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Emma Ready for Marriage?
April 15, 2013
Thanks to those of you for the e-mails of encouragement that I have received, and for your concern because I haven’t posted in a while. I had a few weeks of internet problems and then I was out of the country for 3 weeks, so I am back, ready to get to work and finish writing the story of Emma. And to those of you who asked how I am doing, I am doing well, thanks. Yes, I was devastated for quite some time over what Emma did. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck I never saw coming, but what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I’m getting stronger everyday. I am fortunate enough to have work that I like and know I make a difference. I work with some great people. Amazingly enough, I have a pretty great life. God is good. That doesn’t mean I still don’t have some bad days. Talk to someone who was falsely accused, and it’s something you never completely get over, but you get back on your feet, take charge, and go on.
What can you say about a child whom the Dr. Phil show would like to have on as a guest? I recently received calls from two of the assistants from the show. Anyone that knows me knows I am a fairly private person, so tv is not my cup of tea, but I think Emma would love the attention except for the fact that she would be too afraid of someone would get to the truth.
Later, I will be posting some of Emma’s writings on her need for control. Emma got control, but at what cost? Cost doesn’t matter as long as she got what she wanted. She destroyed her parents marriage and her lies cost her dad a ton of money. In addition to wrecking two cars that her dad got her, the attorneys fees were huge, her dad lost half his IRA, 401K, and his pension. He also had to refinance our home which, at the time, was almost paid for.
Sometimes, thinking along the lines of cartoon superheroes, I wonder what Emma could have accomplished if she had used her powers for good instead of evil. Look at how much she’s accomplished. Yes, she did some horrible things, in fact, quite a few horrible things. Imagine what Emma could have done if she put all that energy into doing something good instead of destroying the reputation of a priest and of her own mother. Does Emma have a conscience? Is she a pathological liar? Another form of mental illness? I will be sharing the story and you can make the decision for yourself.
(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man named T. . Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for T’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )
I have been very busy and have not had a lot of time to work on the blog. Thank you to those of you who have written, asking how I am. I will continue to tell the story of Emma. It may just take me a while to get it all down.
As you can see from some of Emma’s posts to Pinterest, she definitely has marriage on her mind. I find this interesting after her lies so greatly contributed to destroying her own parents’ marriage. Emma had no respect for her own parents’ marriage, so it will be interesting to see what happens in her own. I can’t tell you how many people have told me Emma will find out the hard way when what goes around comes around. Several people have also me they believe in karma, and that Emma is setting herself up for a fall. Personally, I feel like starting out a marriage on as many lies as Emma has under her belt is a disaster waiting to happen.
I did receive a not from T’s mom, S. of xxx, who said Emma and T. are not engaged, so I really wonder why Emma is telling people she is. Perhaps she is, perhaps she isn’t. Either way, she’s got marriage on her mind.

Chapter 1 The Big Lie That Started it All
(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man named T. Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for T.’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )
Why would a child make up a story about rape? Let me give you some details of what was going on with Emma in Dec. of 2010, when Emma made up the rape story about on on-line friend she had never met in person. Could all this have been over a boy? Read on and see what you think.
On Emma’s 16th birthday, her dad and I went to pick her up at her church youth group. Upon entering the parish hall, Emma ran up to me to tell me that her on-line friend from an English class pen-pal project had called her during her youth group meeting. Emma claimed that the friend, whom I will call “Lacey”, called Emma from the hospital after being raped. Emma was so shocked and shaken up, I really believed something had happened, but the whole thing seemed so bizarre. Emma went off with her friends, and I talked to one of the youth group leaders for a few moments, sharing with her what Emma had told me. One of the youth leaders had gotten a cake for Emma’s birthday, so everyone had cake and ice cream at the end of the meeting. Later, when we got in the van to leave, Emma was very angry with me for talking to the youth group leader about what she told me.
Over the next few days, Emma claimed she tried to call Lacey several times, but couldn’t reach her. She said she spoke to her older sister. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that Lacey had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said Lacey’s extended family had been over for a family gathering, when Lacey had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed, was found unresponsive by a family member, and then taken to the hospital. I did not know Lacey or her family, so I was not going to call them about such a personal matter. This turned out to be a big mistake. Later on, Emma said that Lacey told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was so Lacey was afraid to talk about what happened. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how Lacey was doing . Emma said that Lacey was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that Lacey also had been molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that Lacey’s mother had breast cancer. She said Lacey had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me that Lacey had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that Lacey’s mom was in the hospital and was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive. Later, I was to find out that about the only truth to all the things Emma said was that Lacey’s mom did have breast cancer, but she was never hospitalized and never close to dying. She did outpatient Chemo and was never on death’s door as Emma led us to believe.
What would make Emma create such a bizarre story about her friend? Was it so she could get upset at youth group, feign concern about an emergency phone call, and let all her friends know how upset she was?
Over the summer and fall, Emma had been spending a lot of time around a young man in the youth group. The two of them seemed to like each other, and it was all very sweet, but after a while the young man pulled away from Emma. While it is my goal to get to the truth, it is not my wish to embarrass Emma as to why the boy lost interest in her, but Emma was still very interested in this young man. She talked about him frequently, had told me that he said he loved her, and said that when his dad was visiting from Va., the boy wanted Emma to meet him. I thought that seemed like a stretch considering the two had never even been on a date, but I just let it go.
I’ve spoken to a psychologist, a couple of social workers who work with problem children, and a Ph.D. counselor who told me that teenage girls often get so engrossed in young love, thinking that their love interest is “the one” whom they will spend the rest of their lives with, that these young girls don’t take it well when they are rejected. Is that what happened with Emma? She didn’t get the boy she wanted, so she made up all this drama? Did she just want attention, or was she hoping all the drama would get this boy’s attention? Kids lie all the time. We all know that, but wasn’t this a bit extreme? All this over a boy?
More Lies
Because I am doing this blog sort of piece-meal, I will preface each entry with a synopsis for new readers who may not know Emma’s story. Eventually, I will re-do the blog, and put the entire story in order.
PREFACE: At the age of 16, Emma Roey (Emma Kate Roey) made up a lie about a friend being raped, and then claimed that her friend’s rape brought up repressed memories of being molested by a priest at the age of 12. Emma told these stories to: DFACS, the Jackson County Sheriff’s Department, the Gwinnett County police, four attorneys, 7 therapists, two psychiatrists, two psychologists, the staff at Peachford Psychiatric hospital, friends and family, church officials from two different churches, teachers, her high school counselor, etc. Emma’s attorney had just contacted us and was about to file a lawsuit on her behalf against the church and the priest, and Emma knew she was about to be caught in a very big lie, so she accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit.
A couple days after Emma’s 17th birthday, she had someone call DFACS to say that she was physically abused by her mother. The police came to our home, and then DFACS came to our home and wanted us to provide a place for Emma to go. (I was later told the do this so as not to incur any cost for taking in a child.)
DFACS did not tell me that I was the one being accused of abusing my child, only that she needed to leave the home. During all this, I was on and off the phone with our pastor, Fr. George Ivey, and my friend, Janice. Fr. George suggested that maybe someone from our old church had called DFACS as retaliation for the lawsuit we were filing against the church. I mentioned this to Emma, and she kept bringing up the name of a woman for whom she had babysat for. I thought this odd because this woman had been very supportive to us. I talked to Emma a couple of times on the phone after she left out home, and she continued to bring up that she thought this woman might have called DFACS. of course, at the time, I had no idea that this was all Emma’s doing.
Emma kept requesting to go to my friend, Sandra Brooks McCravy’s home, but for some reason I did not feel comfortable with this idea. Sandra had been one of my closest friends for the past seven years, and Emma had a crush on her son, Johnathan. I was not aware that there was an inappropriate relationship going on between Emma and Sandra, and the two were on the phone late at night, when Phill and I thought Emma was asleep. (I will publish the phone records later.)
At 3 am, our pastor, Fr. George(Holy Trinity Anglican Church) and his wife, Paulette, came over and got Emma and took her to their home. Because they were going out of town, we had to make arrangements for Emma to go somewhere else, and my friend Janice agreed to take Emma. (I have mentioned Janice in an earlier post, and you can read her comments on Emma’s stay with her in that post.)
We had known Janice for about 7 years, and for the past few years always did Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners with Janice, as well as occasional cook outs for Memorial Day, July 4th, or Labor Day. Emma and I saw Janice almost every Saturday where we volunteered with a dog/cat rescue. Emma loved Janice and called her “Aunt Janice.” When Janice called, Emma would check the caller id, and grab the phone before I could, and frequently ended up talking to Janice longer than I did. At the end of their phone conversations, Emma always said, “I love you.” to Janice. Janice proofread Emma’s English papers, and even talked to a friend of hers who was a judge in juvenile court, on Emma’s behalf, when we believed Emma had been molested. We had been to Janice’s home many times. Janice lived in a highly Hispanic neighborhood, and Emma did not like the neighborhood.
While at Janice’s, Emma lied to Janice over and over again. Although Phill had asked Sandra Brooks McCravy not to contact Emma until her got her home, and we asked Emma not to talk to Sandra, they both lied to us and violated our wishes. Sandra Brooks McCravy even went to far as to slip Emma a tracphone and hid it in a Christmas gift that she dropped off at the home of Fr. George.
Below are some facebook e-mails that Emma sent to Sandra during the time Emma spent at Janice’s home:
Emma’s FB posts to Sandi
Dec. 24, 4:25 pm
Hey. I am doing okay. I have a house phone in my room and will call you late tonight. I changed my facebook password so they won’t be able to see my messages. I have called Suzie (Suzie McGarvey, Lanier Counseling, Emma’s therapist.) but haven’t heard back yet. Apparently the DFACS worker was here for less than three minutes. What a joke. I hope Fr. George comes back early!! This is just so crazy. And as horrible as it has been, I still miss my family. I hope Suzie can make my dad see reason and I can go to you on Monday. Please, God. I am figuring out how many chocolates, how much popcorn, etc I can eat per day. This definitely qualifies as Worst Christmas of my Life So Far. Hopefully Worst Christmas Ever. My parents DID bring me some clothes. Guess what they brought me? Shorts. My summer shorts. Just exactly what I want to wear on this 42 degree day. I just hope this is over soon.
NOTE: I had packed up some clothes for Phill to take to Emma while she was at Janice’s. As most of you know, teenagers are not the neatest creatures, and there was no order as to how Emma put her clothes away. I took some jeans out of a drawer and did not notice that one pair was a pair of capris. There were no shorts in her bag of clothes, but there was one pair of capris, because folded up, they looked pretty much like the rest of her jeans.
Dec. 24 2010 6:04pm
Have fun at the family’s house. I haven’t heard from Suzie today. I hope will soon, but I don’t know. I am typing this on my phone so I can’t really format or edit it, sorry you have to wade through my stream of consciousness. Oh this is just so scary. My biggest hope is for this week to pass quickly. Thanks for your prayers. We need them. I miss you guys soooooooo much. I wish I could spend Christmas with you, but I know that’s not going to happen. I talked to my friend Rob’s family. They will be home Monday and I hope that if I can’t come to you, I can go to them. We’ll see. But ohmigoodness I just hate this. I know I am loved but I am so far away from the people I’m close to, and it’s so horrible to feel alone. I am really scared in this neighborhood. They are making lots of noise and I don’t know what they’re doing. It’s so loud. I may have to take sleeping meds tonight, I think, if I’m going to get any sleep. I don’t think I’ve slept ten hours in the past two nights. I’m too nervous. Oh I miss you so much. I miss my parents. I just wish I could be with somebody. Suzie my not call me till Monday. I am making a cross stitch but it’s scaring me. It’s birds. It is just not looking good. Oh well. I might try something simpler, this has so many colors. I want to make you one for Christmas. Maybe I will even design my own. At least it keeps me occupied. If I stuffed them with potpurie (oh that is spelled so wrong) they would smell good but would it last? I don’t know. I love you. I really hope I can see you Monday.
Dec. 24, 2010, 7:22
Ohmmigoodness. They are shooting. I hear them. I have no clue what they are shooting but it is LOUD. I can hear it
Note: Emma claimed to not be sleeping, but she was actually up at night, and Janice told us sleeping a lot during the day. She did ask Janice for some sleeping pills, but Janice would not have given them to her, even if she had any. As for the “shooting” that frightened Emma so badly, Janice’s Mexican neighbors shoot off fireworks on every major holiday. Emma knew this, as she had been at Janice’s many times on holidays, and had heard the fireworks there when we visited on other holidays. DFACS had checked into the neighborhood before Emma went, and found it to be a safe area. Fr. George Ivey and Paulette drove Emma over to Janice’s and later told me, from the way Emma described it, they thought they were going into a bad area and were surprised to see what a nice neighborhood it was.
A List of Lies
(UPDATED 10/31/12–New material at end of post.)
Emma Roey (Emma Katherine Roey, Emma Kate Roey) made up a story about a friend being raped, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the church, Emma accused her mother of physically abusing her to stop the lawsuit because she knew the attorneys would be investigating her rape story since that was the supposed catalyst for remembering that she was molested when she was 12 years old. After this last accusation, I began researching stories Emma had previously told us. Below are some of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I will be adding more as well as some stories that I have not bothered to verify either because I don’t want to disturb the people that are involved or because I believe I have enough documentation to show that Emma is quite accomplished in making up stories.
Emma met when L. when she was in Georgia Virtual School, her 2nd semester of 9th grade in 2009. They had an on-line English class together and were assigned as pen pals for an English project. The two girls became friends writing letters, e-mailing, texting, and Facebook. As far as I know, the two girls have never met in person.
On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Emma was at her church youth group meeting. When Phill and I went to pick her up, Emma immediately told us that her friend L. had called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped. Emma was very upset and said L. was crying hysterically and difficult to understand. Before we left, I was talking to one of the youth group leaders, and told her what Emma had said. Emma got very upset with me for telling the youth leader what she had told us about L.
Over the next few days, Emma said she tried to call L. several times, but couldn’t reach her, so she called her sister, E. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that L. had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said L.’s extended family had been over for a family gathering, when L. had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed, and was later found unresponsive by a family member. She was taken to the hospital. I did not know L. or her family, so I did not call the family. Later on, Emma said that L. told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how L. was doing . Emma said that L. was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that L. was molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that L.’s mother had breast cancer. She said L. had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me, at least twice, that L. had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that L.’s mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive.
On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested at our church when she was 12 years old. According to Emma, L.’s phone call from the hospital, telling her she was raped, was the catalyst for her coming forward about her molestation by the priest at our former church.
My attorney, verified with L.’s father, that L. was never in the hospital, never raped, never molested, never volunteered counseling other children who were victims of molestation.
An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to L.:
I was teaching my mom iris folding, the technique I used on the card I sent you (you should have it now). I love her, but it’s sooo hard to teach her. She has arthritis in her hands and she’s sooo slow. It’s like, I could do this ten times faster and not waste half the material she does, but it’s really important to her to do it herself. And on top of that, she gets really angry when I try to keep her from making mistakes. She wants to do it her way, but she will get really frustrated when hers don’t turn out as nicely as mine do (because she refuses to take my advice, which I give in a very respectful tone that still gets labeled “smart-a**”). It gets me so frustrated, because it’s not even fun for me anymore. What’s worse yet is when she wants to ‘help’ with my projects. But she invariably ruins them! So I mostly try to work when she’s not home.
Note: Emma and I spent a lovely afternoon making iris folded cards. We knew a couple of people who were going to be having babies, so we made cards for them, and then made some generic cards. I’d never made one before, but knew the basics of iris folding, having read about it and having watched Emma make them. It is a very easy technique. My cards came out very nicely. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and I have no idea what projects Emma is accusing me of wanting to help with and then ruining for her. I’ve have spent countless hours teaching Emma beading techniques, or beading with her while we watch a movie, as that is my hobby, and I never ruined any of her projects.
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Emma’s Psychological Evaluation, Part 4
Summary and Recommendations: The purpose of the current evaluation is to determine psychological/emotional factors involved in Emma’s recent problems determine a diagnosis, and make recommendations regarding her treatment. A review of Emma’s family history is negative for the presence of any reported severe psychiatric diagnoses such as major depression, anxiety disorders or thought disorder. Her extended family appears somewhat unusual in terms of relatively low cohesion and emotional support and what is described as being long standing emotional distance and/or conflict. A review of Emma’s relationships with her parents suggests possible longstanding conflict between herself and her mother and a generally positive though somewhat physically distant relationship with her father. Emma appears to experience a low degree of emotional support from extended family.
Note: Looking back now, although it is difficult and painful to read this paragraph, it is also interesting because of Emma’s description of “longstanding conflict between herself and her mother.” So much of the time, I was Emma’s best friend. We could argue over little things, like getting her to do her chores, pick up after herself, etc. but as I mentioned earlier, I was always the one she wanted to cuddle up and talk with. The worst stress in our relationship came after Emma accused me of “physically abusing her.” I did not take being accused of a crime well, and Emma seemed to enjoy the power it gave her. I was so hurt by what she did, I spent a lot of time crying, and a lot of time angry. Emma seemed to enjoy going back and forth sometimes telling me she knew I didn’t do what she said, and she didn’t know why she said those things, and then when she was angry at me, she would say, “I just don’t remember what happened.”
Emma’s health history is significant for the problem of cyclic vomiting syndrome. This medical condition appears to have significantly impacted her ability to attend school on a regular basis and perhaps also her socialization in general. She also describes having severe headaches. The possibility that Emma’s recent problems may be related to a seizure disorder cannot be totally ruled out based on the current testing. No medical records were available to review at the time of this evaluation.
Obviously, Emma’s allegation of sexual molestation by her priest is a very significant part of her history. During the current evaluation Emma did describe to the examiner in a fairly detailed way the events surrounded the molestation and the actual molestation itself.
(Note: I believe Emma got her details from her reading and the internet. Emma frequently read depressing teenage stories, and would tell me about them. I thought it was just a teenage phase at the time, to read all these depressing teenage tales.)
The results of the current cognitive testing indicate that Emma enjoys very strong intellectual capabilities within the very superior range. Her intellectual capabilities suggest that she could pursue college level and graduate level education without apparent difficulty. Emma’s verbal comprehension skills are better developed than her nonverbal reasoning abilities. Her nonverbal reasoning abilities and her working memory abilities are comparable. Emma’s abilities to process visual information quickly are less well developed than her other abilities. A relative strength in verbal comprehension skills may make it easier for Emma to apply these skills in problem-solving tasks which are primarily language-based. A relative weakness in her abilities to process visual information quickly, however may make it more difficult for her to process more complex information. Overall,, her performance across these domains is somewhat scattered and suggests variability in her abilities.
There were indications during her cognitive testing that her ability to concentrate may be a relative weakness for her. This may be related to emotional factors. Her cognitive testing did not suggest the presence of any learning disability. Her basic academic skills may be somewhat below what her expectancy is but at the same time her skills are above the norm for her age group. A review of Emma’s current psychological and Emotional testing suggests that she is a young woman who is rather defended and perhaps somewhat guarded in her acknowledgement of problems. The psychological testing results are remarkable for the relative absence of and denial of virtually any and all emotional distress. Emma may be an individual who is prone to avoid and deny the existence of problems. Although Emma’s somewhat defensive response to style makes it more challenging to interpret her testing, it can be said that none of her testing protocol suggest the presence of any disordered thinking, bizarre ideation or delusional thoughts.
Emma appears to be somewhat social isolated yet at the same time appears to be an individual who desires to please and win the approval of others. She has been raised in a church environment and appears to have a very strong sense of right and wrong and a Christian faith. She expresses interest in pursuing medical missionary work and aspires to help others.
NOTE: I don’t even know where to begin on Emma’s Christian faith. Of course, that is between her and God, but having been her closest friend and confidant, she knows I know the truth about her accusations against the priest, against me, her lies pretty much causing her parents’ divorce, etc. I’ve often wondered how she sits in church or prays to God and keeps up the act.
In summary, Emma is a young woman who is gifted with very strong intellectual capabilities as well as artistic talents. She is an individual who appears to care about others and who desires to please and gain the approval of others. Her current emotional testing suggests that she is rather well guarded and defended in acknowledging problems. As a result it is more difficult to determine a mental health diagnosis. Nevertheless all of her testing does not indicate the presence of features that this examiner would consider suggestive of schizophrenia or an underlying thought disorder. The testing does suggest an individual who is prone to intellectualization of her problems, avoidance, and denial. She may lack insight and awareness of her emotions. She may lack effective emotional coping and self care skills. She appears to be an individual who may have a higher than normal degree of felt need to remain in control. Based upon this examiner’s consultations with trauma specialists, these features are not uncommon among individuals who have been victims of physical or sexual trauma.
Emma appeared to exhibit mood congruent thought throughout the evaluation and presented in a credible manner during all the interviewing. She is a bright, engaging young woman with some obvious positive characteristics and features.
In regards to Emma’s recent episodes, it is this examiner’s opinion that these episodes likely represent a dissociative process triggered by intense emotional conflict and stress. In the clinical literature there are experience referred to as dissociative trance and pseudoseizure disorder that appear consistent with Emma’s episodes. These experiences differ from dissociative identity disorder in that there is not the presence of two or more distinct personality states. These conditions are sometimes comorbid with a seizure disorder diagnosis as well as anxiety or depression and are not infrequently misdiagnosed as schizophrenia. In Emma’s case, these dissociative experiences appear to be acute, and in response to sever stressors. Hopefully, with continued treatment there will be a decline and eventual remittance of these symptoms. It is the impression of this examiner that EEG studies have been performed with Emma to rule out a seizure disorder.
The following recommendations are offered regarding Emma:
- It is strongly recommended that Emma continue in her individual therapy. There are indications that she may lack emotional awareness and insight. She is also a ver bright individual who may find it very easy to intellectualize her emotions. She also appears to be an individual who may have a higher than normal degree of need for control. She may strive harder than most to please and win approval of others. These features are not uncommon among the population of sexual trauma survivors.
- Emma appears to be minimizing the presence of emotional distress, yet acknowledeges on at least one survey the presence of episodic suicidal ideation. The anecdotal information availiable regarding the proposed diagnosis would tend to suggest consideration of either antidepressant or anticonvulsant medication.
- 3. The DFACS investigation into Emma’s allegations is reportedly ongoing. There may be a pending evaluation of her mother. Observations made during the current evaluation suggested that Emma presented in a consistent and credible manner. This is not to say that this is assuming that she is totally accurate in her reports of what has happened with her mother. Obviously there is a great deal of emotional stress within this family at the present time and hopefully in time there will be family therapy that will help to heal the relationships. The goal of the current evaluation was to determine diagnoses and make treatment suggestions, and not to determine validity of any reports of abuse.
DSM-IV Diagnosis
AXIS I: 300.15 Dissociative Disorder NOS (Acute)
AXIS II: V71.09 No Diagnosis
AXIS III: Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome
AXIS IV: Severe-social
AXIS V: Current GAF 55
Richard R. Born, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist
Emma’s Psychological Evaluation Part 3
The Bender Motor Gestalt Test
(Skipping the description about the test)…Emma completed the Bender drawings in 2 minutes and 33 seconds without scoreable [sic] error. her figures were drawn in a somewhat disorganized fashion on the page. There were no perceptual motor difficulties noted however.
The Trail Making Test, Part A and Part B (Skip) Within normal limits.
The MMPI-A (skipping description) A review of her responses indicates that Emma was able to respond appropriately. A review of validity scale configurations suggests that Emma responded in a mildly defensive manner to the items. This does not invalidate the test by any means but does suggest that she may have minimized problems. It is also noteworthy to mention that individuals with very high intellectual capability may be somewhat more prone to produce elevated defensiveness indicators. A review of her clinical profile showed that all 10 scales were within normal limits. A review of the supplementary scales showed near significant elevation on the McAndrews scale with all other scales being below the norm. Similarly, her PSY-5 scales were all elevated below a T-score of 50. Not surprisingly, all of the subscale scores were also generally within the norm. Her highest elevations on the subscales were on the denial of social anxiety scale, the need for affection scale, and the social imperturbability scale. All of these sub scales were elevated at a T-score of 60 or higher. A review of her responses on some of the critical items on the MMPI-A indicated episodic thoughts of killing oneself, acknowledgement of being physically beaten, a feeling of not being able to count on one’s family for help and a perception that one deserves severe punishment for sins.
NOTE: I find it interesting that Emma felt she could not count on her family. When she spoke to one of the DFACS therapists, whom Phill and I met with several times privately, she described her family as “very supportive.” We were always a very close, touchy-hugging kind of family. I won’t get into Emma’s feelings that one deserves severe punishment for sins at this time. I don’t even know what to say about that one right now.
The DSM-IV Problem Checklist (skip description of test) …Emma did not endorse any of the items with the exception of a minimal endorsement of an item concerning difficulty sleeping and an item regarding using food to comfort oneself.
Due to the nature of Emma’s recent occurrences the decision was made to have her complete the Adolescent Dissociative Experiences Scale – II. This scale is a patient self report survey that collects information regarding the presence of various symptioms and experiences that are often associated with dissociation. Emma’s responses on the A-DES were remarkable for the very low rating on all of the items. She mildly endorsed a symptom involving becoming so wrapped up in a TV show or video game that she loses awareness of what is going on around her. Her ratings on all of the other 29 items on the scale were 0. Emma’s responses on the A-DES clearly indicate that she is reporting virtually no experiences or symptoms that are commonly associated with having dissociative problems.
NOTE: It it interesting to note here that about the only thing Emma watched on television at this time was Criminal Minds, one or more episodes daily.
In order to collect further subjective information regarding her perceptions and feelings, Emma was asked to respond to the Adolescent Sentence Completeion Test. A review of her responses generally indicates a high degree of achievement motivation and a strong sense of wanting to remain in control. She indicates particular difficulty in dealing with fear. She indicates a desire to have her family more “normal.” She also indicates that her pride may be a potential fault of hers. There is nothing in her responses that suggests disordered thinking delusional thinking or bizarre themes.
Note: Control.
Emma’s Psychological Evaluation, Part 2
(Updated Sept. 16, 2012)
Background Information: Emma is the only child born of her parents. Her father works as an over-the-road tractor-trailer driver for UPS and her mother is a stay-at-home mother and is also involved with an arts program and a hybrid school program. A review of ther mother’s family history indicates that she is one of 3 daughters born of her parents and she has spent most of her life residing in the Northeast Georgia area. The mother’s family history does not appear to indicate significant mental health problems. Emma’s paternal grandfather was described as hiving an alcohol problem. Family relationships are generally described as being either emotionally distant or tense. Emma reports that she has not seen one of her aunts for many years. Emma’s maternal grandmother is in a nursing home in Monroe, Ga. Emma reports that she has met her maternal grandmother for the first time just last summer. A review of Emma’s father’s family is negative for the presence of significant mental health problems. There is some report of alcohol related problems. Her father is one of two children in the family. The relationship between Emma’s father and his brother is described as being rather tense and distant. Emma’s paternal grandmother resides in New Jersey and Emma reports that she last saw paternal grandmother w\she she was 3 years old. Emma describes her relationship with her mother as being “not good,” stating that her mother was harsh and angry. Emma reported that she felt somewhat frightened of her mother for several years. Emma describes her relationship with her father as “normal” but somewhat estranged due to the fact that he is gone so much at work.
NOTE: What is interesting about Emma being “frightened” of her mother and our relationship being “not good” is that up until Phill had me thrown out of our home, Emma came in my bedroom almost every night to cuddle up and talk or watch tv. It was my usual routine to read or watch a few minutes of television before I went to bed, and Emma frequently came in and wanted to talk or just sit with me. Often, I would mute the televisoin or put down my book because Emma wanted my attention. Emma would get under the covers and snuggle up to me or hold my hand. If we were watching tv, she would usually lean up against me and want me to put my arm around her. This wasn’t an occasional thing, it was almost every night. Often, if it wasn’t a school night and Phill was at work, Emma wanted to sleep in my bed. Emma would complain because I got up early, but usually she would get up and go to her room and go back to sleep when I got up in the morning.
Emma Katherine Roey
Emma Kate Roey
Information regarding Emma’s health history was collected from Emma and her mother. Her mother reports that Emma enjoyed normal early childhood development but at age 6 began having problems with nausea and vomiting. Initially this was thought to be due to various viruses or immune system problems but eventually was diagnosed as being cyclic vomiting syndrome when Emma was 12 years old. Emma continues to undergo medication therapy to help manage this syndrome. she continues to have episodes of sever vomiting. She missed a couple of weeks of school during her 9th grade year as a result and subsequently finished her 10th grade at home using on-line educational resources. Emma also reports having a history of migraine headaches that started when she was 12 years old. she reports that these headaches occur approximately 3-4 times per year.
NOTE: There are several mistakes in this paragraph, but they are relatively minor. Emma missed a couple of months, not weeks in 9th grade, and we withdrew her from school to finish up 9th grade at home. This just shows that Dr. Richard Born did not listen very well.
Emma denies any history of depression, anxiety or other psychiatric condition or treatment. She denies any history of alcohol use with the exception of drinking wine during communion services. She denies any history of drug abuse. She denies any tobacco use. She denies being sexually active. She reports that she has never really dated.
Information regarding Emma’s educational history indicates that she attended First Methodist Preschool in Winder and then attended George Walton Academy from kindergarten through the 3rd grade. Her family apparently was not happy with her academic progress at George Walton and a decision was made for her to be home-schooled beginning in grade 4. She then was enrolled in Jefferson City Academy for her 9th grade year but then the decision was made for her to do her 10th grade academic work on-line at home due to the vomiting problem. The available information indicates that Emma is a very strong student, obtaining mostly As in all of her work.
Note: I’m not sure where Dr. Richard Born got the idea that we were “not happy with her academic progress” at George Walton Academy, or if that was something Emma said, but we were fine with George Walton. We decided to try home schooling because of the long drive to the school, the expense, and because we had friends that homeschooled and we had looked into it and thought it might work for Emma. Because of the long drive to school, Emma wasn’t able to participate in other activities, and her school friends were such a long distance away, so we thought homeschooling would give her more time and would allow her to make some friends closer to home.
When interviewed regarding other interests and activities, Emma reports that she enjoys music and has been involved in some sort of music instruction since she was in preschool. She has studied piano with 5 different piano teachers and at the present time she is interim pianist at St. Mary and St. Martha’s in Hoschton. She reports that she also enjoys reading and making jewelry. She is currenntly enrolled in honor’s physics, Spanish II, AP History, and art composition courses. Emma reports that after graduating high school she hopes to go on to college and is considering programs at Penn State and the University of Evansville in Indianna. She reports that she thinks about performing medical missionary work in Haiti.
Note: Emma did not start taking piano until she was 6 and had 3 teachers, not 5. We quit piano for several years, (I believe grades 5-9) because it was very difficult to get Emma to practice. Emma started taking lessons again, I believe around the summer before she started 10th grade.) When interviewed by Dr. Richard Born, Emma was taking Physics for the second time after withdrawing because she was failing the class in 10th grade. It is interesting to note that Emma told her first Physics teacher that she had such a low grade because she had been dealing with being molested. (She told this teacher this story before she told her parents.) I now believe part of the reason Emma came up with the molestation story was because she was failing Physics and with all the drama she created about being molested, we let her drop the class so she would not have a failing grade on her record. Emma probably should have done fine in Physics, but she spent too much time chatting and writing letters and e-mails with her school friends, instead of doing her schoolwork. Once she realized she wasn’t going to be able to pull her grade up, she had to come up with a reason to get out of the class.
Our neighbor was one of the founders of Eternal Hope in Haiti, and Emma went on a misson trip with this group in 9th grade.
Behavioral Observations: The current evaluation took place over three different appointments. During all of her appointments Emma presented as a slender, attractive young women [sic} appearing her stated age. She was casually-appropriately dressed with good personal hygiene. She was alert and oriented to time, place person and situation. She appeared mildly anxious and she exhibited mood-congruent thought that was logical an goal oriented. Emma was fully cooperative throughout the evaluation session and appeared to apply herself fully to all of the tasks. She was pleasant and engaging. During the course of the first interview she became noticeably emotional, tearful, and distressed episodically when being interviewed regarding the events that occurred with her mother. Her reasoning and judgment were grossly intact and normal. Based upon the observations made during the evaluation it it thought that the results of the current testing can be seen as being a reasonable estimate of her true abilities and characteristics.
NOTE: At this point, Emma had been seeing 3-4 therapists or social workers a week, so she had plenty of time to work on her performance. It’s called “rehearsal.”Unbeknownst to me, she was telling these therapists that I abused her, but funny how these incidents only took place on Tues-Thurs. when her dad was out of town because he never saw them.
Also, on the testing results below, a lot of this will be gobbly-gook to the lay person, but I’m going to go ahead and post this because I intend on making this site public once I get more up here in case someone more qualified than Dr. Born reads it and wants to give me their input on Emma’s problems.
TESTING RESULTS
Interpretation of WAIS-III Results
Emma was administered 14 subtests of the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale- Third Edition (WAIS-III) from which her IQ and Index scores were derived. The Full Scale IQ is the aggregate of the Verbal and Performance scores and is usually considered to be the most representative measure of g, or global intellectual functioning. Emma obtained a Full Scale IQ of 143, which places her intellectual functioning in the Very Superior range 138-146. However, Emma’s unique set of thinking and reasoning abilities make her overall intellectual functioning difficult to summarize by the full Scale IQ on the WAIS-III because there are large discrepancies between the scores that compose either the Verbal scale or the Performance scale. As a result, Emma’s performance may be more appropriately described by the separate scores contributing to the Verbal scale or the Performance scale.
Verbal and Performance Abilities
NOTE: I am going to skip typing up all this, except to say that Emma’s Verbal IQ was in the Very Superior Range, above 99.9% of her peers. We’d already seen Emma SATs. Smart is not a problem. If anyone wants more information on this part of the test, e-mail me, and I will scan it and send it to you. One interesting note from Dr. Richard Born:
In Emma’s case, her ability to infer cause and effect in social situations is less well developed than her other nonverbal reasoning skills. Her verbal reasoning abilities are much better developed than her nonverbal reasoning abilities. Making sense of complex verbal information and using verbal abilities to solve novel problems are strengths for Emma. Processing complex visual information by forming spatial images of part whole relationships and by manipulating the parts to solve novel problems without using words is a less well developed area.
NOTE: The whole time Emma was growing up, Phill and I alway said that she didn’t get cause and effect. If we told her not to do something, and that she would be punished if she did do what we told her not to, Emma never seemed to care and did what she wanted anyway. Or, if we asked Emma to do something, like “clean your room and you can have a friend spend the night” if Emma didn’t feel like cleaning her room, she wouldn’t and didn’t seem to care that she lost out on doing something fun. Instead, she blamed us and often said the reason she couldn’t have a friend spend the night was because we “were mean” or we “hated her.” Phill and I had many discussions about how we did not understand why Emma was like this, and we talked about how, as children, if our parents had offered us a privilege, if we did our chores, etc., we would jump on it and get done whatever it was we needed to do. Nothing seemed to matter to Emma except what she wanted at the moment.
Working Memory Abilities
Again, I’m not going to type all this out except: She performed better than 99.0% of her peers.
Processing Speed Abilities
(Edit) Her preformance on tasks measuring processing speed is better than 47% of her peers.
Interpretation of WIAT:II Results
Reading
(Edit) Her skills in this area exceed those of approximately 84% of individuals her age.
Mathematics
(Edit) Her skills exceed those of approximately 93% of individuals her age.
Written Language
(Edit) Her skills in this area exceed those of approximately 91% of individuals her age.
Ability-Achievement Discrepancy analysis Simple Method
Emma’s achievement on th eWIAT:II was compared to that of her general cognitive ability, as estimated by her Verbal IQ score of 153 on the WAIS-III. Word Reading is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. there is a noteworthy difference (38 points) between Emma’s Word Reading, subtest score (115) and her general cognitive ability, indicating performance lower than anticipated on tasks requiring her to correctly read a series of printed words. Although lower than anticipated, Emma’s performance in this area is still in the High Average range.
Numerical Operations is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. There is a noteworthy difference (31 points) between Emma’s Numerical Operations subtest score (122) and her general cognitive ability, indicating lower than expected performance on tasks requiring her to add, subtract, multiply an ddivide one- to three-digit numbers, fractions, and decimals; and solve simple linear equations. Although lower than anticipated Emma’s performance in this area is still in the Superior range.
Spelling is a specific area of weakness for her relative to her overall ability. There is a noteworthy difference (33 points) between Emma’s Spelling subtest score (120) and her general cognitive ability, indicating lower than expected performance on tasks requiring her to correctly spell verbally presented words. although lower than anticipated, Emma’s performance in this area is still in the superior range.
IQ Scores Summary
NOTE: These are charts showing again, that Emma is smart except for in a few areas. I will not type them in here, but if you are interested, e-mail me and I will scan them and send them to you.
(continued in Part 3)
Emma’s Psychological Evaluation
(Updated Aug. 15, 2012)
Emma Katherine Roey (Emma Kate Roey)
Dr. Richard Born who was chosen to do Emma’s psychological evaluation was basically a name drawn out of a hat. Phill and I knew nothing about what was involved in a Psych Eval., and I have since learned that he did a pretty sorry job . For one thing, an LCSW told me that there was no reason (other than $$) for him to do an IQ test on Emma. We had her SAT scores. I don’t remember now what her score was, something like 2060, I think. I was told that an IQ test is done to see how functional a child is, and it wasn’t necessary in Emma’s case.
Another thing I was told was that Dr. Born should have interviewed Phill and I separately, Phill and I together, and the three of us together. This was not done.
Because I took Emma to her first appointment with Dr. Born, I typed up a note for him that basically explained the situation and asked if he wanted to speak to me, to do so privately. Emma was angry at me all the time, and I knew I could not speak in front of her because it would make things worse at home.
Dr. Born never spoke to me privately, but spoke to Emma and I together. Of course, I could not talk freely with him. Also, As I type up the Psychological Evaluation, I will point out many of Emma’s lies that she told Dr. Born.
I am posting the psychological evaluation, with my comments added in, using Italics.
Applied Psychological Health
Richard Born, Ph.D. LLC
One Huntington Rd., #205
Athens, Ga. 30606
706-543-7605
http://www.appliedpsychhealth.com
Referral Information: Emma Roey is a 17 year old female from Hoschton, Ga. who is referred for psychological evaluation following repeated episodes of unusual behavior that has been described as being “seizure-like.” She has also been observed to enter into what was described as a state of “catatonia.” The catatonia behavior was exhibited on 12/31/2010 during a session with her therapist, Suzie McGarvey. At that time Emma was transported to Peachford Hospital in Atlanta. she was then subsequently sent to Scottish Rite Hospital for further medical consulatation and then was admitted to Peachford Hospital where she stayed until her release on 01/04/2011. Her therapist described Emma as going into a state of catatonia during a counseling session and just sitting very still and staring for approximately 5 hours. (Note: I believe the whole dramatic event went on for about 3 hours.) She did not lose consciousness but was not responsive to attempts to communicate with her. This episode occurred following a 10 day period that was extremely stressful and involved Emma alleging physical abuse perpetuated by her mother. Following her discharge from Peachford Emma reportedly has had additional abnormal psychiatric episodes. These episodes would involve her becoming very quiet and still followed by intense muscle contraction and thrashing around of her limbs. following this her muscles would become limp for a short period of time and then she would have further muscle contraction and thrashing. Her therapist reports that these episdoes have also involved urinary loss of control. Emma reports having four of these episodes during the month of January, and according to Emma they all took place while she was riding in the car with her mother.
Note: Actually, there were six episodes and four of them took place with her dad. Four of them took place on her way to Jefferson High School, which she hated, and blamed me for the fact that she was going there. She screamed at me many times that I had given up homeschooling her and it was all my fault. One episode was with her dad in Suzie McGarvey’s office, and the other was when her dad was driving her to Peachford (Psychiatric) Hospital for a week of daily outpatient care.
Emma had taken AP psychology, and I believe that’s where she learned the symptoms of abuse and learned how to fake catatonia. One mistake she made was that her seizure episodes lasted way to long, as long as 30 minutes, while in true catatonia, the seizures last only seconds. Emma was very dramatic in the car, flopping around like a fish. If I can figure out how to put video on WordPress, I will put one up to show.
More from Dr. Born:
There are a couple of situational factors that appear important in assessing Emma’s recent difficulties. The first situational factor has to do with Emma’s allegations of being the victim of repeated sexual molestation by the priest at her church that occurred over a period of several months when she was 12 years old. She was an acolyte at the time and reports that the molestation would occur in the women’s restroom following church services. Emma reports that she kept information about this to herself for several years until an [sic] call from a friend who was in the hospital following being a victim of rape. Emma states that hearing this information “stirred something up in me that kept eating at me.” She reports that she first revealed this information to her father and then to a church youth leader. She reports that she is not sure how her mother found out about the information but states that her mother finally confronted her about the information on May 21 2010. The person who she alleged had molested her was functioning as an interim rector at the time and had since moved on to a different church. The church reportedly did conduct an investigation but this examiner does not know the details and specific outcome. Based upon the information available at the time of this evaluation it appears the the allegations were seen as being credible. As a result of these allegations psychological therapy was initiated for emma and she became a client of victim’s support agency, Social Empowerment.
Note: I’ve already confirmed that the rape never happened, so I won’t go into that here. Never happened. There was nothing to stir up. Emma did, however, tell her dad and I that her friend was raped. We had gone to pick her up at her church youth group, and Emma ran up to me in the parish hall and told me her friend had called her from the ER, hysterical, and had been raped. Emma was very upset. Because it was Emma’s birthday, Phill and I stayed for birthday cake with the youth group, and I talked to one of the youth leaders about what Emma had told me. Emma came up to us, when I was talking to the youth leader, and she could tell by the way the conversation stopped, what we were talking about. I don’t remember what she said, but walking out to the car, she was very angry with me for telling her youth leader. (This is the same youth leader that Emma later told Dr. Born that she spoke with about the “molestation.”)
Another interesting lie here is that Emma states I “confronted” her about the information on May 21, 2010. First off, the date was March 21, 2010, which I believe was just an error on Dr. Born’s part, but there was no confrontation. Emma told her dad and I that she had been molested on the evening of her dad’s birthday, March 21, 2010. There was no confrontation.
The Social Empowerment Center (SEC) did not get involved with Emma at this time. That would not come until Jan. of 2011, after Emma accused me of abuse. SEC works for DFACS and was sent to us through DFACS.
Dr. Born once again:
The other signigicant situational stressor occurred around the date of her 17th birthday in December of 2010. It is reported that Emma was at home with her mother and they were having conflicts that eventually led to physical altercations. Emma repports that she was attempting to show her mother how to operate the computer to watch a TV show on-lilne when the computer malfunctioned and her mother apparently become [sic] frustrated and angry with her. Emma reports that her mother shoved her into a wall and twisted her arm behind her back. Emma also reports that during an interaction with her mother in the kitchen that her mother kicked her foot into the corner of a kitchen peninsula causing a toe injury. Emma also reports that a third altercation occurred a couple of days later while they were both again in the kitchen. She reports that she and her mother were arguing and her mother picked up a pot and struck her with it. Emma reports that Emma called a family friend to obtain emotional support and apparently the information eventually led to a telephone call to the Department of Family and Children’s Services who immediately pursued an investigation. Emma was removed from the home and went to stay with a family friend who was a priest and his wife. These individuals had to leave town for the Christmas break and Emma then went to stay with a friend of her mother’s for 5 days and then went to stay with one of her friends and his family for the next 3 days. During the week between Christmas and New Year’s Emma and her father had a conference with the DFACS workers. Then at her therapy session on December 31, her father announced to Emma that she was coming home. It was apparently at this time that Emma exhibited the first episode where she became in a trance-like state and non-responsive. she was subsequently transported to Peachford Hospital where she remained until her discharge on January 4. Emma reports no conscious memory of this event, stating that her first memory was when she was in an ambulance being transported to Scottish Rite Hospital from Peachford Hospital.
There are so many lies here, I don’t even know where to begin. First off, two of the dates that Emma gave DFAC where she claimed I abused her were Jan 17th, when she went with her dad to Marietta for a Dr.’s appointment, and her dad was with her all day. I was out Christmas shopping for Emma and did not see her until we all got home late that afternoon. Her dad was off work that day and home the rest of the day, so there was no time for me to abuse her.
Emma told DFACS that I hit/shoved/kicked her foot (I’m not sure which one she claimed that day.) on her birthday. I guess she knew she was caught in a lie, so she changed the story for Dr. Born and added the word “around.” It makes it easier to lie if you are much more general.
The only time Emma and I were alone on her birthday, was when we went to church. Phill woke up not feeling well that day, so Emma and I went to Sunday School and Church without him. The church is very small, and there may have been 10 people at Sunday school. I mentioned to Fr. George that it was Emma’s birthday, and everyone said Happy Birthday or spoke to Emma. She smiled, chatted with folks, and seemed to enjoy all the attention. Later on, she would tell Phill that she was angry with me for telling the pastor it was her birthday. That was something new. Her whole life, Emma always enjoyed having people know it was her birthday, and all the attention she got on her birthday.
After we came home from church, Phill still wasn’t feeling well. We had planned to go out to dinner for Emma’s birthday, but Phill told Emma we’d have to go another day when he felt better. Later, Emma complained to her therapist that her birthday wasn’t “special” and we didn’t take her out for dinner on her birthday, although Phill fixed some cheese fondue that he’d picked up from Costco for us to try, and Emma loved it. We had also gotten a cheesecake, which for the past few years was always what Emma requested instead of a birthday cake.
That afternoon, Emma was in her bathroom, and Phill and I were on the other side of the house. We heard a slam and Emma screamed, and we both went running to see what happened. Emma claimed to have “accidentally” kicked the cabinet in her bathroom. Because Emma had a small bathroom, I didn’t understand how she could have done this, but I was just glad she was ok, and didn’t question her story. She held up her foot for me to look at, and I had her wiggle her toes and told her I thought she was ok. Emma asked me what they do for broken toes, and I told her I didn’t think hers were broken, and that they didn’t usually do much but splint broken toes.
Later, Emma’s therapist, Suzie McGarvey, pointed out to me, that if Emma claimed I kicked her foot into the kitchen “peninsula” they should have checked the inside of her foot/ankle because she would have had a bruise there as well.
On Emma’s birthday, and the two days that followed, I thought she was acting oddly, but couldn’t put my finger on as to why. She just seemed like she hated me. Several times, I caught her staring at me with a look I had never seen on her face before. I later told her therapist, Suzie McGarvey, about it, and I think I described it as pure hate. A couple of times, when she was glaring at me, I asked, “What is wrong with you?” and Emma would turn away quickly and say, “Nothing.” It made me uncomfortable, but I had no idea what this child was about to pull.
As for the tv show incident, we had been watching from the beginning, Criminal Minds. (I’m sad to say I think Emma may have gotten some ideas from this program.) I believe it was the night DFACS came to our home (I have tons of notes, so I’ll have to look back to be sure, but I’m fairly sure it was on that night.) that Emma told DFACS that I hit her with the handle of a pot. (She again changed the story for Dr. Born.) When I was interviewed by DFACS they told me this, and I said, “The handle of a pot? How do you even do that?” The two women who interviewed me acted like that thought hadn’t even occurred to them, and agreed that it didn’t make sense.
When Emma went to stay with Fr. George and Paulette Ivey of Holy Trinity Anglican church, Fr. George and Paulette later told me of the drama Emma pulled at their home. It was common for Emma to have low blood pressure because she didn’t drink enough fluids. As a result of this, she frequently got dizzy. It was nothing serious, but while at their home, Emma had some “dizzy” episodes, and Paulette told me later that she thought Emma was faking because she did it so dramatically and laid out on the floor like she was posing, not like someone who fainted.
Another interesting note is that when Emma states she went to stay with “a friend of her mother’s for 5 days.” Let me just say a few words about this “friend.”
Janice, is one of my best friends. We have volunteered together for about 7 years, and we talk on the phone several times a week. Because Emma used to volunteer with the dog/cat rescue with me, she was as close to Janice as I was and called her “Aunt Janice”. When Janice would call, Emma often ran to answer the phone, and would talk to Janice for 15 or 20 minutes before she’d even let me have the phone, often talking to Janice longer than I did. We celebrated each others’ birthdays, and we spent Thanksgivings and Christmases dinners together. Janice was always good to Emma on her birthday and Christmas, and came to see Emma when the church youth hosted a Sock Hop. Emma sent Janice her English papers, and Janice would go over them for grammar and punctuation errors. When Emma went to stay with Janice, she was very upset because I wouldn’t let her stay with another friend, and she lied to Janice the whole time she was at her home. Janice was shocked to see the child she knew and loved acting like she did in her home. Emma had been to Janice’s home many times, but she told DFACS she was afraid to stay there. Because of Emma’s bizarre behavior, Janice documented it after Emma left her home. I am enclosing Janice’s statement:
December 28, 2010
Dear Counselors,
I hope that you will take the time to read my account of Emma Roey’s short stay at my house while in DFCS custody. I realize that I am not a pertinent party in this case. I have also included some additional information regarding my relationship with Emma.
I have known Emma and the Roeys for nearly 6 years now. Emma, her Mom Jerri, and Dad Phill foster dogs with the same rescue group for which I volunteer. Emma has always been a most respectful, well-mannered, reasonable, intelligent child and young lady. She has called me Aunt Janice for a long time. We have spent Thanksgivings and Christmases together for years now. If I ever asked for Emma to fill a water bowl for a dog at adoption she did it willingly and with no problem. Emma was “the perfect child”. Over the last several months Emma has been emailing her English papers and book reports to me for proof reading. She was very appreciative of my helping. When I would call her Mom to chat and Emma answered the phone we would talk at length about various things and events at school etc. Then she would turn the phone over to her Mom.
The Emma who was at my house was not the Emma I know. She lied to me within the first few hours of being here and continued to do so during the next several days as I will explain below. She was very disrespectful and defiant and I have never seen her like this before.
Friday December 24, 2010 10:30 AM
Emma was brought to my house by Father George Ivey and his wife Paulette. Emma had been with them since being removed from her home earlier in the week. All Emma’s clothes and belongings were put in a second master bedroom in my home. The room has its own dressing room and bathroom.
Later in the day Emma was in her room and eating candy and drinking a Coke. I noticed a big box of candy and a tin of popcorn on the chest of drawers. I casually asked who the gifts of popcorn and chocolate were from and she said they were from Father George and his wife. I said that was nice. I also noticed several foil crumpled candy wrappers that I picked up and threw away They were on the dresser, chest of drawers, and bathroom vanity. I explained to her that I really did not want her to eat and drink in the room and that I would prefer the food be removed. I asked her not to eat in the room for three reasons:
1 – I did not want bugs and
2 – I did not want the dogs to accidently find some chocolate or foil and get sick from it
3 – I did not want a wagging tail to cause something to spill on the floor
(I have 4 dogs and 2 foster dogs living here)
There was a big box of candy wrapped with a bow, a large tin of popcorn also with a bow on the top, an open bag of Reese’s Pieces, and a Christmas paper bag containing Snickers, candy canes, a partially eaten candy bar, and an apple. There were crumbs of chocolate on the chest of drawers and that is why I decided to move the food to another room. I got a shopping bag and put the above food items in the bag. I asked Emma if this was all the candy in the room and she said that it was. I told Emma I would put them in the kitchen. Because of space and needing to prepare Christmas dinner I put the shopping bag on a table in the garage. Emma made a point to tell me the candy and the popcorn had not been opened.
I mentioned to her father Phill when I spoke to him that I had taken the gifts of popcorn and candy out of Emma’s room because I did not want food in there and mentioned to him that Emma said they were from Father George.
Some residents of my neighborhood set of fireworks in the evening on December 24th and then later again around midnight. After the first round I did tell Emma that they were just fireworks and that even at Easter the neighbors set them off around here. Emma was worried about the popping noises.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Emma slept until about 10 or 11 AM and then took a 2 or 3 hour nap in the afternoon until her Aunt Lee called to wish her Merry Christmas. That evening Emma asked if I had any sleeping pills she could take. I replied that I did not.
Phill dropped off several bags of clothes for Emma to wear. One item he brought looked like it was a pair of jeans. When Emma saw it she said it was a pair of capris and she could not wear them this time of year. When they were folded up one could not tell they were not full length jeans. Phill did bring some sweat pants for Emma also. Emma had some jeans to wear that she brought with her as well.
On Christmas day Emma ate a good plate of food and some Christmas cookies for dessert. Later in the day I think she was sewing in her room and I went to say something to her. I noticed another what I thought was a crumpled candy wrapper on a chair. I picked it up and started unfolding it and Emma shot off the bed and tried to grab it from me. She said it was a receipt from the store and that Paulette had given her money to get something. I told her that I would just keep the receipt and let Father George have it when she went back to stay with them. When I got a chance to look at the receipt I noticed it was not a cash receipt but an American Express charge receipt so that did not jive with what Emma had said. I also noticed that it was from a Walgreen’s in Lawrenceville, GA and that the receipt was dated December 23, 2010 at 8:19 AM.
In further reviewing the receipt I noticed there were 2 charges:
1- a Tracfone and
2- a prepaid card for it.
I mentioned this to Phill next time I spoke to him. He said he would ask Father George about it. Father George confirmed he did not buy the phone or prepaid card and that a lady named Sandy, who was a friend of the Roeys, had dropped the can of popcorn and candy bags off on Thursday. It was assumed by him that the phone was in with the gifts. I then looked at the tin of popcorn and found that it had been opened by Emma and one of the three bags of popcorn in it was 2/3 empty. Emma had told me previously neither the candy nor popcorn had been opened. I assume the Tracfone was hidden in the popcorn tin. I don’t know why she would lie about the candy and popcorn tin not being opened unless she thought if they were not opened then I would not remove them from the room.
Each evening after I went upstairs to bed Emma went in the kitchen got a soft drink from the refrigerator and took it to her room (after me asking her not to eat or drink in there). She also helped herself to more Christmas cookies from the cookie tins on the kitchen table. I did a lot of baking this year and had quite a few cookies. I am not mentioning this because of what she ate or drank because I made the cookies to eat and gave many of them away as gifts. I am simply stating this to show the pattern of defiance that I noticed all the while she was here and also the high degree of sugar she consumed.
Sunday December 26, 2010
I spoke on the phone to Emma’s Mom Jerri on Sunday and mentioned the candy, etc. I admitted that Emma had had a good bit of sweets while here. Emma normally does not even drink a soft drink when she has come to my house to visit. She usually has iced tea or water. She has stated many times that she does not drink soft drinks. The fact that she had so many while here was out of character. On Friday when she arrived she had 3 cokes that I know of. She could have had more after I went to bed. Anyway, Jerri suggested she not take the candy with her when she left my house.
Monday Morning December 26, 2010
Emma packed her things and asked for the shopping bag of candy and popcorn. I told her that I would rather she not take that and it could be delivered to her later. She told me that if I had been talking to her parents that I had no right to do that. She said that DFCS said I was not to have any conversations with either of her parents at all. I was certainly not told this and later found out this was not true but “made up” also. Furthermore I did not think a 17 year old young lady had any business telling me who I could and could not talk to in my own home.
After returning home from leaving Emma with the counselors I went to the room Emma was staying in to get the sheets off the bed to wash them and also clean the room. I found the waste basket in the bathroom had foil candy wrappers, outside packaging for a roll of Life Savers, and a soft drink can.
I did not set out to find problems with Emma. It just seemed that if I asked any casual question she made up and answer to keep from telling me the truth. This was very unlike her.
I sincerely hope that you can help her and get to the real cause of her problems. She had such a bright future.
In regards to Jerri – she is a sweet, giving, warm person who would do anything for anybody. She is the picture of a caretaker and nurse, which she is – a registered nurse. Her foster dogs love her dearly and after adopted occasionally come to visit her at PetsMart. They are all wiggles and joy at seeing her again. They all receive kind and compassionate care with her. I believe this carries through to all other facets of her life.
Thank you for taking the time to read this and bless you for helping Emma.
Sincerely,
Janice
ADDENDUM:
April 7, 2011
As a follow up to the above statements I am adding the following:
I am not sure why Emma continued to lie about the “gifts” from Father George and Paulette and the Tracfone story as well. We later found the gifts and phone came from Sandy. But at this time Sandy was not suspected of any problem related to Emma and by Emma just stating the gifts and phone were from Sandy would not have aroused any suspicion.
After Phill monitored Emma’s cell phone calls he found that Emma was talking for hours late in the night with her adult friend Sandy.
Apparently this whole DFACS event was because Emma wanted to live with Sandy. She did not want to be at my house or anybody else’s house.
Sandy even called Father George on Christmas vacation in Tennessee to plead with him to suggest that he intercede on Emma’s behalf and suggest to DFACS that Emma be allowed to stay with Sandy and her and her family.
Emma told her therapist that she could not come back to my house to stay because she heard shooting at night. I had already told Emma that the noises were fireworks and she knew that. – yet another lie in an attempt to get to Sandy’s.
Emma has not wanted to face me since she was here at Christmas. I think she knows she lied to me repeatedly and defied me about keeping food in the bedroom and that I know she lied. Furthermore, Emma states that she does not remember even being in my house over Christmas.
On the cookie issue –
I had all the cookies in tins on the kitchen table. After Emma left I started consolidating the cookies so as not to have so many tins out. Because I do so much baking I keep a spreadsheet with the ingredients for each cookie and the quantity in dozens that each cookie makes. I do this so when I go shopping I can look at the spreadsheet and get all the flour, sugar, preserves, nuts, etc that I need to do all the baking. When I consolidated the cookies I realized that Emma must have eaten 5 or 6 dozen cookies in the 3 days she was here – mostly one particular cookie. I determined this by checking the quantity that the recipe made and subtracting the number of cookies given as gifts as well as what I may have eaten and realized there were 5 or 6 dozen cookies missing. If nothing else this should have called for a diabetes check up but I think this may point to other problems with Emma since I later found out she would even pick a lock at home to get to sweets that were locked up so she could not get to them. I also would find cookie crumbs on the kitchen table in the morning. After dinner the night before I would wipe the table so there should have been not crumbs remaining from dinner.
On the day that Phill delivered some clothes for Emma I was outside helping him. The pills that Emma was to take were in a Sunday – Saturday pill dispenser on my kitchen counter. Emma was to take the Lexapro for one more week to wean herself off of it since we thought this pill is what caused all her confusion and hallucinations. After Phill left I went to give Emma her pills and they were no longer in the container. I asked Emma were they were. Emma said she had taken them.
I asked where the glass she used for water was. She responded that she had some Coke in her room (remember I asked her not to take food into the bedroom) from the night before and she drank that. I asked where the can was and her response was that she had already crushed it in the can crusher in the garage. I did not believe her but had no proof she did not take the pills. After that I put the pills where she could not find them and gave them to her myself and watched her take them. When her Mom and Dad took her possessions home from Peachford her Mom found pills in the bottom of one of her bags.
I believe now that Emma has a serious mental problem that no one is addressing and she is not receiving the help she needs. She is a very smart young lady and is apparently smarter than the therapists that are currently working with her.
Janice
Sadly, Emma cut off all contact with Janice, I guess deciding Janice was on the side of her mom, but more likely because Janice saw all the lies that Emma tried to pull, and saw the real Emma.
(More to come. This installment is too long for one sitting.)
(It will take me several days to post the entire Psych Eval., so I am stopping at this point and will continue later.)
7/15/12 Working on the Blog
I’m figuring out how to do the blog. I’m also hoping to be able to add pictures. If I were a writer, I’d be laying everything out and trying to put it in order, but I think in this case, I will create topic and then go in and work on them, add to them, edit, etc. I really need a computer class to learn!
I will give each therapist or counseling center their own page, as well as some of the people involved. Out of respect for privacy, I will either change names or not use names at all of people Emma hurt.
Some of the topics I will be covering are as follows:
Sandra Brooks McCravy, probably had the biggest influence on Emma doing what she did. I had no idea that they had an inappropriate relationship going on, talking on the phone late at night, after we thought Emma was asleep. Sandy was a friend of mine for about 7 years, mostly because she sort of latched on to me. I did like her though, but considered her very needy. She usually called me anywhere from a few to several times a week, usually in crisis. Phill called her “High Maintenance” and often joked that I had to “talk her down.” She was very high strung and would get upset with her family and want someone to listen. Occasionally, I got annoyed that she would call and never even ask, “How are you?” but go on and on about her problems. She was always upset with her mother because she said her mother favored her sister, a former beauty queen, and favored her sister’s children over her own. She would call me from the bathtub when she was loaded down with pillows, cookies, and brownies (no water though) and had had an argument with her husband. She was in therapy with Dr. Genie Burnett at Manna Treatment for years (that should have told me something there), had a history of laxative abuse, seeing a psychiatrist, on psych meds, etc. There’s a lot more to tell there, but I’ll save that for her own section. Sandy did have her good points, and one day Emma and I got into a conversation about friendships, and I told her that no friendship is 50-50, and used Sandy for an example. I told Emma that Sandy was very needy, and as long as I recognized that, it was fine. If I had been a needy person, and needed as much attention as she did, I’m sure the friendship wouldn’t have worked.
Dr. Genie Burnett (“Oh, I’ve been on and off antidepressants for years!”) at Manna Treatment.
Suzie McGarvey, Lanier Counseling, who, even after finding out about lie after lie that Emma told, refused to contact my therapist so we could work on this as a family.
Dr. Richard Born, who, I’ve been told, did a very poor Psychological Evaluation on Emma. She told him lie after lie, and he never looked into anything she said. I was also told by several other professionals that to do a complete Psychological Evaluation, he should have interviewed me alone, Phill alone, Phill and I together (without Emma), and all three of us. He did none of those things.
After DFACS got involved, they sent therapists from the Social Empowerment Center (SEC) to see Emma. I’ve been told that therpists who work for DFACS are the bottom of the barrel, and I believe it after our experience! This group seemed to have high turnover, as the best therapist, who met with Phill and I several times, left for another job, and two of them were young, or new grads with little experience and planned on getting their Master’s, so they weren’t exactly therpists, and I’m sure had no experience working with kids like Emma.
Well, that’s it for today. This is going to take some work, but one day, the whole story will be out here.






