lie all the time. We all know that, but wasn’t this a bit extreme? All this over a boy?
More Lies
Because I am doing this blog sort of piece-meal, I will preface each entry with a synopsis for new readers who may not know Emma’s story. Eventually, I will re-do the blog, and put the entire story in order.
PREFACE: At the age of 16, Emma Roey (Emma Kate Roey) made up a lie about a friend being raped, and then claimed that her friend’s rape brought up repressed memories of being molested by a priest at the age of 12. Emma told these stories to: DFACS, the Jackson County Sheriff’s Department, the Gwinnett County police, four attorneys, 7 therapists, two psychiatrists, two psychologists, the staff at Peachford Psychiatric hospital, friends and family, church officials from two different churches, teachers, her high school counselor, etc. Emma’s attorney had just contacted us and was about to file a lawsuit on her behalf against the church and the priest, and Emma knew she was about to be caught in a very big lie, so she accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit.
A couple days after Emma’s 17th birthday, she had someone call DFACS to say that she was physically abused by her mother. The police came to our home, and then DFACS came to our home and wanted us to provide a place for Emma to go. (I was later told the do this so as not to incur any cost for taking in a child.)
DFACS did not tell me that I was the one being accused of abusing my child, only that she needed to leave the home. During all this, I was on and off the phone with our pastor, Fr. George Ivey, and my friend, Janice. Fr. George suggested that maybe someone from our old church had called DFACS as retaliation for the lawsuit we were filing against the church. I mentioned this to Emma, and she kept bringing up the name of a woman for whom she had babysat for. I thought this odd because this woman had been very supportive to us. I talked to Emma a couple of times on the phone after she left out home, and she continued to bring up that she thought this woman might have called DFACS. of course, at the time, I had no idea that this was all Emma’s doing.
Emma kept requesting to go to my friend, Sandra Brooks McCravy’s home, but for some reason I did not feel comfortable with this idea. Sandra had been one of my closest friends for the past seven years, and Emma had a crush on her son, Johnathan. I was not aware that there was an inappropriate relationship going on between Emma and Sandra, and the two were on the phone late at night, when Phill and I thought Emma was asleep. (I will publish the phone records later.)
At 3 am, our pastor, Fr. George(Holy Trinity Anglican Church) and his wife, Paulette, came over and got Emma and took her to their home. Because they were going out of town, we had to make arrangements for Emma to go somewhere else, and my friend Janice agreed to take Emma. (I have mentioned Janice in an earlier post, and you can read her comments on Emma’s stay with her in that post.)
We had known Janice for about 7 years, and for the past few years always did Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners with Janice, as well as occasional cook outs for Memorial Day, July 4th, or Labor Day. Emma and I saw Janice almost every Saturday where we volunteered with a dog/cat rescue. Emma loved Janice and called her “Aunt Janice.” When Janice called, Emma would check the caller id, and grab the phone before I could, and frequently ended up talking to Janice longer than I did. At the end of their phone conversations, Emma always said, “I love you.” to Janice. Janice proofread Emma’s English papers, and even talked to a friend of hers who was a judge in juvenile court, on Emma’s behalf, when we believed Emma had been molested. We had been to Janice’s home many times. Janice lived in a highly Hispanic neighborhood, and Emma did not like the neighborhood.
While at Janice’s, Emma lied to Janice over and over again. Although Phill had asked Sandra Brooks McCravy not to contact Emma until her got her home, and we asked Emma not to talk to Sandra, they both lied to us and violated our wishes. Sandra Brooks McCravy even went to far as to slip Emma a tracphone and hid it in a Christmas gift that she dropped off at the home of Fr. George.
Below are some facebook e-mails that Emma sent to Sandra during the time Emma spent at Janice’s home:
Emma’s FB posts to Sandi
Dec. 24, 4:25 pm
Hey. I am doing okay. I have a house phone in my room and will call you late tonight. I changed my facebook password so they won’t be able to see my messages. I have called Suzie (Suzie McGarvey, Lanier Counseling, Emma’s therapist.) but haven’t heard back yet. Apparently the DFACS worker was here for less than three minutes. What a joke. I hope Fr. George comes back early!! This is just so crazy. And as horrible as it has been, I still miss my family. I hope Suzie can make my dad see reason and I can go to you on Monday. Please, God. I am figuring out how many chocolates, how much popcorn, etc I can eat per day. This definitely qualifies as Worst Christmas of my Life So Far. Hopefully Worst Christmas Ever. My parents DID bring me some clothes. Guess what they brought me? Shorts. My summer shorts. Just exactly what I want to wear on this 42 degree day. I just hope this is over soon.
NOTE: I had packed up some clothes for Phill to take to Emma while she was at Janice’s. As most of you know, teenagers are not the neatest creatures, and there was no order as to how Emma put her clothes away. I took some jeans out of a drawer and did not notice that one pair was a pair of capris. There were no shorts in her bag of clothes, but there was one pair of capris, because folded up, they looked pretty much like the rest of her jeans.
Dec. 24 2010 6:04pm
Have fun at the family’s house. I haven’t heard from Suzie today. I hope will soon, but I don’t know. I am typing this on my phone so I can’t really format or edit it, sorry you have to wade through my stream of consciousness. Oh this is just so scary. My biggest hope is for this week to pass quickly. Thanks for your prayers. We need them. I miss you guys soooooooo much. I wish I could spend Christmas with you, but I know that’s not going to happen. I talked to my friend Rob’s family. They will be home Monday and I hope that if I can’t come to you, I can go to them. We’ll see. But ohmigoodness I just hate this. I know I am loved but I am so far away from the people I’m close to, and it’s so horrible to feel alone. I am really scared in this neighborhood. They are making lots of noise and I don’t know what they’re doing. It’s so loud. I may have to take sleeping meds tonight, I think, if I’m going to get any sleep. I don’t think I’ve slept ten hours in the past two nights. I’m too nervous. Oh I miss you so much. I miss my parents. I just wish I could be with somebody. Suzie my not call me till Monday. I am making a cross stitch but it’s scaring me. It’s birds. It is just not looking good. Oh well. I might try something simpler, this has so many colors. I want to make you one for Christmas. Maybe I will even design my own. At least it keeps me occupied. If I stuffed them with potpurie (oh that is spelled so wrong) they would smell good but would it last? I don’t know. I love you. I really hope I can see you Monday.
Dec. 24, 2010, 7:22
Ohmmigoodness. They are shooting. I hear them. I have no clue what they are shooting but it is LOUD. I can hear it
Note: Emma claimed to not be sleeping, but she was actually up at night, and Janice told us sleeping a lot during the day. She did ask Janice for some sleeping pills, but Janice would not have given them to her, even if she had any. As for the “shooting” that frightened Emma so badly, Janice’s Mexican neighbors shoot off fireworks on every major holiday. Emma knew this, as she had been at Janice’s many times on holidays, and had heard the fireworks there when we visited on other holidays. DFACS had checked into the neighborhood before Emma went, and found it to be a safe area. Fr. George Ivey and Paulette drove Emma over to Janice’s and later told me, from the way Emma described it, they thought they were going into a bad area and were surprised to see what a nice neighborhood it was.
A List of Lies
(UPDATED 10/31/12–New material at end of post.)
Emma Roey (Emma Katherine Roey, Emma Kate Roey) made up a story about a friend being raped, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the church, Emma accused her mother of physically abusing her to stop the lawsuit because she knew the attorneys would be investigating her rape story since that was the supposed catalyst for remembering that she was molested when she was 12 years old. After this last accusation, I began researching stories Emma had previously told us. Below are some of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I will be adding more as well as some stories that I have not bothered to verify either because I don’t want to disturb the people that are involved or because I believe I have enough documentation to show that Emma is quite accomplished in making up stories.
Emma met when L. when she was in Georgia Virtual School, her 2nd semester of 9th grade in 2009. They had an on-line English class together and were assigned as pen pals for an English project. The two girls became friends writing letters, e-mailing, texting, and Facebook. As far as I know, the two girls have never met in person.
On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Emma was at her church youth group meeting. When Phill and I went to pick her up, Emma immediately told us that her friend L. had called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped. Emma was very upset and said L. was crying hysterically and difficult to understand. Before we left, I was talking to one of the youth group leaders, and told her what Emma had said. Emma got very upset with me for telling the youth leader what she had told us about L.
Over the next few days, Emma said she tried to call L. several times, but couldn’t reach her, so she called her sister, E. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that L. had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said L.’s extended family had been over for a family gathering, when L. had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed, and was later found unresponsive by a family member. She was taken to the hospital. I did not know L. or her family, so I did not call the family. Later on, Emma said that L. told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how L. was doing . Emma said that L. was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that L. was molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that L.’s mother had breast cancer. She said L. had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me, at least twice, that L. had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that L.’s mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive.
On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested at our church when she was 12 years old. According to Emma, L.’s phone call from the hospital, telling her she was raped, was the catalyst for her coming forward about her molestation by the priest at our former church.
My attorney, verified with L.’s father, that L. was never in the hospital, never raped, never molested, never volunteered counseling other children who were victims of molestation.
An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to L.:
I was teaching my mom iris folding, the technique I used on the card I sent you (you should have it now). I love her, but it’s sooo hard to teach her. She has arthritis in her hands and she’s sooo slow. It’s like, I could do this ten times faster and not waste half the material she does, but it’s really important to her to do it herself. And on top of that, she gets really angry when I try to keep her from making mistakes. She wants to do it her way, but she will get really frustrated when hers don’t turn out as nicely as mine do (because she refuses to take my advice, which I give in a very respectful tone that still gets labeled “smart-a**”). It gets me so frustrated, because it’s not even fun for me anymore. What’s worse yet is when she wants to ‘help’ with my projects. But she invariably ruins them! So I mostly try to work when she’s not home.
Note: Emma and I spent a lovely afternoon making iris folded cards. We knew a couple of people who were going to be having babies, so we made cards for them, and then made some generic cards. I’d never made one before, but knew the basics of iris folding, having read about it and having watched Emma make them. It is a very easy technique. My cards came out very nicely. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and I have no idea what projects Emma is accusing me of wanting to help with and then ruining for her. I’ve have spent countless hours teaching Emma beading techniques, or beading with her while we watch a movie, as that is my hobby, and I never ruined any of her projects.
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Emma’s Psychological Evaluation, Part 4
Summary and Recommendations: The purpose of the current evaluation is to determine psychological/emotional factors involved in Emma’s recent problems determine a diagnosis, and make recommendations regarding her treatment. A review of Emma’s family history is negative for the presence of any reported severe psychiatric diagnoses such as major depression, anxiety disorders or thought disorder. Her extended family appears somewhat unusual in terms of relatively low cohesion and emotional support and what is described as being long standing emotional distance and/or conflict. A review of Emma’s relationships with her parents suggests possible longstanding conflict between herself and her mother and a generally positive though somewhat physically distant relationship with her father. Emma appears to experience a low degree of emotional support from extended family.
Note: Looking back now, although it is difficult and painful to read this paragraph, it is also interesting because of Emma’s description of “longstanding conflict between herself and her mother.” So much of the time, I was Emma’s best friend. We could argue over little things, like getting her to do her chores, pick up after herself, etc. but as I mentioned earlier, I was always the one she wanted to cuddle up and talk with. The worst stress in our relationship came after Emma accused me of “physically abusing her.” I did not take being accused of a crime well, and Emma seemed to enjoy the power it gave her. I was so hurt by what she did, I spent a lot of time crying, and a lot of time angry. Emma seemed to enjoy going back and forth sometimes telling me she knew I didn’t do what she said, and she didn’t know why she said those things, and then when she was angry at me, she would say, “I just don’t remember what happened.”
Emma’s health history is significant for the problem of cyclic vomiting syndrome. This medical condition appears to have significantly impacted her ability to attend school on a regular basis and perhaps also her socialization in general. She also describes having severe headaches. The possibility that Emma’s recent problems may be related to a seizure disorder cannot be totally ruled out based on the current testing. No medical records were available to review at the time of this evaluation.
Obviously, Emma’s allegation of sexual molestation by her priest is a very significant part of her history. During the current evaluation Emma did describe to the examiner in a fairly detailed way the events surrounded the molestation and the actual molestation itself.
(Note: I believe Emma got her details from her reading and the internet. Emma frequently read depressing teenage stories, and would tell me about them. I thought it was just a teenage phase at the time, to read all these depressing teenage tales.)
The results of the current cognitive testing indicate that Emma enjoys very strong intellectual capabilities within the very superior range. Her intellectual capabilities suggest that she could pursue college level and graduate level education without apparent difficulty. Emma’s verbal comprehension skills are better developed than her nonverbal reasoning abilities. Her nonverbal reasoning abilities and her working memory abilities are comparable. Emma’s abilities to process visual information quickly are less well developed than her other abilities. A relative strength in verbal comprehension skills may make it easier for Emma to apply these skills in problem-solving tasks which are primarily language-based. A relative weakness in her abilities to process visual information quickly, however may make it more difficult for her to process more complex information. Overall,, her performance across these domains is somewhat scattered and suggests variability in her abilities.
There were indications during her cognitive testing that her ability to concentrate may be a relative weakness for her. This may be related to emotional factors. Her cognitive testing did not suggest the presence of any learning disability. Her basic academic skills may be somewhat below what her expectancy is but at the same time her skills are above the norm for her age group. A review of Emma’s current psychological and Emotional testing suggests that she is a young woman who is rather defended and perhaps somewhat guarded in her acknowledgement of problems. The psychological testing results are remarkable for the relative absence of and denial of virtually any and all emotional distress. Emma may be an individual who is prone to avoid and deny the existence of problems. Although Emma’s somewhat defensive response to style makes it more challenging to interpret her testing, it can be said that none of her testing protocol suggest the presence of any disordered thinking, bizarre ideation or delusional thoughts.
Emma appears to be somewhat social isolated yet at the same time appears to be an individual who desires to please and win the approval of others. She has been raised in a church environment and appears to have a very strong sense of right and wrong and a Christian faith. She expresses interest in pursuing medical missionary work and aspires to help others.
NOTE: I don’t even know where to begin on Emma’s Christian faith. Of course, that is between her and God, but having been her closest friend and confidant, she knows I know the truth about her accusations against the priest, against me, her lies pretty much causing her parents’ divorce, etc. I’ve often wondered how she sits in church or prays to God and keeps up the act.
In summary, Emma is a young woman who is gifted with very strong intellectual capabilities as well as artistic talents. She is an individual who appears to care about others and who desires to please and gain the approval of others. Her current emotional testing suggests that she is rather well guarded and defended in acknowledging problems. As a result it is more difficult to determine a mental health diagnosis. Nevertheless all of her testing does not indicate the presence of features that this examiner would consider suggestive of schizophrenia or an underlying thought disorder. The testing does suggest an individual who is prone to intellectualization of her problems, avoidance, and denial. She may lack insight and awareness of her emotions. She may lack effective emotional coping and self care skills. She appears to be an individual who may have a higher than normal degree of felt need to remain in control. Based upon this examiner’s consultations with trauma specialists, these features are not uncommon among individuals who have been victims of physical or sexual trauma.
Emma appeared to exhibit mood congruent thought throughout the evaluation and presented in a credible manner during all the interviewing. She is a bright, engaging young woman with some obvious positive characteristics and features.
In regards to Emma’s recent episodes, it is this examiner’s opinion that these episodes likely represent a dissociative process triggered by intense emotional conflict and stress. In the clinical literature there are experience referred to as dissociative trance and pseudoseizure disorder that appear consistent with Emma’s episodes. These experiences differ from dissociative identity disorder in that there is not the presence of two or more distinct personality states. These conditions are sometimes comorbid with a seizure disorder diagnosis as well as anxiety or depression and are not infrequently misdiagnosed as schizophrenia. In Emma’s case, these dissociative experiences appear to be acute, and in response to sever stressors. Hopefully, with continued treatment there will be a decline and eventual remittance of these symptoms. It is the impression of this examiner that EEG studies have been performed with Emma to rule out a seizure disorder.
The following recommendations are offered regarding Emma:
- It is strongly recommended that Emma continue in her individual therapy. There are indications that she may lack emotional awareness and insight. She is also a ver bright individual who may find it very easy to intellectualize her emotions. She also appears to be an individual who may have a higher than normal degree of need for control. She may strive harder than most to please and win approval of others. These features are not uncommon among the population of sexual trauma survivors.
- Emma appears to be minimizing the presence of emotional distress, yet acknowledeges on at least one survey the presence of episodic suicidal ideation. The anecdotal information availiable regarding the proposed diagnosis would tend to suggest consideration of either antidepressant or anticonvulsant medication.
- 3. The DFACS investigation into Emma’s allegations is reportedly ongoing. There may be a pending evaluation of her mother. Observations made during the current evaluation suggested that Emma presented in a consistent and credible manner. This is not to say that this is assuming that she is totally accurate in her reports of what has happened with her mother. Obviously there is a great deal of emotional stress within this family at the present time and hopefully in time there will be family therapy that will help to heal the relationships. The goal of the current evaluation was to determine diagnoses and make treatment suggestions, and not to determine validity of any reports of abuse.
DSM-IV Diagnosis
AXIS I: 300.15 Dissociative Disorder NOS (Acute)
AXIS II: V71.09 No Diagnosis
AXIS III: Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome
AXIS IV: Severe-social
AXIS V: Current GAF 55
Richard R. Born, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist
Emma’s Psychological Evaluation Part 3
The Bender Motor Gestalt Test
(Skipping the description about the test)…Emma completed the Bender drawings in 2 minutes and 33 seconds without scoreable [sic] error. her figures were drawn in a somewhat disorganized fashion on the page. There were no perceptual motor difficulties noted however.
The Trail Making Test, Part A and Part B (Skip) Within normal limits.
The MMPI-A (skipping description) A review of her responses indicates that Emma was able to respond appropriately. A review of validity scale configurations suggests that Emma responded in a mildly defensive manner to the items. This does not invalidate the test by any means but does suggest that she may have minimized problems. It is also noteworthy to mention that individuals with very high intellectual capability may be somewhat more prone to produce elevated defensiveness indicators. A review of her clinical profile showed that all 10 scales were within normal limits. A review of the supplementary scales showed near significant elevation on the McAndrews scale with all other scales being below the norm. Similarly, her PSY-5 scales were all elevated below a T-score of 50. Not surprisingly, all of the subscale scores were also generally within the norm. Her highest elevations on the subscales were on the denial of social anxiety scale, the need for affection scale, and the social imperturbability scale. All of these sub scales were elevated at a T-score of 60 or higher. A review of her responses on some of the critical items on the MMPI-A indicated episodic thoughts of killing oneself, acknowledgement of being physically beaten, a feeling of not being able to count on one’s family for help and a perception that one deserves severe punishment for sins.
NOTE: I find it interesting that Emma felt she could not count on her family. When she spoke to one of the DFACS therapists, whom Phill and I met with several times privately, she described her family as “very supportive.” We were always a very close, touchy-hugging kind of family. I won’t get into Emma’s feelings that one deserves severe punishment for sins at this time. I don’t even know what to say about that one right now.
The DSM-IV Problem Checklist (skip description of test) …Emma did not endorse any of the items with the exception of a minimal endorsement of an item concerning difficulty sleeping and an item regarding using food to comfort oneself.
Due to the nature of Emma’s recent occurrences the decision was made to have her complete the Adolescent Dissociative Experiences Scale – II. This scale is a patient self report survey that collects information regarding the presence of various symptioms and experiences that are often associated with dissociation. Emma’s responses on the A-DES were remarkable for the very low rating on all of the items. She mildly endorsed a symptom involving becoming so wrapped up in a TV show or video game that she loses awareness of what is going on around her. Her ratings on all of the other 29 items on the scale were 0. Emma’s responses on the A-DES clearly indicate that she is reporting virtually no experiences or symptoms that are commonly associated with having dissociative problems.
NOTE: It it interesting to note here that about the only thing Emma watched on television at this time was Criminal Minds, one or more episodes daily.
In order to collect further subjective information regarding her perceptions and feelings, Emma was asked to respond to the Adolescent Sentence Completeion Test. A review of her responses generally indicates a high degree of achievement motivation and a strong sense of wanting to remain in control. She indicates particular difficulty in dealing with fear. She indicates a desire to have her family more “normal.” She also indicates that her pride may be a potential fault of hers. There is nothing in her responses that suggests disordered thinking delusional thinking or bizarre themes.
Note: Control.
Emma’s Psychological Evaluation, Part 2
(Updated Sept. 16, 2012)
Background Information: Emma is the only child born of her parents. Her father works as an over-the-road tractor-trailer driver for UPS and her mother is a stay-at-home mother and is also involved with an arts program and a hybrid school program. A review of ther mother’s family history indicates that she is one of 3 daughters born of her parents and she has spent most of her life residing in the Northeast Georgia area. The mother’s family history does not appear to indicate significant mental health problems. Emma’s paternal grandfather was described as hiving an alcohol problem. Family relationships are generally described as being either emotionally distant or tense. Emma reports that she has not seen one of her aunts for many years. Emma’s maternal grandmother is in a nursing home in Monroe, Ga. Emma reports that she has met her maternal grandmother for the first time just last summer. A review of Emma’s father’s family is negative for the presence of significant mental health problems. There is some report of alcohol related problems. Her father is one of two children in the family. The relationship between Emma’s father and his brother is described as being rather tense and distant. Emma’s paternal grandmother resides in New Jersey and Emma reports that she last saw paternal grandmother w\she she was 3 years old. Emma describes her relationship with her mother as being “not good,” stating that her mother was harsh and angry. Emma reported that she felt somewhat frightened of her mother for several years. Emma describes her relationship with her father as “normal” but somewhat estranged due to the fact that he is gone so much at work.
NOTE: What is interesting about Emma being “frightened” of her mother and our relationship being “not good” is that up until Phill had me thrown out of our home, Emma came in my bedroom almost every night to cuddle up and talk or watch tv. It was my usual routine to read or watch a few minutes of television before I went to bed, and Emma frequently came in and wanted to talk or just sit with me. Often, I would mute the televisoin or put down my book because Emma wanted my attention. Emma would get under the covers and snuggle up to me or hold my hand. If we were watching tv, she would usually lean up against me and want me to put my arm around her. This wasn’t an occasional thing, it was almost every night. Often, if it wasn’t a school night and Phill was at work, Emma wanted to sleep in my bed. Emma would complain because I got up early, but usually she would get up and go to her room and go back to sleep when I got up in the morning.
Emma Katherine Roey
Emma Kate Roey
Information regarding Emma’s health history was collected from Emma and her mother. Her mother reports that Emma enjoyed normal early childhood development but at age 6 began having problems with nausea and vomiting. Initially this was thought to be due to various viruses or immune system problems but eventually was diagnosed as being cyclic vomiting syndrome when Emma was 12 years old. Emma continues to undergo medication therapy to help manage this syndrome. she continues to have episodes of sever vomiting. She missed a couple of weeks of school during her 9th grade year as a result and subsequently finished her 10th grade at home using on-line educational resources. Emma also reports having a history of migraine headaches that started when she was 12 years old. she reports that these headaches occur approximately 3-4 times per year.
NOTE: There are several mistakes in this paragraph, but they are relatively minor. Emma missed a couple of months, not weeks in 9th grade, and we withdrew her from school to finish up 9th grade at home. This just shows that Dr. Richard Born did not listen very well.
Emma denies any history of depression, anxiety or other psychiatric condition or treatment. She denies any history of alcohol use with the exception of drinking wine during communion services. She denies any history of drug abuse. She denies any tobacco use. She denies being sexually active. She reports that she has never really dated.
Information regarding Emma’s educational history indicates that she attended First Methodist Preschool in Winder and then attended George Walton Academy from kindergarten through the 3rd grade. Her family apparently was not happy with her academic progress at George Walton and a decision was made for her to be home-schooled beginning in grade 4. She then was enrolled in Jefferson City Academy for her 9th grade year but then the decision was made for her to do her 10th grade academic work on-line at home due to the vomiting problem. The available information indicates that Emma is a very strong student, obtaining mostly As in all of her work.
Note: I’m not sure where Dr. Richard Born got the idea that we were “not happy with her academic progress” at George Walton Academy, or if that was something Emma said, but we were fine with George Walton. We decided to try home schooling because of the long drive to the school, the expense, and because we had friends that homeschooled and we had looked into it and thought it might work for Emma. Because of the long drive to school, Emma wasn’t able to participate in other activities, and her school friends were such a long distance away, so we thought homeschooling would give her more time and would allow her to make some friends closer to home.
When interviewed regarding other interests and activities, Emma reports that she enjoys music and has been involved in some sort of music instruction since she was in preschool. She has studied piano with 5 different piano teachers and at the present time she is interim pianist at St. Mary and St. Martha’s in Hoschton. She reports that she also enjoys reading and making jewelry. She is currenntly enrolled in honor’s physics, Spanish II, AP History, and art composition courses. Emma reports that after graduating high school she hopes to go on to college and is considering programs at Penn State and the University of Evansville in Indianna. She reports that she thinks about performing medical missionary work in Haiti.
Note: Emma did not start taking piano until she was 6 and had 3 teachers, not 5. We quit piano for several years, (I believe grades 5-9) because it was very difficult to get Emma to practice. Emma started taking lessons again, I believe around the summer before she started 10th grade.) When interviewed by Dr. Richard Born, Emma was taking Physics for the second time after withdrawing because she was failing the class in 10th grade. It is interesting to note that Emma told her first Physics teacher that she had such a low grade because she had been dealing with being molested. (She told this teacher this story before she told her parents.) I now believe part of the reason Emma came up with the molestation story was because she was failing Physics and with all the drama she created about being molested, we let her drop the class so she would not have a failing grade on her record. Emma probably should have done fine in Physics, but she spent too much time chatting and writing letters and e-mails with her school friends, instead of doing her schoolwork. Once she realized she wasn’t going to be able to pull her grade up, she had to come up with a reason to get out of the class.
Our neighbor was one of the founders of Eternal Hope in Haiti, and Emma went on a misson trip with this group in 9th grade.
Behavioral Observations: The current evaluation took place over three different appointments. During all of her appointments Emma presented as a slender, attractive young women [sic} appearing her stated age. She was casually-appropriately dressed with good personal hygiene. She was alert and oriented to time, place person and situation. She appeared mildly anxious and she exhibited mood-congruent thought that was logical an goal oriented. Emma was fully cooperative throughout the evaluation session and appeared to apply herself fully to all of the tasks. She was pleasant and engaging. During the course of the first interview she became noticeably emotional, tearful, and distressed episodically when being interviewed regarding the events that occurred with her mother. Her reasoning and judgment were grossly intact and normal. Based upon the observations made during the evaluation it it thought that the results of the current testing can be seen as being a reasonable estimate of her true abilities and characteristics.
NOTE: At this point, Emma had been seeing 3-4 therapists or social workers a week, so she had plenty of time to work on her performance. It’s called “rehearsal.”Unbeknownst to me, she was telling these therapists that I abused her, but funny how these incidents only took place on Tues-Thurs. when her dad was out of town because he never saw them.
Also, on the testing results below, a lot of this will be gobbly-gook to the lay person, but I’m going to go ahead and post this because I intend on making this site public once I get more up here in case someone more qualified than Dr. Born reads it and wants to give me their input on Emma’s problems.
TESTING RESULTS
Interpretation of WAIS-III Results
Emma was administered 14 subtests of the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale- Third Edition (WAIS-III) from which her IQ and Index scores were derived. The Full Scale IQ is the aggregate of the Verbal and Performance scores and is usually considered to be the most representative measure of g, or global intellectual functioning. Emma obtained a Full Scale IQ of 143, which places her intellectual functioning in the Very Superior range 138-146. However, Emma’s unique set of thinking and reasoning abilities make her overall intellectual functioning difficult to summarize by the full Scale IQ on the WAIS-III because there are large discrepancies between the scores that compose either the Verbal scale or the Performance scale. As a result, Emma’s performance may be more appropriately described by the separate scores contributing to the Verbal scale or the Performance scale.
Verbal and Performance Abilities
NOTE: I am going to skip typing up all this, except to say that Emma’s Verbal IQ was in the Very Superior Range, above 99.9% of her peers. We’d already seen Emma SATs. Smart is not a problem. If anyone wants more information on this part of the test, e-mail me, and I will scan it and send it to you. One interesting note from Dr. Richard Born:
In Emma’s case, her ability to infer cause and effect in social situations is less well developed than her other nonverbal reasoning skills. Her verbal reasoning abilities are much better developed than her nonverbal reasoning abilities. Making sense of complex verbal information and using verbal abilities to solve novel problems are strengths for Emma. Processing complex visual information by forming spatial images of part whole relationships and by manipulating the parts to solve novel problems without using words is a less well developed area.
NOTE: The whole time Emma was growing up, Phill and I alway said that she didn’t get cause and effect. If we told her not to do something, and that she would be punished if she did do what we told her not to, Emma never seemed to care and did what she wanted anyway. Or, if we asked Emma to do something, like “clean your room and you can have a friend spend the night” if Emma didn’t feel like cleaning her room, she wouldn’t and didn’t seem to care that she lost out on doing something fun. Instead, she blamed us and often said the reason she couldn’t have a friend spend the night was because we “were mean” or we “hated her.” Phill and I had many discussions about how we did not understand why Emma was like this, and we talked about how, as children, if our parents had offered us a privilege, if we did our chores, etc., we would jump on it and get done whatever it was we needed to do. Nothing seemed to matter to Emma except what she wanted at the moment.
Working Memory Abilities
Again, I’m not going to type all this out except: She performed better than 99.0% of her peers.
Processing Speed Abilities
(Edit) Her preformance on tasks measuring processing speed is better than 47% of her peers.
Interpretation of WIAT:II Results
Reading
(Edit) Her skills in this area exceed those of approximately 84% of individuals her age.
Mathematics
(Edit) Her skills exceed those of approximately 93% of individuals her age.
Written Language
(Edit) Her skills in this area exceed those of approximately 91% of individuals her age.
Ability-Achievement Discrepancy analysis Simple Method
Emma’s achievement on th eWIAT:II was compared to that of her general cognitive ability, as estimated by her Verbal IQ score of 153 on the WAIS-III. Word Reading is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. there is a noteworthy difference (38 points) between Emma’s Word Reading, subtest score (115) and her general cognitive ability, indicating performance lower than anticipated on tasks requiring her to correctly read a series of printed words. Although lower than anticipated, Emma’s performance in this area is still in the High Average range.
Numerical Operations is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. There is a noteworthy difference (31 points) between Emma’s Numerical Operations subtest score (122) and her general cognitive ability, indicating lower than expected performance on tasks requiring her to add, subtract, multiply an ddivide one- to three-digit numbers, fractions, and decimals; and solve simple linear equations. Although lower than anticipated Emma’s performance in this area is still in the Superior range.
Spelling is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. There is a noteworthy difference (33 points) between Emma’s Spelling subtest score (120) and her general cognitive ability, indicating lower than expected performance on tasks requiring her to correctly spell verbally presented words. although lower than anticipated, Emma’s performance in this area is still in the superior range.
IQ Scores Summary
NOTE: These are charts showing again, that Emma is smart except for in a few areas. I will not type them in here, but if you are interested, e-mail me and I will scan them and send them to you.
(continued in Part 3)
7/15/12 Working on the Blog
I’m figuring out how to do the blog. I’m also hoping to be able to add pictures. If I were a writer, I’d be laying everything out and trying to put it in order, but I think in this case, I will create topic and then go in and work on them, add to them, edit, etc. I really need a computer class to learn!
I will give each therapist or counseling center their own page, as well as some of the people involved. Out of respect for privacy, I will either change names or not use names at all of people Emma hurt.
Some of the topics I will be covering are as follows:
Sandra Brooks McCravy, probably had the biggest influence on Emma doing what she did. I had no idea that they had an inappropriate relationship going on, talking on the phone late at night, after we thought Emma was asleep. Sandy was a friend of mine for about 7 years, mostly because she sort of latched on to me. I did like her though, but considered her very needy. She usually called me anywhere from a few to several times a week, usually in crisis. Phill called her “High Maintenance” and often joked that I had to “talk her down.” She was very high strung and would get upset with her family and want someone to listen. Occasionally, I got annoyed that she would call and never even ask, “How are you?” but go on and on about her problems. She was always upset with her mother because she said her mother favored her sister, a former beauty queen, and favored her sister’s children over her own. She would call me from the bathtub when she was loaded down with pillows, cookies, and brownies (no water though) and had had an argument with her husband. She was in therapy with Dr. Genie Burnett at Manna Treatment for years (that should have told me something there), had a history of laxative abuse, seeing a psychiatrist, on psych meds, etc. There’s a lot more to tell there, but I’ll save that for her own section. Sandy did have her good points, and one day Emma and I got into a conversation about friendships, and I told her that no friendship is 50-50, and used Sandy for an example. I told Emma that Sandy was very needy, and as long as I recognized that, it was fine. If I had been a needy person, and needed as much attention as she did, I’m sure the friendship wouldn’t have worked.
Dr. Genie Burnett (“Oh, I’ve been on and off antidepressants for years!”) at Manna Treatment.
Suzie McGarvey, Lanier Counseling, who, even after finding out about lie after lie that Emma told, refused to contact my therapist so we could work on this as a family.
Dr. Richard Born, who, I’ve been told, did a very poor Psychological Evaluation on Emma. She told him lie after lie, and he never looked into anything she said. I was also told by several other professionals that to do a complete Psychological Evaluation, he should have interviewed me alone, Phill alone, Phill and I together (without Emma), and all three of us. He did none of those things.
After DFACS got involved, they sent therapists from the Social Empowerment Center (SEC) to see Emma. I’ve been told that therpists who work for DFACS are the bottom of the barrel, and I believe it after our experience! This group seemed to have high turnover, as the best therapist, who met with Phill and I several times, left for another job, and two of them were young, or new grads with little experience and planned on getting their Master’s, so they weren’t exactly therpists, and I’m sure had no experience working with kids like Emma.
Well, that’s it for today. This is going to take some work, but one day, the whole story will be out here.
Sending out a Letter
Dear Friends and Family,
Originally, I wrote this letter last summer, but my attorney wanted me to postpone sending it. After 26 years of marriage and being a stay-at-home mom, Phill took away my home and wanted to pay as little alimony as possible. Since I have had great difficulty finding work after being out of nursing for 17 years, and I was and am still dependent on Phill financially, I had to remain quiet until the divorce was final. I think this was probably a mistake, and I should have sent this out so Emma would have had to face what she’s done.
On April 7, 2011, unbeknownst to me, Phill filed a protective order against me. Two sheriffs arrived at my home, allowed me a few minutes to pack my personal belongings and leave the premises. I had to give them the keys to my home, and I had nowhere to go. I later found out that Phill and Emma had conspired to get me out of my own home under the pretense that I had been abusing my daughter. I was devastated. Not long after this, Phill told a neighbor that I had left them. Obviously, this was not true. I would like to share with you what preceded the divorce.
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On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Phill and I went to pick Emma up from a church youth group meeting. She ran to me as we entered the building, very upset, and told me that her friend, (X), an on-line friend whom Emma had never met in person, called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped.
Over the next few days, Emma claimed she tried to call (X) several times, but couldn’t reach her. She said she spoke to her older sister. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that (X) had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said (X’s) extended family had been over for a family gathering, when (X) had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed was found unresponsive by a family member, and then taken to the hospital. I did not know (X) or her family, so I was not going to call them about such a personal matter. This turned out to be a big mistake. Later on, Emma said that (X) told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was so (X) was afraid to talk about what happened. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how (X) was doing . Emma said that(X) was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that (X) also had been molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that (X’s) mother had breast cancer. She said (X) had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me that (X) had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that (X’s) mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive her cancer.
NOTE: It was not until Summer of 2011 that I found out for certain that Emma had lied about her friend. My attorney has spoken to the father of the young lady that Emma claimed was raped and called her from the hospital, and he has confirmed that it never happened, his daughter was not raped, was not in the hospital, never tried to commit suicide, and never counseled victims of molestation. He stated that (X) had never been in a hospital in her entire life and wasn’t even born in a hospital. I have spoken to the mother of Emma’s friend several times, and she did have breast cancer, but did very well with outpatient treatment, and she was NEVER hospitalized and never dying. The friend’s mother also sent me copies of e-mails Emma sent to her friend, and I found many more lies in those letters.
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On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested, by a former priest, at our church when she was 12 years old. At this time, the man Emma accused of molesting her was running for public office. Because of what Emma did, he had to temporarily drop out of the political race he was in. At the time Emma told us this, she had been babysitting and teaching for about a year and a half, a friend’s little girl whose father was going on trial for sexually abusing her. Emma also spent a year co-teaching the little girl’s Sunday school class. We were friends with the little girl’s mother and grandmother. I believe Emma got the idea for the molestation story because her relationship with this little girl. Also, Emma was fascinated by stories of children being kidnapped or murdered, like Elizabeth Smart and Jaycee Dugard.
Phill and I whole-heartedly believed Emma when she told us she had been molested. We reported it to the church, and because of our frustration at the way we felt the church tried to sweep it under the rug, we decided to talk to some attorneys. Emma wrote to Allen Hunt, (WSB radio) who e-mailed her the name of an attorney. He also called this attorney about Emma and we went to see him. This attorney believed Emma as well, and wanted to take our case and sue the church. Emma later told Phill that I forced her to write Allen Hunt, but the fact is that she asked me to write him, and I suggested she do it because I thought her letter would mean more if she wrote it herself.
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In Dec. of 2010, about a week after I had told Emma that the attorney was ready to file the law suit, Emma had someone call DFACS to say that I was physically abusing her. I was in bed asleep when 3 men from the sheriff’s department showed up at the door to check on Emma. I had no idea what was going on, and DFACS came and removed Emma from our home. Later on, when I was interviewed by DFACS, I was able to refute almost every accusation made by Emma. Two of the dates that she said I supposedly abused her, her dad was with her all day. One was her birthday, when Phill was off and home all day, and one was a day when he took her to the Dr. in Marietta and I was out Christmas shopping for her. (It is interesting to note that Emma claimed her friend was raped on her 16th birthday, she told us about being “molested” on her Dad’s birthday, and she claimed I abused her on her 17th birthday). I believe Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit because she knew her lies would be discovered if the case went to court.
After Emma accused me of abuse, I began to suspect that the molestation story wasn’t true, and by claiming to need to get on the computer when I was using it, Emma saw an e-mail I’d written so my sister, mentioning my suspicions and that one of the therapists suggested Emma might be schizophrenic. Because of the DFACS involvement, Emma had to see some therapists provided by DFACS. She was also seeing a therapist that Phill and I took her to. I found out later, that Emma was allowed to say whatever she wanted to her therapists, and because of patient confidentiality, no one verified her stories. I had no idea what Emma was saying to her therapists, but thought she needed someone to talk to. I should have suspected something because when the therapists would leave the house, not wanting to pry, I would just ask if things went ok. Emma could never look me in the eye after meeting with her therapists. I just assumed she didn’t want to talk and tried to give her some space and privacy. I did not know that Emma was continuing to tell her therapists lies about her mother being abusive.
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Phill and I took away Emma’s cell phone and computer privileges without supervision. Emma was very angry about this, and very angry to return to public school. I was upset over being accused of abuse, I told her she would not be going to college her senior year of high school and could finish high school at the public school before she started college.
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We also insisted that Emma do her homework in the living room or at the dining room table where we could keep an eye on her. Emma began spending a lot of time in her bathroom, claiming that she didn’t have time to drink at school, so she drank so much at home and, as a result, had to use the bathroom a lot. Because we found a friend had provided Emma with a trac phone, I had suspected she was up to something else with all the time in her bathroom, but did not know what. Later, Phill claimed he saw a bruise on Emma’s arm that she claimed I gave her. I believe now that she was working on creating this bruise during all the time she spent in the bathroom. She kept a cord hung on a mirror, and I suspect that is what she used to tighten around her arm to make it look like someone grabbed her.
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During late Feb. or early March of 2011, Phill claimed to the bruise on Emma’s arm. He did not tell me about the bruise until sometime later. I never saw it. He was taking her to school, and she happened to be wearing a t-shirt. Phill claimed that her jacket slipped down, and he saw the bruise she had tried to cover with makeup. This was when we were having some very cold weather, and Emma, who was always cold natured and always wore long sleeves, complained about how cold the school was, and came home from school and put her robe on over her clothes. One day, when Phill was off and driving Emma to school, she just happened to wear a t-shirt and just happened to let her jacket slip so he could see this bruise.
During this time, Emma had also taken an AP psychology course and had learned a lot about sexual and physical abuse, catatonia, etc.
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In March of last year, Emma told her therapist that she wanted to go live in a group home to get away from me. I felt this this would have probably been the best thing for Emma and that if she saw children who had been truly abused, she might have realized how good she had things. Phill was very upset over the thought of Emma leaving our home and wanted me to leave instead. I was never told exactly what I was accused of doing except Phill claimed that Emma said I shoved or pushed her and then “blocked it out” and had no memory of my actions. This was totally absurd. I asked Phill to install hidden cameras in the house so I could prove these things didn’t happen, but he said if I knew the cameras were there, I would not do these things. I argued with him that if Emma did not know cameras were in the house, and she tried to accuse me of abusing her, we would have proof that I didn’t. Phill refused to do this and sent Emma to stay with various neighbors or friends. When I refused to leave our home, and said we needed to work on this as a family, and get help for our family was when he filed a protective order and had me removed from our home. I never abused my daughter. In fact, we stopped spanking Emma when she was about 10 or 11 because spanking her did no good, and she started hitting us back.
Emma told the lie about her friend being raped and claimed it brought up repressed memories of her own “molestation” when she was 12 to: DFACS, the Jackson County Sherriff’s Department, the Gwinnett County police, four attorneys, 7 therapists, two psychiatrists, two psychologists, the staff at Peachford Psychiatric hospital, friends and family, church officials from two different churches, teachers, etc. and Phill doesn’t think Emma has a problem and called this “teenage drama”.
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While Emma does have a very high IQ and can be very charming, I believe she has some serious problems. For years, I was the mother she wanted to cuddle with and talk “girl talk” with. One of Emma’s therapists told us that Emma saw things as “You are either for Emma or against Emma.” with no middle ground. I believe, Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit, and then once she knew I suspected she was not molested, she turned on me with full force. Emma also was abusive to our family dog. She would walk into our lab/mix like he wasn’t there, forcing him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. She told me that she just didn’t like our dog, and that a few years before, she would hit and kick him when I wasn’t around. I thought she did and said these things to upset me, knowing how much I hate to see or hear about animals or children being abused, but once when my sister was visiting and Phill and I weren’t home, my sister saw Emma walk into our dog, to force him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. Even though this dog loved Emma, she would ignore him when she came home and he was happy to see her. She also complained anytime I let him go for a ride with us in the car even though he sat in the back and she sat in the front.
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I was heartbroken and stunned by what Phill and Emma did, and once I got my bearings, I began to investigate many stories Emma had told us. I am enclosing only a few of her stories here, and I have many, many more. Some of you will see yourselves in these stories.
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When Emma rode the bus to school, she told us many stories about some of the girls in the neighborhood that she sat with on the bus. According to Emma, at the beginning of the school year, one young lady in the neighborhood got high and drunk at a party and ended up pregnant. Emma came home after attending a birthday party with a couple of girls in the neighborhood and told me she was so upset because this friend had told her she had an abortion. Emma was crying, almost hysterically, when she told me the story. She stated that the girl’s parents had taken her to have the abortion. She claimed the friend did not tell her until after she had the abortion because she knew Emma would try to talk her out of it. At the end of the school year, Emma stated that this young lady thought she was pregnant again after the prom. Emma also mentioned a 9th grader, who had a 4 yr. old in 2008.
e-mail from a young lady in our neighborhood:
“Whoa, none of us have ever been pregnant, ever. And for that matter, none of us were promiscuous at all. These stories are starting to greatly irritate me because they are such blatant and horrible lies.”
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“(H) was a girl who had a baby when she was 16, back in 2008. So no, the child was not 4 (and still isn’t 4), but that baby does exist. No one had sex or ever smoked on the bus. “
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Emma also claimed that a friend in the neighborhood’s older brother had been arrested for marijuana and was in jail for the 2nd time. I checked with this friend, and this story was not true as well.
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Emma told us, while at JCCHS, that there were about 10 pregnant freshman girls in the school. A neighbor who works at JCCHS told me that there were 2 pregnant girls in the entire school that year.
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While attending JCCHS, Emma told us a story about a neighbor coming out to the school bus and in front of all the kids on the bus, telling the driver that her daughter could not sit with her boyfriend because the parents caught the kids having sex. Here is an excerpt from the neighbor’s e-mail:
“”Hello,
First, (A) was caught sneaking out of the house, but it was to go see the boy. I did not approach the bus driver however about where or with whom (A)sat.
Second, I met Emma one day while I was out walking and asked how she liked Jackson Co. HS. She told me she didn’t like it and had been sick and in the hospital. She said she had all A’s and had been making up the time and doing the work but she was told she was going to be failed anyway. I just remember how odd I thought this was because I volunteered at the HS counseling office once a week and I knew they had credit recovery in addition to knowing that the HS bent over backwards to try to work with students and get them graduated. I remember thinking that something just didn’t seem right and there had to be more to it however, as a volunteer, I did not feel it would have been appropriate for me to inquire into it further.”
(Name removed)
NOTE: Emma was NEVER the hospital that year. –J.R.
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Emma told Phill and I a story about being called over the PA system to the office at JCCHS, along with two other girls who rode the bus with her. She stated that they were checked by a police officer with a drug dog, after a boy in our subdivision reported them, saying they sold drugs on the bus. She went in to great detail about talking to the police officer and telling him that she volunteered with a rescue. She said after the police dog checked her over, the officer turned to the principal the assistant principal and said, “That would be a negative.” Below are e-mails from at JCCHS:
“The drug dogs are allowed in the parking lot, lockers, and inside classrooms with students out of the class. If administration has reason to believe that a student could possibly have drugs on them, the search is conducted by an administrator and usually the School Resource Officer. If females are involved, I am usually the one that completes the search. During the time your daughter was here, I was never involved in a search with her.
I checked Emma’s discipline record during the time she was enrolled at JCCHS-there is no record of any behavior issues. We don’t call students over the PA if they are going to be searched. An Assistant principal or the School Resource Officer goes to the classroom to get them. I hope this helps.
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Emma greatly exaggerated stories of drug use and pregnancy and JCCHS and Jefferson High School. Just after starting at JCCHS, she told us that her friends in the neighborhood talked about drug parties where kids took whatever they could get from their parents medicine cabinets and threw everything into a bowl and then just grabbed pills and took them. I later realized this was a story she read in Reader’s Digest (which we subscribed to) and when I looked up the article, it was the same month Emma had told me that story.
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Relayed to me by our pastor’s wife:
“On December 23, 2010, Emma told me that she had been employed to baby sit for the priest of Mary and Martha Episcopal Church in the Hamilton Mill community. She said that the son of the priest was bi-polar. She said that during the evening the son became so unruly that for her safety she had to lock herself in the bathroom and that she waited there until the parents returned to allow her to come out of the bathroom in a safe situation. It seemed to me that this was a bizarre and improbable story. She further told me that she called the police to come to the pastor’s house to protect her. It bears seeking the collaboration of the parents of the boy in question to be certain that she baby sat for them and that this circumstance truly occurred.
Please let me know if you need more information concerning this discussion with Emma.”
An e-mail from Fr.( B)who is the pastor of our current church:
“P. (name removed) is fighting a stomach virus last night and today that she got at school. She wanted me to add that Emma told her that she had called the police to protect her from the priest’s son during the night described. So, I have added it into this edited version of the e-mail to you. If we can help please let us know.
Fr. (B)
NOTE: Emma NEVER babysat for these children. She took a story that she had heard about the parents having to call 911 on their son, and made the story about herself. Emma disliked these boys immensely and told me many times that she would not babysit them if she had been asked.
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Below is a statement from Emma’s aunt:
“Dec. 19, 2010, I called Emma to wish her a happy birthday. I asked her what she got for her birthday, and she replied, “Not much.” And went on to explain that she and her mother had been shopping a few times in the weeks prior to her birthday, and the clothes they bought were for her birthday presents. When I asked her what kind of cake she was having, she replied that there was no cake and that they were going to have “some sort of fondue” for dinner.
The next day, I questioned my sister about Emma’s birthday, and she told me that Emma’s big present was a Netbook, which Emma was most excited about, and that Emma had received several smaller presents. I thought perhaps she hadn’t opened her presents when I called, but found out she had. When I asked about the clothes, her mother said she hadn’t gotten any clothes for her birthday.
I asked my sister if she’d gotten Emma a cake, and she replied that Emma had the cheesecake she requested, her favorite.”
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Note: Emma claimed I became upset and hit or shoved her on her birthday, and she bruised her toes in the incident. Her dad was home all day on her birthday and knows this did not happen. That afternoon, Emma “accidently” kicked the cabinet in her bathroom and screamed so loudly that her dad and I came running to see what happened. I examined her foot to make sure she was ok. She later had a bruise on this foot, and showed it to DFACS, claiming I gave her the bruise.
Emma later complained to her therapist that her17th birthday wasn’t special enough because her dad was sick and we didn’t take her out. At the same session, she also complained that her 16th birthday wasn’t special either. That year, she wanted clothes, so I took her shopping on three different occasions just before her birthday. In addition to several other gifts, she got over $400 worth of clothes that she picked out herself.
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An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to (X):
I was teaching my mom iris folding, the technique I used on the card I sent you (you should have it now). I love her, but it’s sooo hard to teach her. She has arthritis in her hands and she’s sooo slow. It’s like, I could do this ten times faster and not waste half the material she does, but it’s really important to her to do it herself. And on top of that, she gets really angry when I try to keep her from making mistakes. She wants to do it her way, but she will get really frustrated when hers don’t turn out as nicely as mine do (because she refuses to take my advice, which I give in a very respectful tone that still gets labeled “smart-a**”). It gets me so frustrated, because it’s not even fun for me anymore. What’s worse yet is when she wants to ‘help’ with my projects. But she invariably ruins them! So I mostly try to work when she’s not home.
Note: Emma and I had a lovely afternoon making iris-folded cards. Because my niece and a friend were having babies, we made a couple of baby cards and then a couple of all-occasion cards as well. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and having watched iris folding many times, it is a simple technique, and I had no difficulty making the cards. I have spent many hours teaching Emma beading and wire work (my hobbies). As far as “helping” Emma, she was well past the age where she needed my help with her arts and crafts, so this is a lie about me calling her names, taking over her projects, and “ruining” them. I was just the mother who spent tons of money on crafts for all the things Emma wanted to try like card making, knitting, crochet, beadwork, art, fabric, sewing lessons, ect. I was also the one who drove her to all the classes she wanted to take. Besides arts and crafts and sports, there was also drama, which she was very good at.
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When asked to dog sit for one of our Deer Creek neighbors, Emma went over so that she could be shown what to do, where the food was kept, etc. Emma came home and told me a great story about this lady being drunk when she got there. Emma put on a show, imitating this lady’s supposed drunk actions. It occurred to me later that this lady had asked Emma to come right when she got home from work, so it didn’t seem likely that this she could have been drunk. I have confirmed that this story wasn’t true. Again though, Emma knew I would not call this lady up to ask her if she had been drunk. ***************************************************************************
A friend, K. was going to the Cirque De Soliel and had an extra ticket, so she invited Emma to go. When Emma came home, she said she had a great time, but said something like, “You know how when you go to a movie or something and there’s someone near you that won’t quit talking, that was what K. and her mom were like.” She claimed that people around them kept looking at them , giving them dirty looks, etc. I thought this story was odd at the time, but I wasn’t going to call K. up and ask her. I had been thinking about this story a lot recently, so I asked K. about this story, and she said this story was not ture. She said that it was the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra with Cirque De Soliel, and that if you had been talking, they would ask you to leave. I’m not sure why Emma felt the need to make up a story like this to someone who was being so generous to her. **********************************************************
When the son of some Deer Creek neighbors’ passed away, Emma and I heard another neighbor speak, at the funeral, about a conversation he had with his young son about the death. Emma took that conversation and embellished it in a letter to her on-line friend:
“I was babysitting (C- 5 yrs) and (D– 7 yrs) and when I’d gotten there at 9am, (C) wasn’t awake yet. I went in at about 10 am to check on him. I could tell he wasn’t asleep, even though his eyes were closed. I said, “Come on, (C)! Breakfast time!” His eyes didn’t open and he said, “I’m not getting up,, Miss Em.” “Yes, you are! We’re going down to the lake after breakfast!: And eyes still stubbornly closed he replied, “I’m going to sleep until I wake up with (M-deceased child).
(X), I totally lost it. I just picked him up, held him in my arms, and cried. And then I saw (D) standing in the doorway. He came over and sat on the bed , put his little arm around me, and kept saying, “It’s ok, Miss Em, he didn’t mean it. …..”
Note, at this time, Emma had never even babysat the children she mentioned in the letter.
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I am enclosing a copy of my attorney’s letter once we started investigating some of the lies Emma has told. I thought when Phill found out Emma’s friend was never raped, he would see that she has a problem with telling the truth, but Phill told me this was just “teenage drama.” Emma has told lie after lie after lie, but Phill believes she was molested, and that her mother “abused” her. I believe Phill does not want to believe the truth about his own daughter, so getting rid of his wife was a way not to face his daughter’s problems.
Re: Roey v. Phillip Thomas Roey
Superior Court of Jackson County
Civil Action File No. M11CV0547
Dear ________:
As you know per our recent conversations, my client is insistent that the allegations made against her by her daughter are fabricated and completely baseless. She is extremely upset at what these allegations have done to her family and how they have destroyed her reputation. She is especially concerned with the mental health of her daughter and implores your client to seek the appropriate help for her.
At my client’s request, I am enclosing material obtained and prepared by my client evidencing serious issues with Emma Roey’s accusations and general truthfulness. You will see from the statements and documentation that Emma has serious issues with making up stories and does not seem to care who she hurts. For example, she has alleged a drug-sniffing dog came to her school, and she was called over the PA system to the office to be searched for drugs. Per the school official, it never happened. These types of allegations could have caused school officials and other children on the bus serious issues. She alleged that another child was so dangerous as to cause her to have to lock herself in a closet. She never babysat the child in question. This allegation seriously damages the reputation of a child.
Perhaps the most important discovery was her allegations that supposedly started the entire “memory” of her alleged molestation by a church official. She stated to her parents and counselors that she spoke with her friend Laura on her birthday, December 19, 2009. She alleged first that (X) was raped and in the hospital. She later alleged that (X) was in the hospital for attempted suicide after recalling a rape incident. We have contacted the (X)’s father. None of this ever happened. We are in the process of obtaining an affidavit from the Father (and X if necessary) stating that (X) was never in the hospital (his words were that she was not even BORN in a hospital), was never raped, never attempted suicide, etc., and she never told Emma anything of the sort happened. He states that he and his daughter have gone back through emails and other communication with Emma at the time and there was no mention of (X) in this condition in these communications.
It is extremely telling that the incident that supposedly led to Emma’s recollection of the sexual abuse NEVER HAPPENED. If the alleged triggering event never took place, it only stands to reason that the event that was allegedly triggered (sexual abuse) never happened. It is also curious that within one week of being informed that this sexual abuse case was to be filed, she alleges that my client physically abused her. The more reasonable explanation may be that Emma was scared that the real truth (that nothing happened) was about to come out, that someone might talk to (X), and that someone might start investigating her other “stories”. She then creates a fantastic tale of abuse about her mother to get the heat off of her. It is interesting that the sexual abuse case apparently has not been filed and it appears that, even after aggressively pursuing the action against the clergyman, neither Emma nor her father is pushing the case forward. It appears that she is now happy that the new story has covered the old one.
Emma Roey has presented her baseless allegations and one-sided information to your client and her counselors, and it appears that no one has made any attempt to look into the truthfulness of the allegations. My client does not believe that the counselors can adequately treat Emma without honest information. While I am not a psychologist, I think it would be relevant for the counselors to have information that might cause them to treat what may be a personality disorder rather than issues resulted from alleged abuse (physical and sexual). In order for my client to help with her own counseling, she has provided this information to her own counselor and it is my understanding that the counselor was concerned for Emma. It is my further understanding that the counselor is going to either forward the information to, or discuss the information with, the counselor for Emma.
If the allegations against my client and the minister (sexual allegations) are untrue, it would appear that Emma is willing to go to great lengths for attention and is willing to destroy anyone and anything. Your client may want to recall that he was the object of her accusations a couple of years ago (alleging that he called her vile names on a regular basis) and my client defended him, seeking treatment for the child. Emma needs help before she destroys herself and/or someone else. My client implores your client to review this information with an open mind and, if he will, work together with my client to both help the child and help this family. I am sure that if he both looks at this information and reviews other incidents using common sense, and not the protectiveness that all of us parents have concerning our children, he will come to the correct conclusion and want to help his daughter.
Please call me with any questions or if I can be of assistance. Both my client and I want to see Emma get help and for the family to begin healing.
Yours very truly,
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In 2012, Emma filed a false report with the police. I don’t know exactly when the report was made, but I am guessing that it was the night I was at my women’s small group, down the street from our home. Emma was a part of the group for 6 years, so she knows the schedule of when we meet. I would guess that she probably checked to see if my car was there. Emma does not have a protective order against me. That expired in April of 2011 after Phill took out the protective order against me. Also, I have witnesses who went with me and left with me. My attorney does not even want me to go to my own home to collect my belongings because he fears for my own safety or that Phill or Emma will claim something else that didn’t happen. I can assure you, I’m not going anywhere near Emma. She has worked at the Mall of Ga. Chik-fil-a for months, and I won’t even go to the mall without a witness. She’s my daughter, and I love her, but she has some serious problems. I believe she is mentally ill. After discussing our family with therapists, counselors, and social workers, I am afraid that Phill and I did not see a lot of warning signs we should have picked up on over the years. This is a child who snow-balled one story into another. She would rather destroy her own family than admit to her lies. I am very concerned for Emma’s future, and for what she may do to those around her.
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As I stated earlier, this letter contains only a few of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I have many more, and you can contact me if you are interested in reading further. My attorney has a record of all the original e-mails and confirmations of witnesses who verified that Emma told them things that were untrue. He has spoken to many of these people himself. I’m sure what we have is just part of a collection, and that there is much more that hasn’t even been uncovered. If you have any questions or comments about anything Emma may have said, please feel free to contact me. Now that the divorce is final, I will be taking this story public. I will also be keeping a blog and posting the entire story here:
https://losingemma.wordpress.com
Addendum:
On Aug. 13, 2012, I had dinner with some friends in my old Deer Creek neighborhood, down the street from my former home. I was there from about 6-9pm, and after I left, Phill, who was somewhere up north, on the road for UPS, called my old neighbors to ask if I was moving in with them. They had no idea what he was talking about. He told them that Emma had seen my car at their house and was afraid to be home alone. I’m not sure why a 3 hour visit warranted a call to see if I was moving in with my old neighbors. I have not seen Emma for 1 year and 5 months. I don’t believe Emma is afraid of me. I believe Emma is afraid to face me.







