A List of Lies

Posted on October 21, 2012 by losingemma

(UPDATED 10/31/12–New material at end of post.)

Emma Roey (Emma Katherine Roey, Emma Kate Roey) made up a story about a friend being raped, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the church, Emma accused her mother of physically abusing her to stop the lawsuit because she knew the attorneys would be investigating her rape story since that was the supposed catalyst for remembering that she was molested when she was 12 years old. After this last accusation, I began researching stories Emma had previously told us. Below are some of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I will be adding more as well as some stories that I have not bothered to verify either because I don’t want to disturb the people that are involved or because I believe I have enough documentation to show that Emma is quite accomplished in making up stories.

: Emma Katherine Roey
Emma Kate Roey

Emma met when L. when she was in Georgia Virtual School, her 2^nd semester of 9^th grade in 2009. They had an on-line English class together and were assigned as pen pals for an English project. The two girls became friends writing letters, e-mailing, texting, and Facebook. As far as I know, the two girls have never met in person.

On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Emma was at her church youth group meeting. When Phill and I went to pick her up, Emma immediately told us that her friend L. had called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped. Emma was very upset and said L. was crying hysterically and difficult to understand. Before we left, I was talking to one of the youth group leaders, and told her what Emma had said. Emma got very upset with me for telling the youth leader what she had told us about L.

Over the next few days, Emma said she tried to call L. several times, but couldn’t reach her, so she called her sister, E. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that L. had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said L.’s extended family had been over for a family gathering, when L. had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed, and was later found unresponsive by a family member. She was taken to the hospital. I did not know L. or her family, so I did not call the family. Later on, Emma said that L. told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how L. was doing . Emma said that L. was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that L. was molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.

Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that L.’s mother had breast cancer. She said L. had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10^th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me, at least twice, that L. had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that L.’s mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive.

On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested at our church when she was 12 years old. According to Emma, L.’s phone call from the hospital, telling her she was raped, was the catalyst for her coming forward about her molestation by the priest at our former church.

My attorney, verified with L.’s father, that L. was never in the hospital, never raped, never molested, never volunteered counseling other children who were victims of molestation.

An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to L.:

Note: Emma and I spent a lovely afternoon making iris folded cards. We knew a couple of people who were going to be having babies, so we made cards for them, and then made some generic cards. I’d never made one before, but knew the basics of iris folding, having read about it and having watched Emma make them. It is a very easy technique. My cards came out very nicely. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and I have no idea what projects Emma is accusing me of wanting to help with and then ruining for her. I’ve have spent countless hours teaching Emma beading techniques, or beading with her while we watch a movie, as that is my hobby, and I never ruined any of her projects.

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Jerri

6:09am Jun 19, 2011(Email exchange between myself and a neighbor Emma rode the school bus with.)

I wanted to ask you about when you said Emma exaggerated the drug problems at the school and a couple more questions. I had wondered about this because Emma told us that drugs were sold on the bus all the time, that kids smoked on the bus, and the driver didn’t do anything about it, and things like that, as well as overhearing kids talking about possibly being pregnant. I thought she might be exaggerating to try to get us to pull her out of school, When she went to the freshman orientation, or the first day of school (I can’t remember which), Emma said she sat next to a girl named B. who told her she had a 4 yr. old. I thought this seemed odd, but Emma said she was repeating 9th grade. I know you don’t know everyone in the school, but did you know if anyone with a child this old?

Did you see drugs being sold on the bus? Did kids smoke on the bus?

Another story Emma told us was that J. got caught having sex with her boyfriend, who also rode the bus, and that Mrs. B. came out when J. was getting on the bus and told the bus driver not to let her sit with him in front of everyone on the bus. I thought this was a little bizarre, but never questioned it. Now I wonder if Emma made it up.

Can you tell me if any of these stories are true or not? I’m just looking into a lot of things Emma has told us, and trying to sort out the truth.

Jerri

6:12am Jun 19

Oops, sorry. I wasn’t finished when I hit the enter key.
I also wanted to ask you about a story Emma told us after K’s. b.day party when she was in 9th, and you were in 10th grade. She said that one of the girls was pregnant and had had an abortion. Of course, this wasn’t something I was going to ask any of you, or verify the story. Then, at the end of the school year, she said that after prom one of the girls (you, K, M, K2) thought they were pregnant again.

Neighbors’

Daughter: (after a phone conversation)

woah. none of us have ever been pregnant, ever. and for that matter, none of us were promiscuous at all. these stories are starting to greatly irritate me, because they are such blatant and horrible lies.

B. was a girl who had a baby when she was 16, back in 2008. So no, the child was not 4 (and still isn’t 4), but that baby does exist. No one had sex or ever smoked on the bus. i don’t remember Mrs. B. doing that, but honestly I didn’t ride the bus everyday.

Note: At the time, I did not tell this young lady that she was the one Emma was talking about. Emma claimed that she got drunk and high at a party and ended up pregnant. In Sept. or Oct., Emma went to a birthday party for another girl that rode the bus with them, and she came home in tears. She said that (name removed) had told her that her parents took her to have an abortion, and she didn’t tell
Emma about it before she did it because she knew Emma would try to talk her of it.

On Tue, Jul 26, 2011 at 9:01 AM, Jerri > wrote:
> No problem, (Name Removed) My attorney has collected some information on Emma,
> and she’s been lying for years. I think both Phill and Emma are going to be
> shocked over some of what we’ve found. Phill has wanted to believe
> everything Emma says. If you want, I will mail a copy to your parents, so
> you all can see what was going on. My attorney is gathering a few
> statements that he needs signed, and then we will be presenting all of it to
> Emma’s therapist.
>
> A couple of other things I thought of that I wanted to ask you about. There
> was a boy in the other part of Deer Creek (Fawn Ct?) that Emma pointed out
> to me one day when he was walking in the neighborhood, and she said he sold
> drugs. Of course she told me he sold drugs on the bus, and you told me you
> never saw drugs sold on the bus, so I’m doubting the whole thing. Would you
> know who she was talking about and if he actually did sell drugs.
>
> Another story she told was that your brother got arrested and was in jail,
> but your parents didn’t know, and he’d been in jail before. She said he was
> arrested for pot. I don’t want to intrude on (Name Removed) life or anything, if
> there’s any truth to this, but if it’s completely fabricated, would you let
> me know so I can add this to the list.
>
> Thanks,
> Jerri

Wow. I don’t know how I missed this message. I’m not sure about that
other boy selling pot, but I can tell you for a FACT my brother has
NEVER been arrested, and certainly not for drugs. I am absolutely
livid right now. It is one thing to be lied about, but when she brings
my family into this, she has gone too damn far. What a terrible human
being she is.

Jerri Roey3:27pm Sep 20

(Name Removed), Would you just verify something for me. My husband is trying to say that you told Emma all the horrible things she told us about you (that you got pregnant, your parents took you to have an abortion, that you thought you were pregnant again after the prom…..lots of drinking and drugs stories). He is trying to defend Emma by saying that you made up this stuff, true or not, and told it to Emma, so that’s where she got it from. I think that Emma made it all up, trying to make you look bad (as well as the other girls on the bus). I just want it in writing to gove to my attorney. Again, I will remove your name. Just let me know if you ever told Emma any of those things.

Oh, and you told her that your parents took you to have an abortion. Please let me know if you ever told Emma any of these stories.

(Name Removed)6:56pm Sep 20

Of course Emma made it up. Why would I make up horrible things about myself? I’m sorry, but this is getting ridiculous. I never told Emma about any pregnancies or abortions, because they didn’t happen. Not to me, and not to any my friends. She is lying, and frankly, it’s sad to see your husband believing her. She is clearly unstable, and I am starting to think he isn’t much better.

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E-mail exchange between H. and myself:

On 6/27/2011 12:58 PM, Jerri wrote:

Hi H.,

This is your neighbor, Jerri.

We’ve been having a lot of problems with our daughter, Emma, in regards to lying. She told us she’d been molested, but now I think that wasn’t true. Before she came up with the molestation, she tried to tell stories about Phill, but I would not tolerate it. I’m am finding out about some other whoppers she’s told, and am keeping a list to present to her therapist. Most recently, Emma has accused me of child abuse, that when she turned 17, I started hitting her, shoving her, etc. She did that right before a lawsuit was about to be filed on her behalf over the molestation. (I believe she wanted to take the focus off the “molestation”, so she went from being a victim of child molestation to being a victim of child abuse.) It’s a really long story, but there’s one story I wanted to ask you about.

When Emma rode the bus to JCCHS, she claimed that one day you came out to the bus and told the bus driver not to let J. sit with a certain boy. I don’t know his name, but she said he lives in the 2nd house on the right as you enter the subdivision.

Emma claimed that you all had caught the two kids having sex and that was why she was not allowed to sit with this boy. I believe she said J. had to sit at the front of the bus with the younger kids.

Anyway, I don’t want to get too personal, but could you just tell me if this story is true or not?

If you would e-mail or call me:

From: H. Sent: Wednesday, June 29, 2011 4:17 PM

To: Jerri Subject: Re: Question

Hello Jerri
Sorry to hear about the problems you are having with Emma, there is something terribly wrong with our society with the problems young girls are creating for themselves and their families.
First J. was caught sneaking out of the house, but it was to go see the boy who did live in the second house on the right as you enter the subdivision with his guardians. I did not approach the bus driver however about where or with whom J. sat. Actually we realized that there was very little control we had over her behavior outside of our home given J.’s age and past. We decided along with (the boy’s) guardians to encourage an appropriate relationship between the two rather than forbidding that they see each other on the bus or at school and wait and see what happened. We even met with him to get to know him and what he planned on doing in life and sure enough it was over in a few months.
Second I met Emma one day while I was out walking and asked how she like Jackson Co. HS. She told me she didn’t like it and had been sick and in the hospital. She said she had all A’s and had been making up the time and doing the work but she was told she was going to be failed anyway. I just remember how odd I thought this was because I volunteered at the HS counseling office once a week and I knew they had credit recovery in addition to knowing that the HS bent over backwards to try to work with students and get them graduated. I remember thinking that something just didn’t seem right and there had to be more to it however, as a volunteer, I did not feel it would have been appropriate for me to inquire into it further.

NOTE: Emma was never in the hospital that year. Also, I had a long phone conversation with this lady, but I asked her to e-mail me her comments, so I would have them in writing. I have removed the names of those involved.

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Jerri to kphillips (Jackson County Comprehensive High School):

Mrs. Phillips,

Our daughter, Emma Roey, was a student at JCCHS in 2008-2009. We’ve had some problems with Emma lying, and wanted to check on a story Emma told us that happened at JCCHS. Emma claimed that one day, she, Christina Romo, and Kayla Gudz were called to the office where an officer and a drug sniffing dog were waiting. She claimed that the drug dog checked them over, after another child on the bus reported them for selling drugs. I wondered about this story at the time, but didn’t think much of it until some other problems with Emma came up, and now we are wondering if she made this up because other people have told us that the dogs can only check school property.

Can you just let me know if the dogs check students like that, if this story could be true, and would you have a record of the girls being called to the office? We just want to verify if this was true or something Emma made up.

Thanks,Jerri

Reply:

Kendra Phillips to me

show details Jun 15 (7 days ago)

The drug dogs are allowed in the parking lot, lockers, and inside classrooms with students out of the class. If administration has reason to believe that a student could possibly have drugs on them, the search is conducted by an administrator and usually the School Resource Officer. If females are involved, I am usually the one that completes the search. During the time your daughter was here, I was never involved in a search with her.

I hope this answers your questions. If not, please feel free to call me.

Kendra

Jerri Roey to Kendra

show details Jun 16 (6 days ago)

Thank you. Emma told us quite an elaborate story about being called to the office and being checked by a drug dog after being reported by a child on the bus (The older Bridgeman boy who was in ROTC with her. I believe his name is Josh.) along with Kayla G. and Christina R. I believe it was you or the female counselor that she told us was there.

We’ve had a lot of problems with Emma and I’m just trying to check on some things she’s told us in the past, to see if they are true or not.

Thank you,

Jerri Roey

Kendra Phillips to me

show details Jun 16 (6 days ago)

Not a problem-Please feel free to call or email anytime.

Jerri Roey to Kendra

show details Jun 20 (2 days ago)

Hi Kendra,

I tried to call you, but your mailbox was full, and I couldn’t get a message through.

I wanted to ask you a couple more questions.

Emma’s taken other people’s stories and told them to people, putting herself in stories of things that never happened to her. I wondered if Emma heard about this happening to someone else and then made the story about herself. Also, I was wondering, if there is a record when a child is drug searched? I would like to know so I can tell Emma’s therapist that if this happened, there would have been a record of it. Also, Emma said that she, C., and K. were called to the office over the PA system to be checked. I had wondered if this kind of thing even happened. Would the school page a child over the PA to come to the office to be searched for drugs? I didn’t know how the school goes about searching a child for drugs.

Thanks so much for your help. If you need to call me:

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I checked Emma’s discipline record during the time she was enrolled at JCCHS-there is no record of any behavior issues. We don’t call students over the PA if they are going to be searched. An Assistant principal or the School Resource Officer goes to the classroom to get them. I hope this helps.Kendra

That does. Thank you very much.

Jerri

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E-mail exchange between Fr. George Ivey, of Holy Trinity Anglican Church, and his wife Paulette, Ivey, and myself after Paulette told me the story about Emma babysitting and having to call 911 after one of the boys she was babysitting got out of control. (Not True.)

Dear Jerri,

Paulette is fighting a stomach virus last night and today that she got at school. She wanted me to add that Emma told her that she had called the police to protect her from the priest’s son during the night described. So, I have added it into this edited version of the e-mail to you.

If we can help please let us know.

Fr. George

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Dear Jerri,

On December 23, 2010, Emma told me that she had been employed to baby sit for the priest of Mary and Martha Episcopal Church in the Hamilton Mill community. She said that the son of the priest was bi-polar. She said that during the evening the son became so unruly that for her safety she had to lock herself in the bathroom and that she waited there until the parents returned to allow her to come out of the bathroom in a safe situation. It seemed to me that this was a bazar and improbable story. She further told me that she called the police to come to the pastor’s house to protect her. It bears seeking the collaboration of the parents of the boy in question to be certain that she baby sat for them and that this circumstance truly occurred.

Please let me know if you need more information concerning this discussion with Emma.

Sincerely,

Paulette Ivey

Note: Emma NEVER babysat for the priest at St. Mary and St. Martha

At a women’s group meeting, at the home of A., that I think was sometime in the spring, I heard the story about the priest’s older son, who is bipolar, getting so out of control that the parents had to call 911. I later told Emma about this incident, so this lie was based on a real event, but Emma was never there when it occurred.

Letter to a former youth leader at Walnut Fork Baptist Church:

July 25, 2011

Dear M.,

A few years ago, my daughter attended a youth group meeting at your church after being invited by your daughter, A. I don’t know if you will remember, and you might want to check with A., but I wondered if you could answer a couple of questions for me. At the moment, I am visiting family in CT., and I have tried to call you, but the only number I have was disconnected.

We have had some problems with Emma lying and greatly exaggerating some stories. Some are harmless, but some have been quite vicious. I have been collecting some of these stories for Emma’s therapist to see the stories she’s been telling over the years. Unfortunately, her dad and I didn’t realize what she was doing, and she seems to have a serious problem with lying.

In 9^th grade, Emma attended a Wed. night youth group meeting with A. She went home on the bus with A., and I think your wife dropped them off at the church that night, and you were in charge of the youth group. Emma came home with quite an elaborate story about you calling on her and her giving her testimony. I found this a little odd, that a visitor would be singled out like that, but didn’ t think much of it. Emma went in to great detail when she told me what she said. Now I’m just wondering if it happened it all.

Another thing Emma said was that you were late for the meeting (car trouble, I think), and that when you came in, you were talking to the kids and mentioned something about your family dog getting run over that day. Emma made it sound horrible and said that A. and her sister did not know about the dog and were very upset, and Emma thought it was horrible that they found out by you telling the youth group and not telling them directly. She said that they sat there and cried throughout the meeting, and you just went on talking about how animals don’t have souls. She tried to make you sound very heartless and cruel for the way you talked about the dog like it was nothing.

Would you either call me or e-mail me to verify if any of these stories are true?

Thank you very much,Jerri

Hi Jerri,

I received your letter today, and wanted to get back to you as quickly as possible concerning Emma and any way that we may be able to help. I’m thankful to you for taking the time to let me know how anyone (youth or parent) may perceive or have even the slightest concern for any of the content or situations that take place during our ministry time together.

I spoke with A. this afternoon just to confirm that I remember the correct young lady (Emma) and her joining us for a couple of visits at church, especially during the night that you referenced in your letter concerning the death of my dog “Max” almost 3 years ago. The timing of your letter is beyond coincidence, because I was talking with our neighbor (K.) last week about how helpful he has been during two very sad times when I was not at home. About eight weeks ago, we had a similar situation with our family dog “Tucker” being hit by a car when my wife, E. and daughter (9 years old) were outside to feed him. We have an electronic fence to keep the dogs in the yard when they are free to run while not in the kennel, but that evening he decided to charge right though. The car which hit either dog did not stop, and Mr. K. was the first person driving by on his way home from work and stopped to help. Both times our pet had severe internal injuries and did not survive even after taking Tucker to the vet for treatment.

On the evening that Emma describes, E. did drive the kids to church and normally stayed with the youth or helped with the children on Wednesdays. Mr. K. came to the church around 5:55 pm and told E. and S. (my assistant) what had happened. He had moved Max from the road before coming to get E. while Miss B. (another neighbor) stayed with Max. E. called me when I was on my way to the church from work and I met them at the house. She had ridden with K. back home while S. and K. stayed with the youth. When I arrived at the house there were three or four cars in our front yard including a Jackson County sheriff who stopped to see why other people were parked along the roadway. Max died before we were able to get him loaded into my pickup. K. carried E. back to the church while I drove Max to a friend’s house nearby who has a tractor and an area where we have buried other animals which have passed over the years. Afterwards, I went to the church around 7:45pm and the students had already finished their lesson for the evening. A. and L. both remember the discussion that was taking place when I arrived, and someone made the comment that ‘the events of their day resembled a country song’. I was under the impression that E. had already shared the news with A. and L. when I replied “ … and how sad it is when your dog dies”. It was not my intention to share the news in that way, but they knew already that something was up when E. had left the church earlier.

I don’t recall making any comments about “animals not having a soul” that evening, but I do believe animals are different from humans in that they do not have a soul which will live for an eternity as humans do. It is hard to explain when someone asks if they will see their pet in heaven when the bible doesn’t address that issue specifically, but I do know that there will be animals in heaven (In that day the wolf and the lamb will live together; the leopard will lie down with the baby goat. The calf and the yearling will be safe with the lion, and a little child will lead them all. – Isaiah 11:6)

We always strive for an environment where the students feel welcome, comfortable to share and discuss any issues without feeling judged. Very seldom have students shared a testimony during a regular Wednesday night service, and I cannot remember any guest having ever given a testimony. This happens more often during a trip to a youth conference, a special weekend event at church or a week long missions trip; and only then after the students know one another very well.

A. mentioned that she has not spoken with Emma since she transferred from Jackson County. Please know that me and my family are available to help in any way that we can and will keep your family in our prayers. Our contact information is listed below, and you can call on us at any time.
In Christ’s name,

NOTE: When Emma told me about this evening, she told me the family was “rednecky” and let their dogs run loose. She never mentioned the electric fence. While I knew the mother babysat children in her home, Emma claimed that once the kids got home from school, the mother left to run errands, leaving her daycare children unsupervised.

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Other lies:

In, I believe Jan. 2011 when Kodi, a Pup and Cat dog was at adoptions, and a man named Dustin (I do not remember the last name) asked to see him, Emma spoke to the man and got Kodi out of the crate for him. Dustin was interested in adopting Kodi and filled out an application. When our director found out that he didn’t have a fence, she was hesitant about Kodi going to this home, and Dustin told her that he was told Kodi by the “young lady” that Dustin didn’t need a fence.

Ursulsa, our director, called Janice Vollmer and asked who said that Kodi didn’t need a fence, and Janice remembered Emma spending a lot of time talking to Dustin, so she called me and said that Ursula was upset about about this. I asked Emma if she had told Dustin that, and she said no, that she just got Kodi out of the crate, but that “Lily’s mom” was the one who spoke to Dustin. Both Janice and I saw Emma interviewing the man for quite a long time, and since the three of us volunteering that day were 50+, and Dustin was younger than all of us, I doubt that he would have called any of us a “young lady.”

When we first started to attend Holy Trinity, a dog that Emma and I knew from the rescue had just been adopted to a woman in a senior community, and after church Emma told me that BR., a woman we met at church, lived in the same neighborhood and had met Denny Mac, the dog. A few weeks later, as I got to know BR., I asked her about meeting her neighbor’s dog that came from our rescue, and she said she didn’t know anything about a dog. I later asked Emma if I was mistaken, and she denied saying it at all.

The church is very small, and I knew I wasn’t mistaken about who she was talking about.

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Like the story about Kodi, and the story about Denny Mac, I think Emma just makes things up sometimes to have something to say. When Emma was a co-teacher for the pre-school Sunday school class at St. M&M, there was a new family to the church. They had two little girls, and one of them was in Emma’s class. After church, Emma was telling me about talking to the dad after Sunday school. She claimed that he was very impressed with her and thought she was in college. She told me that the mother was actually the step-mother and that the dad had been married before. Later, as I got to know the family, I found this was not true. When I asked Emma why she had told me that Mrs. E. was the step-mother, she denied ever saying it.

I don’t remember what year it was, maybe 2009 or 2008, but it was on my birthday. A friend, Karen and her mom were going to the Cirque De Soliel and had an extra ticket, so Karen invited Emma to go. When Emma came home, she said she had a great time, but said something like, “You know how when you go to a movie or something and there’s someone near you that won’t quit talking, that was what Karen and her mom were like.” She claimed that people around them kept looking at them, giving them dirty looks, etc. I thought this story was odd at the time, but I wasn’t going to call Karen up and ask her. I had been thinking about this story a log recently, so I asked Karen about this story, and she said this story was not ture. She said that it was the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra with Cirque De Soliel, and that if you had been talking, they would ask you to leave. This can be verified with Karen.

I’m not sure why Emma felt the need to make up a story like this to someone who was being so generous to her. Karen knew Emma for several years while we volunteered almost every Sat. with the rescue. Karen came to see Emma when she was in the hospital, and we went to Karen’s open house when she bought her home.

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In early Sept. 2011, I believe, Emma sounded like she was making some friends at school at Jefferson High School, Jefferson, Ga., so Phill and I encouraged her to invite several of the girls out one evening for dinner and to watch a movie or just hang out. Four girls came out one Fri. night, Bell Blankenship, Jordan Buchanan, and another Jordan, whom I believe was Jordan Blair Hamby, and Bree (I believe her name was Bree Hanson.) We cooked hamburgers, had beans, chips, watermelon, soda, and an ice cream cake for the girls. My husband and I waited on them, but pretty much stayed in the background and let them visit.

At one point, I took something out to where the girls were sitting on the deck, and one of the girls, Bree thanked me for inviting them. I told her that we were so glad they could come, and Bree said, “Well, I didn’t have anything better to do.” The girls laughed, and Bree looked a little sheepish, realizing what she’d said, but laughed too. I turned to the other girls, laughing, and said, “Ok, so the next time we do this, you all are all invited,” and then pointing at Bree said, “But, she’s not!” The girls all laughed, even Bree. No one was upset or angry; no one sulked or went home. They all knew I was joking. I think I said something to Bree like, “That’s ok. I knew what you meant.” Later on, when Phill and I met with one of the SEC therapists on Mar. 21, 2011, I told Tamesha (I do no know her last name.) that there were some problems with Emma, for example she had 4 therapists, but no friends at school. Tamesha told me that Emma said she had invited some friends over once this school year, but I had been mean to them. I explained that Phill and I waited on them hand and foot, and they all seemed to have a great time. Phill said he would ask Emma what she was referring to, and she said that I was mean to Bree when I said she wasn’t invited back. Phill was not out on the deck with us when I was joking with the girls, but he knew we waited hand and foot on those girls, ensuring they all had plenty to eat and a nice time.

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Comments and Corrections on Psych Eval

Originally written 4/14/11

Edited 5/13/11, 7/22/11

Emma stated that she had four dissassociative episodes and that all were while riding in the car with me. Actually, there were six episodes and four of them took place with her dad. Four of them took place on her way to Jefferson High School, which she hated, and blamed me for the fact that she was going there. She screamed at me many times that I had given up homeschooling her and it was all my fault. One episode was with her dad in Suzie McGarvey’s office, and the other was when her dad was driving her to Peachford (Psychiatric) Hospital for a week of daily outpatient care.

Emma had taken AP psychology, and I believe that’s where she learned the symptoms of abuse and learned how to fake catatonia. One mistake she made was that her seizure episodes lasted way to long, as long as 30 minutes, while in true catatonia, the seizures last only seconds. Emma was very dramatic in the car, flopping around like a fish.

Emma told Dr. Born that all the incidents of molestation were in the restroom, but she told Phill and I, along with several others that one incident was in the restroom and the rest were in the sacristy.
Emma told Dr. Born that I “confronted” her about the molestation. I never confronted her. She told Phill and I about the molestation on Mar. 21, 2010, Phill’s birthday. On Emma’s birthday (Dec. 19, 2009), Phill and I went to pick up Emma from her church youth group. She told us that she’d received a phone call from an on-line friend, whom Emma has never met in person. Emma said L. had been raped, and had called Emma from the ER, and that this was the incident that stirred up memories of her being molested 4 years before. When I questioned Emma a few days later, she said that L. had tried to commit suicide because she’d been raped some time before, and that she was afraid to go to the police because this man had threatened to kill her family. Emma said L. was in therapy, but would not tell who raped her. Emma also said that L. had been involved in a church program counseling girls who were victims of molestation or sexual abuse because she had been molested as a child. This young lady never called Emma from the hospital, and my attorney has verified with her father that none of this is true.
Emma stated that the priest moved on to a different church. This is not true. He was retired when he took the position at our church and went back into retirement and other activities afterwards.
SEC did not get involved until Jan. 2011, after DFACS was called and was not involved at the time of the molestation.
When I was interviewed by DFACS, I believe two of the dates that Emma said I abused her were dates when Phill was home. One was Dec. 17, when Phill took Emma to Marietta for an appointment with her GYN. I was out Christmas shopping for Emma. I was never alone with Emma the entire day.

The other date was Dec. 19, 2011, her birthday, and Phill was home on that day. We were both there when she kicked the cabinet in her bathroom, screamed, and then came out and told us what she’d done. She had sock on, but I asked her to wiggle her toes and she did. She asked me what they did for broken toes, and I told her they couldn’t put a cast on them. On Dec. 20^th, I asked how her foot was, and she said it still hurt, but was ok.

Also on Emma’s birthday, her Aunt Lee called after she had opened her presents. Emma told her aunt that she wasn’t doing or getting anything special for her birthday, and that I had taken her shopping for clothes a couple of weeks before, and that was her birthday present. She also told her aunt that we didn’t even get her a birthday cake. I did not take Emma shopping for clothes at all, and her big present was a netbook computer which she was very excited about. She also received several smaller presents. Emma was angry that Phill did not want to go out to eat on her birthday because he wasn’t feeling well, and he said that he said we’d go out when he got back in town on Friday. Also, instead of a birthday cake, she had asked that we get her a cheesecake instead, just as she had asked for a cheesecake for the past 3 years for her birthday. My sister did not tell me until sometime later what Emma had told her. She thought maybe when she called, Emma hadn’t opened her presents, and that maybe Emma hadn’t known we’d gotten the cheesecake she’d asked for.

Emma claimed that we had a physical altercation on the night of her birthday because she could not get a tv program that we were trying to watch on the computer to come on. There was one night that Emma couldn’t get the show to come on, but it was not on her birthday. It might have been the Tuesday after her birthday. She was doing it though a web site, and it didn’t work. I told her to wait until Daddy got home because he would be able to figure it out.

see note #6

Emma told Dr. Born that I hit her with a pot, but told DFACS told me that she claimed I hit her with the handle of a pot. She also claimed I kicked her foot into a corner of a cabinet to cause the injury to her toes, and Emma’s therapist, Suzie McGarvey pointed out that if I had kicked her like she said, she should have had a bruise to the inside of her ankle or foot.

Emma’s grandmother is in a home in Social Circle, Ga. This past summer was not the first time Emma had seen her. She saw her twice as a baby. Emma has photos of herself with her grandmother. Her grandmother was never interested in spending time with Emma.

Emma claimed to be frightened of her mother for several years, but Phill told me that she became frightened of me after she claimed I started abusing her which said said was when she quit throwing up in December. We had always been very close. Emma frequently want to sit, snuggle, and talk “girl talk” and did not want her dad in on our conversations. Emma frequently told me things and asked me not to tell Phill. Most of the time, these things were harmless, and I never verified the stories she told me because I thought there was no reason to,but I later found out she’d told me many lies about other kids she knew from school that were not true.

Dr. Born did not talk to me alone. He only asked me about our family history and Emma’s health history. He did not verify what Emma had told him, nor did he talk to my husband and I about problems we’ve had with her over the years. He did not get Emma’s medical history, nor her history from Peachford Hospital. I specifically put a note in the papers I filled out for Dr. Born, requesting that if he wanted to talk to me, to do so privately because Emma gets angry if I talk about her. Emma became very angry when she found out Phill and I had gone to talk to her therapist without her. I explained that we were trying to work on things as parents and needed to talk to Suzie about how to help our family. Emma accused me of going there to say “horrible” things about her.

Emma went to JCCHS in 9^th grade.

Emma was the interim organist, along with another high schooler for about 6 weeks in 2010 at St. Mary and St. Martha’s in Brasleton. Also, she’s had 3 piano teachers, not 5, and started taking lessons in kindergarten or first grade, not in preschool.

Emma became very socially isolated after she told us about the molestation and did not want to do things with other kids, quit the youth group, etc. Before she told us about the molestation, she was very active in church, the youth group secretary, atteneded church Wednesday nights, in a choir, and a neighborhood bible study group. Emma may have wanted to leave the church over a boy that she liked who had quit paying attention to her. Also, her grades in Physics and Spanish, the two classes she hated, were poor when she told us about the molestation. She spent a lot of time on the computer, chatting with other kids, and not doing her work. She may have made up the molestation to take the focus off her grades because it was always important to her to make good grades and be known as a smart girl.

In 2009, Emma turned on her dad, telling me he called her a “bitch” and a “slut” every single day. She told me that she didn’t like her dad, etc. She was rude and belligerent towards him, and made a point of hugging me and smiling as if she were trying to show she loved me and not him. She and I had many arguments over the way she treated her dad, and I told her I would not listen to her saying these things that weren’t true. I tried to discuss with her what a good person her dad was and how he took care of us, supported us so that I could stay home with her, etc.

In March of 2010, Emma told us she was molested. She would tell me one thing when Phill wasn’t around, and then tell him another. She told me she wanted to see the man punished, and the church punished for how they did not handle her complaint, etc., which resulted in us finding an attorney.

In Dec., our attorney had just e-mailed me that he was going to be filing the lawsuit against the church and this man, but I waited to tell him Emma that the suit was to be filed. A week after I told Emma, she had someone call DFACS on me to claim I was physically abusing her. I believe she wanted to stop the lawsuit because the molestation never happened. Now, instead of being a victim of molestation, she could be a victim of child abuse.

Emma’s Psychological Evaluation

Posted on August 5, 2012 by losingemma

(Updated Aug. 15, 2012)

Emma Katherine Roey (Emma Kate Roey)

Dr. Richard Born who was chosen to do Emma’s psychological evaluation was basically a name drawn out of a hat. Phill and I knew nothing about what was involved in a Psych Eval., and I have since learned that he did a pretty sorry job . For one thing, an LCSW told me that there was no reason (other than $$) for him to do an IQ test on Emma. We had her SAT scores. I don’t remember now what her score was, something like 2060, I think. I was told that an IQ test is done to see how functional a child is, and it wasn’t necessary in Emma’s case.

Another thing I was told was that Dr. Born should have interviewed Phill and I separately, Phill and I together, and the three of us together. This was not done.

Because I took Emma to her first appointment with Dr. Born, I typed up a note for him that basically explained the situation and asked if he wanted to speak to me, to do so privately. Emma was angry at me all the time, and I knew I could not speak in front of her because it would make things worse at home.

Dr. Born never spoke to me privately, but spoke to Emma and I together. Of course, I could not talk freely with him. Also, As I type up the Psychological Evaluation, I will point out many of Emma’s lies that she told Dr. Born.

I am posting the psychological evaluation, with my comments added in, using Italics.

Applied Psychological Health

Richard Born, Ph.D. LLC

One Huntington Rd., #205

Athens, Ga. 30606
706-543-7605

http://www.appliedpsychhealth.com

Referral Information: Emma Roey is a 17 year old female from Hoschton, Ga. who is referred for psychological evaluation following repeated episodes of unusual behavior that has been described as being “seizure-like.” She has also been observed to enter into what was described as a state of “catatonia.” The catatonia behavior was exhibited on 12/31/2010 during a session with her therapist, Suzie McGarvey. At that time Emma was transported to Peachford Hospital in Atlanta. she was then subsequently sent to Scottish Rite Hospital for further medical consulatation and then was admitted to Peachford Hospital where she stayed until her release on 01/04/2011. Her therapist described Emma as going into a state of catatonia during a counseling session and just sitting very still and staring for approximately 5 hours. (Note: I believe the whole dramatic event went on for about 3 hours.) She did not lose consciousness but was not responsive to attempts to communicate with her. This episode occurred following a 10 day period that was extremely stressful and involved Emma alleging physical abuse perpetuated by her mother. Following her discharge from Peachford Emma reportedly has had additional abnormal psychiatric episodes. These episodes would involve her becoming very quiet and still followed by intense muscle contraction and thrashing around of her limbs. following this her muscles would become limp for a short period of time and then she would have further muscle contraction and thrashing. Her therapist reports that these episdoes have also involved urinary loss of control. Emma reports having four of these episodes during the month of January, and according to Emma they all took place while she was riding in the car with her mother.

Note: Actually, there were six episodes and four of them took place with her dad. Four of them took place on her way to Jefferson High School, which she hated, and blamed me for the fact that she was going there. She screamed at me many times that I had given up homeschooling her and it was all my fault. One episode was with her dad in Suzie McGarvey’s office, and the other was when her dad was driving her to Peachford (Psychiatric) Hospital for a week of daily outpatient care.

More from Dr. Born:
There are a couple of situational factors that appear important in assessing Emma’s recent difficulties. The first situational factor has to do with Emma’s allegations of being the victim of repeated sexual molestation by the priest at her church that occurred over a period of several months when she was 12 years old. She was an acolyte at the time and reports that the molestation would occur in the women’s restroom following church services. Emma reports that she kept information about this to herself for several years until an [sic] call from a friend who was in the hospital following being a victim of rape. Emma states that hearing this information “stirred something up in me that kept eating at me.” She reports that she first revealed this information to her father and then to a church youth leader. She reports that she is not sure how her mother found out about the information but states that her mother finally confronted her about the information on May 21 2010. The person who she alleged had molested her was functioning as an interim rector at the time and had since moved on to a different church. The church reportedly did conduct an investigation but this examiner does not know the details and specific outcome. Based upon the information available at the time of this evaluation it appears the the allegations were seen as being credible. As a result of these allegations psychological therapy was initiated for emma and she became a client of victim’s support agency, Social Empowerment.

Note: I’ve already confirmed that the rape never happened, so I won’t go into that here. Never happened. There was nothing to stir up. Emma did, however, tell her dad and I that her friend was raped. We had gone to pick her up at her church youth group, and Emma ran up to me in the parish hall and told me her friend had called her from the ER, hysterical, and had been raped. Emma was very upset. Because it was Emma’s birthday, Phill and I stayed for birthday cake with the youth group, and I talked to one of the youth leaders about what Emma had told me. Emma came up to us, when I was talking to the youth leader, and she could tell by the way the conversation stopped, what we were talking about. I don’t remember what she said, but walking out to the car, she was very angry with me for telling her youth leader. (This is the same youth leader that Emma later told Dr. Born that she spoke with about the “molestation.”)

Another interesting lie here is that Emma states I “confronted” her about the information on May 21, 2010. First off, the date was March 21, 2010, which I believe was just an error on Dr. Born’s part, but there was no confrontation. Emma told her dad and I that she had been molested on the evening of her dad’s birthday, March 21, 2010. There was no confrontation.

The Social Empowerment Center (SEC) did not get involved with Emma at this time. That would not come until Jan. of 2011, after Emma accused me of abuse. SEC works for DFACS and was sent to us through DFACS.

Dr. Born once again:

The other signigicant situational stressor occurred around the date of her 17th birthday in December of 2010. It is reported that Emma was at home with her mother and they were having conflicts that eventually led to physical altercations. Emma repports that she was attempting to show her mother how to operate the computer to watch a TV show on-lilne when the computer malfunctioned and her mother apparently become [sic] frustrated and angry with her. Emma reports that her mother shoved her into a wall and twisted her arm behind her back. Emma also reports that during an interaction with her mother in the kitchen that her mother kicked her foot into the corner of a kitchen peninsula causing a toe injury. Emma also reports that a third altercation occurred a couple of days later while they were both again in the kitchen. She reports that she and her mother were arguing and her mother picked up a pot and struck her with it. Emma reports that Emma called a family friend to obtain emotional support and apparently the information eventually led to a telephone call to the Department of Family and Children’s Services who immediately pursued an investigation. Emma was removed from the home and went to stay with a family friend who was a priest and his wife. These individuals had to leave town for the Christmas break and Emma then went to stay with a friend of her mother’s for 5 days and then went to stay with one of her friends and his family for the next 3 days. During the week between Christmas and New Year’s Emma and her father had a conference with the DFACS workers. Then at her therapy session on December 31, her father announced to Emma that she was coming home. It was apparently at this time that Emma exhibited the first episode where she became in a trance-like state and non-responsive. she was subsequently transported to Peachford Hospital where she remained until her discharge on January 4. Emma reports no conscious memory of this event, stating that her first memory was when she was in an ambulance being transported to Scottish Rite Hospital from Peachford Hospital.

There are so many lies here, I don’t even know where to begin. First off, two of the dates that Emma gave DFAC where she claimed I abused her were Jan 17th, when she went with her dad to Marietta for a Dr.’s appointment, and her dad was with her all day. I was out Christmas shopping for Emma and did not see her until we all got home late that afternoon. Her dad was off work that day and home the rest of the day, so there was no time for me to abuse her.

Emma told DFACS that I hit/shoved/kicked her foot (I’m not sure which one she claimed that day.) on her birthday. I guess she knew she was caught in a lie, so she changed the story for Dr. Born and added the word “around.” It makes it easier to lie if you are much more general.

The only time Emma and I were alone on her birthday, was when we went to church. Phill woke up not feeling well that day, so Emma and I went to Sunday School and Church without him. The church is very small, and there may have been 10 people at Sunday school. I mentioned to Fr. George that it was Emma’s birthday, and everyone said Happy Birthday or spoke to Emma. She smiled, chatted with folks, and seemed to enjoy all the attention. Later on, she would tell Phill that she was angry with me for telling the pastor it was her birthday. That was something new. Her whole life, Emma always enjoyed having people know it was her birthday, and all the attention she got on her birthday.

After we came home from church, Phill still wasn’t feeling well. We had planned to go out to dinner for Emma’s birthday, but Phill told Emma we’d have to go another day when he felt better. Later, Emma complained to her therapist that her birthday wasn’t “special” and we didn’t take her out for dinner on her birthday, although Phill fixed some cheese fondue that he’d picked up from Costco for us to try, and Emma loved it. We had also gotten a cheesecake, which for the past few years was always what Emma requested instead of a birthday cake.

That afternoon, Emma was in her bathroom, and Phill and I were on the other side of the house. We heard a slam and Emma screamed, and we both went running to see what happened. Emma claimed to have “accidentally” kicked the cabinet in her bathroom. Because Emma had a small bathroom, I didn’t understand how she could have done this, but I was just glad she was ok, and didn’t question her story. She held up her foot for me to look at, and I had her wiggle her toes and told her I thought she was ok. Emma asked me what they do for broken toes, and I told her I didn’t think hers were broken, and that they didn’t usually do much but splint broken toes.

Later, Emma’s therapist, Suzie McGarvey, pointed out to me, that if Emma claimed I kicked her foot into the kitchen “peninsula” they should have checked the inside of her foot/ankle because she would have had a bruise there as well.

On Emma’s birthday, and the two days that followed, I thought she was acting oddly, but couldn’t put my finger on as to why. She just seemed like she hated me. Several times, I caught her staring at me with a look I had never seen on her face before. I later told her therapist, Suzie McGarvey, about it, and I think I described it as pure hate. A couple of times, when she was glaring at me, I asked, “What is wrong with you?” and Emma would turn away quickly and say, “Nothing.” It made me uncomfortable, but I had no idea what this child was about to pull.

As for the tv show incident, we had been watching from the beginning, Criminal Minds. (I’m sad to say I think Emma may have gotten some ideas from this program.) I believe it was the night DFACS came to our home (I have tons of notes, so I’ll have to look back to be sure, but I’m fairly sure it was on that night.) that Emma told DFACS that I hit her with the handle of a pot. (She again changed the story for Dr. Born.) When I was interviewed by DFACS they told me this, and I said, “The handle of a pot? How do you even do that?” The two women who interviewed me acted like that thought hadn’t even occurred to them, and agreed that it didn’t make sense.

When Emma went to stay with Fr. George and Paulette Ivey of Holy Trinity Anglican church, Fr. George and Paulette later told me of the drama Emma pulled at their home. It was common for Emma to have low blood pressure because she didn’t drink enough fluids. As a result of this, she frequently got dizzy. It was nothing serious, but while at their home, Emma had some “dizzy” episodes, and Paulette told me later that she thought Emma was faking because she did it so dramatically and laid out on the floor like she was posing, not like someone who fainted.

Another interesting note is that when Emma states she went to stay with “a friend of her mother’s for 5 days.” Let me just say a few words about this “friend.”

Janice, is one of my best friends. We have volunteered together for about 7 years, and we talk on the phone several times a week. Because Emma used to volunteer with the dog/cat rescue with me, she was as close to Janice as I was and called her “Aunt Janice”. When Janice would call, Emma often ran to answer the phone, and would talk to Janice for 15 or 20 minutes before she’d even let me have the phone, often talking to Janice longer than I did. We celebrated each others’ birthdays, and we spent Thanksgivings and Christmases dinners together. Janice was always good to Emma on her birthday and Christmas, and came to see Emma when the church youth hosted a Sock Hop. Emma sent Janice her English papers, and Janice would go over them for grammar and punctuation errors. When Emma went to stay with Janice, she was very upset because I wouldn’t let her stay with another friend, and she lied to Janice the whole time she was at her home. Janice was shocked to see the child she knew and loved acting like she did in her home. Emma had been to Janice’s home many times, but she told DFACS she was afraid to stay there. Because of Emma’s bizarre behavior, Janice documented it after Emma left her home. I am enclosing Janice’s statement:

December 28, 2010

Dear Counselors,

I hope that you will take the time to read my account of Emma Roey’s short stay at my house while in DFCS custody. I realize that I am not a pertinent party in this case. I have also included some additional information regarding my relationship with Emma.

I have known Emma and the Roeys for nearly 6 years now. Emma, her Mom Jerri, and Dad Phill foster dogs with the same rescue group for which I volunteer. Emma has always been a most respectful, well-mannered, reasonable, intelligent child and young lady. She has called me Aunt Janice for a long time. We have spent Thanksgivings and Christmases together for years now. If I ever asked for Emma to fill a water bowl for a dog at adoption she did it willingly and with no problem. Emma was “the perfect child”. Over the last several months Emma has been emailing her English papers and book reports to me for proof reading. She was very appreciative of my helping. When I would call her Mom to chat and Emma answered the phone we would talk at length about various things and events at school etc. Then she would turn the phone over to her Mom.

The Emma who was at my house was not the Emma I know. She lied to me within the first few hours of being here and continued to do so during the next several days as I will explain below. She was very disrespectful and defiant and I have never seen her like this before.

Friday December 24, 2010 10:30 AM

Emma was brought to my house by Father George Ivey and his wife Paulette. Emma had been with them since being removed from her home earlier in the week. All Emma’s clothes and belongings were put in a second master bedroom in my home. The room has its own dressing room and bathroom.

Later in the day Emma was in her room and eating candy and drinking a Coke. I noticed a big box of candy and a tin of popcorn on the chest of drawers. I casually asked who the gifts of popcorn and chocolate were from and she said they were from Father George and his wife. I said that was nice. I also noticed several foil crumpled candy wrappers that I picked up and threw away They were on the dresser, chest of drawers, and bathroom vanity. I explained to her that I really did not want her to eat and drink in the room and that I would prefer the food be removed. I asked her not to eat in the room for three reasons:

1 – I did not want bugs and

2 – I did not want the dogs to accidently find some chocolate or foil and get sick from it

3 – I did not want a wagging tail to cause something to spill on the floor

(I have 4 dogs and 2 foster dogs living here)

There was a big box of candy wrapped with a bow, a large tin of popcorn also with a bow on the top, an open bag of Reese’s Pieces, and a Christmas paper bag containing Snickers, candy canes, a partially eaten candy bar, and an apple. There were crumbs of chocolate on the chest of drawers and that is why I decided to move the food to another room. I got a shopping bag and put the above food items in the bag. I asked Emma if this was all the candy in the room and she said that it was. I told Emma I would put them in the kitchen. Because of space and needing to prepare Christmas dinner I put the shopping bag on a table in the garage. Emma made a point to tell me the candy and the popcorn had not been opened.

I mentioned to her father Phill when I spoke to him that I had taken the gifts of popcorn and candy out of Emma’s room because I did not want food in there and mentioned to him that Emma said they were from Father George.

Some residents of my neighborhood set of fireworks in the evening on December 24th and then later again around midnight. After the first round I did tell Emma that they were just fireworks and that even at Easter the neighbors set them off around here. Emma was worried about the popping noises.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Emma slept until about 10 or 11 AM and then took a 2 or 3 hour nap in the afternoon until her Aunt Lee called to wish her Merry Christmas. That evening Emma asked if I had any sleeping pills she could take. I replied that I did not.

Phill dropped off several bags of clothes for Emma to wear. One item he brought looked like it was a pair of jeans. When Emma saw it she said it was a pair of capris and she could not wear them this time of year. When they were folded up one could not tell they were not full length jeans. Phill did bring some sweat pants for Emma also. Emma had some jeans to wear that she brought with her as well.

On Christmas day Emma ate a good plate of food and some Christmas cookies for dessert. Later in the day I think she was sewing in her room and I went to say something to her. I noticed another what I thought was a crumpled candy wrapper on a chair. I picked it up and started unfolding it and Emma shot off the bed and tried to grab it from me. She said it was a receipt from the store and that Paulette had given her money to get something. I told her that I would just keep the receipt and let Father George have it when she went back to stay with them. When I got a chance to look at the receipt I noticed it was not a cash receipt but an American Express charge receipt so that did not jive with what Emma had said. I also noticed that it was from a Walgreen’s in Lawrenceville, GA and that the receipt was dated December 23, 2010 at 8:19 AM.

In further reviewing the receipt I noticed there were 2 charges:

1- a Tracfone and

2- a prepaid card for it.

I mentioned this to Phill next time I spoke to him. He said he would ask Father George about it. Father George confirmed he did not buy the phone or prepaid card and that a lady named Sandy, who was a friend of the Roeys, had dropped the can of popcorn and candy bags off on Thursday. It was assumed by him that the phone was in with the gifts. I then looked at the tin of popcorn and found that it had been opened by Emma and one of the three bags of popcorn in it was 2/3 empty. Emma had told me previously neither the candy nor popcorn had been opened. I assume the Tracfone was hidden in the popcorn tin. I don’t know why she would lie about the candy and popcorn tin not being opened unless she thought if they were not opened then I would not remove them from the room.

Each evening after I went upstairs to bed Emma went in the kitchen got a soft drink from the refrigerator and took it to her room (after me asking her not to eat or drink in there). She also helped herself to more Christmas cookies from the cookie tins on the kitchen table. I did a lot of baking this year and had quite a few cookies. I am not mentioning this because of what she ate or drank because I made the cookies to eat and gave many of them away as gifts. I am simply stating this to show the pattern of defiance that I noticed all the while she was here and also the high degree of sugar she consumed.

Sunday December 26, 2010

I spoke on the phone to Emma’s Mom Jerri on Sunday and mentioned the candy, etc. I admitted that Emma had had a good bit of sweets while here. Emma normally does not even drink a soft drink when she has come to my house to visit. She usually has iced tea or water. She has stated many times that she does not drink soft drinks. The fact that she had so many while here was out of character. On Friday when she arrived she had 3 cokes that I know of. She could have had more after I went to bed. Anyway, Jerri suggested she not take the candy with her when she left my house.

Monday Morning December 26, 2010

Emma packed her things and asked for the shopping bag of candy and popcorn. I told her that I would rather she not take that and it could be delivered to her later. She told me that if I had been talking to her parents that I had no right to do that. She said that DFCS said I was not to have any conversations with either of her parents at all. I was certainly not told this and later found out this was not true but “made up” also. Furthermore I did not think a 17 year old young lady had any business telling me who I could and could not talk to in my own home.

After returning home from leaving Emma with the counselors I went to the room Emma was staying in to get the sheets off the bed to wash them and also clean the room. I found the waste basket in the bathroom had foil candy wrappers, outside packaging for a roll of Life Savers, and a soft drink can.

I did not set out to find problems with Emma. It just seemed that if I asked any casual question she made up and answer to keep from telling me the truth. This was very unlike her.

I sincerely hope that you can help her and get to the real cause of her problems. She had such a bright future.

In regards to Jerri – she is a sweet, giving, warm person who would do anything for anybody. She is the picture of a caretaker and nurse, which she is – a registered nurse. Her foster dogs love her dearly and after adopted occasionally come to visit her at PetsMart. They are all wiggles and joy at seeing her again. They all receive kind and compassionate care with her. I believe this carries through to all other facets of her life.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and bless you for helping Emma.

Sincerely,

Janice

ADDENDUM:

April 7, 2011

As a follow up to the above statements I am adding the following:

I am not sure why Emma continued to lie about the “gifts” from Father George and Paulette and the Tracfone story as well. We later found the gifts and phone came from Sandy. But at this time Sandy was not suspected of any problem related to Emma and by Emma just stating the gifts and phone were from Sandy would not have aroused any suspicion.

After Phill monitored Emma’s cell phone calls he found that Emma was talking for hours late in the night with her adult friend Sandy.

Apparently this whole DFACS event was because Emma wanted to live with Sandy. She did not want to be at my house or anybody else’s house.

Sandy even called Father George on Christmas vacation in Tennessee to plead with him to suggest that he intercede on Emma’s behalf and suggest to DFACS that Emma be allowed to stay with Sandy and her and her family.

Emma told her therapist that she could not come back to my house to stay because she heard shooting at night. I had already told Emma that the noises were fireworks and she knew that. – yet another lie in an attempt to get to Sandy’s.

Emma has not wanted to face me since she was here at Christmas. I think she knows she lied to me repeatedly and defied me about keeping food in the bedroom and that I know she lied. Furthermore, Emma states that she does not remember even being in my house over Christmas.

On the cookie issue –

I had all the cookies in tins on the kitchen table. After Emma left I started consolidating the cookies so as not to have so many tins out. Because I do so much baking I keep a spreadsheet with the ingredients for each cookie and the quantity in dozens that each cookie makes. I do this so when I go shopping I can look at the spreadsheet and get all the flour, sugar, preserves, nuts, etc that I need to do all the baking. When I consolidated the cookies I realized that Emma must have eaten 5 or 6 dozen cookies in the 3 days she was here – mostly one particular cookie. I determined this by checking the quantity that the recipe made and subtracting the number of cookies given as gifts as well as what I may have eaten and realized there were 5 or 6 dozen cookies missing. If nothing else this should have called for a diabetes check up but I think this may point to other problems with Emma since I later found out she would even pick a lock at home to get to sweets that were locked up so she could not get to them. I also would find cookie crumbs on the kitchen table in the morning. After dinner the night before I would wipe the table so there should have been not crumbs remaining from dinner.

On the day that Phill delivered some clothes for Emma I was outside helping him. The pills that Emma was to take were in a Sunday – Saturday pill dispenser on my kitchen counter. Emma was to take the Lexapro for one more week to wean herself off of it since we thought this pill is what caused all her confusion and hallucinations. After Phill left I went to give Emma her pills and they were no longer in the container. I asked Emma were they were. Emma said she had taken them.

I asked where the glass she used for water was. She responded that she had some Coke in her room (remember I asked her not to take food into the bedroom) from the night before and she drank that. I asked where the can was and her response was that she had already crushed it in the can crusher in the garage. I did not believe her but had no proof she did not take the pills. After that I put the pills where she could not find them and gave them to her myself and watched her take them. When her Mom and Dad took her possessions home from Peachford her Mom found pills in the bottom of one of her bags.

I believe now that Emma has a serious mental problem that no one is addressing and she is not receiving the help she needs. She is a very smart young lady and is apparently smarter than the therapists that are currently working with her.

Janice

Sadly, Emma cut off all contact with Janice, I guess deciding Janice was on the side of her mom, but more likely because Janice saw all the lies that Emma tried to pull, and saw the real Emma.

(More to come. This installment is too long for one sitting.)

(It will take me several days to post the entire Psych Eval., so I am stopping at this point and will continue later.)

Sending out a Letter

Posted on July 8, 2012 by losingemma

Dear Friends and Family,

Originally, I wrote this letter last summer, but my attorney wanted me to postpone sending it. After 26 years of marriage and being a stay-at-home mom, Phill took away my home and wanted to pay as little alimony as possible. Since I have had great difficulty finding work after being out of nursing for 17 years, and I was and am still dependent on Phill financially, I had to remain quiet until the divorce was final. I think this was probably a mistake, and I should have sent this out so Emma would have had to face what she’s done.
On April 7, 2011, unbeknownst to me, Phill filed a protective order against me. Two sheriffs arrived at my home, allowed me a few minutes to pack my personal belongings and leave the premises. I had to give them the keys to my home, and I had nowhere to go. I later found out that Phill and Emma had conspired to get me out of my own home under the pretense that I had been abusing my daughter. I was devastated. Not long after this, Phill told a neighbor that I had left them. Obviously, this was not true. I would like to share with you what preceded the divorce.

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On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Phill and I went to pick Emma up from a church youth group meeting. She ran to me as we entered the building, very upset, and told me that her friend, (X), an on-line friend whom Emma had never met in person, called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped.
Over the next few days, Emma claimed she tried to call (X) several times, but couldn’t reach her. She said she spoke to her older sister. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that (X) had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said (X’s) extended family had been over for a family gathering, when (X) had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed was found unresponsive by a family member, and then taken to the hospital. I did not know (X) or her family, so I was not going to call them about such a personal matter. This turned out to be a big mistake. Later on, Emma said that (X) told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was so (X) was afraid to talk about what happened. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how (X) was doing . Emma said that(X) was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that (X) also had been molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that (X’s) mother had breast cancer. She said (X) had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me that (X) had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that (X’s) mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive her cancer.
NOTE: It was not until Summer of 2011 that I found out for certain that Emma had lied about her friend. My attorney has spoken to the father of the young lady that Emma claimed was raped and called her from the hospital, and he has confirmed that it never happened, his daughter was not raped, was not in the hospital, never tried to commit suicide, and never counseled victims of molestation. He stated that (X) had never been in a hospital in her entire life and wasn’t even born in a hospital. I have spoken to the mother of Emma’s friend several times, and she did have breast cancer, but did very well with outpatient treatment, and she was NEVER hospitalized and never dying. The friend’s mother also sent me copies of e-mails Emma sent to her friend, and I found many more lies in those letters.

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On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested, by a former priest, at our church when she was 12 years old. At this time, the man Emma accused of molesting her was running for public office. Because of what Emma did, he had to temporarily drop out of the political race he was in. At the time Emma told us this, she had been babysitting and teaching for about a year and a half, a friend’s little girl whose father was going on trial for sexually abusing her. Emma also spent a year co-teaching the little girl’s Sunday school class. We were friends with the little girl’s mother and grandmother. I believe Emma got the idea for the molestation story because her relationship with this little girl. Also, Emma was fascinated by stories of children being kidnapped or murdered, like Elizabeth Smart and Jaycee Dugard.
Phill and I whole-heartedly believed Emma when she told us she had been molested. We reported it to the church, and because of our frustration at the way we felt the church tried to sweep it under the rug, we decided to talk to some attorneys. Emma wrote to Allen Hunt, (WSB radio) who e-mailed her the name of an attorney. He also called this attorney about Emma and we went to see him. This attorney believed Emma as well, and wanted to take our case and sue the church. Emma later told Phill that I forced her to write Allen Hunt, but the fact is that she asked me to write him, and I suggested she do it because I thought her letter would mean more if she wrote it herself.

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In Dec. of 2010, about a week after I had told Emma that the attorney was ready to file the law suit, Emma had someone call DFACS to say that I was physically abusing her. I was in bed asleep when 3 men from the sheriff’s department showed up at the door to check on Emma. I had no idea what was going on, and DFACS came and removed Emma from our home. Later on, when I was interviewed by DFACS, I was able to refute almost every accusation made by Emma. Two of the dates that she said I supposedly abused her, her dad was with her all day. One was her birthday, when Phill was off and home all day, and one was a day when he took her to the Dr. in Marietta and I was out Christmas shopping for her. (It is interesting to note that Emma claimed her friend was raped on her 16th birthday, she told us about being “molested” on her Dad’s birthday, and she claimed I abused her on her 17th birthday). I believe Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit because she knew her lies would be discovered if the case went to court.
After Emma accused me of abuse, I began to suspect that the molestation story wasn’t true, and by claiming to need to get on the computer when I was using it, Emma saw an e-mail I’d written so my sister, mentioning my suspicions and that one of the therapists suggested Emma might be schizophrenic. Because of the DFACS involvement, Emma had to see some therapists provided by DFACS. She was also seeing a therapist that Phill and I took her to. I found out later, that Emma was allowed to say whatever she wanted to her therapists, and because of patient confidentiality, no one verified her stories. I had no idea what Emma was saying to her therapists, but thought she needed someone to talk to. I should have suspected something because when the therapists would leave the house, not wanting to pry, I would just ask if things went ok. Emma could never look me in the eye after meeting with her therapists. I just assumed she didn’t want to talk and tried to give her some space and privacy. I did not know that Emma was continuing to tell her therapists lies about her mother being abusive.

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Phill and I took away Emma’s cell phone and computer privileges without supervision. Emma was very angry about this, and very angry to return to public school. I was upset over being accused of abuse, I told her she would not be going to college her senior year of high school and could finish high school at the public school before she started college.

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We also insisted that Emma do her homework in the living room or at the dining room table where we could keep an eye on her. Emma began spending a lot of time in her bathroom, claiming that she didn’t have time to drink at school, so she drank so much at home and, as a result, had to use the bathroom a lot. Because we found a friend had provided Emma with a trac phone, I had suspected she was up to something else with all the time in her bathroom, but did not know what. Later, Phill claimed he saw a bruise on Emma’s arm that she claimed I gave her. I believe now that she was working on creating this bruise during all the time she spent in the bathroom. She kept a cord hung on a mirror, and I suspect that is what she used to tighten around her arm to make it look like someone grabbed her.

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During late Feb. or early March of 2011, Phill claimed to the bruise on Emma’s arm. He did not tell me about the bruise until sometime later. I never saw it. He was taking her to school, and she happened to be wearing a t-shirt. Phill claimed that her jacket slipped down, and he saw the bruise she had tried to cover with makeup. This was when we were having some very cold weather, and Emma, who was always cold natured and always wore long sleeves, complained about how cold the school was, and came home from school and put her robe on over her clothes. One day, when Phill was off and driving Emma to school, she just happened to wear a t-shirt and just happened to let her jacket slip so he could see this bruise.
During this time, Emma had also taken an AP psychology course and had learned a lot about sexual and physical abuse, catatonia, etc.

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In March of last year, Emma told her therapist that she wanted to go live in a group home to get away from me. I felt this this would have probably been the best thing for Emma and that if she saw children who had been truly abused, she might have realized how good she had things. Phill was very upset over the thought of Emma leaving our home and wanted me to leave instead. I was never told exactly what I was accused of doing except Phill claimed that Emma said I shoved or pushed her and then “blocked it out” and had no memory of my actions. This was totally absurd. I asked Phill to install hidden cameras in the house so I could prove these things didn’t happen, but he said if I knew the cameras were there, I would not do these things. I argued with him that if Emma did not know cameras were in the house, and she tried to accuse me of abusing her, we would have proof that I didn’t. Phill refused to do this and sent Emma to stay with various neighbors or friends. When I refused to leave our home, and said we needed to work on this as a family, and get help for our family was when he filed a protective order and had me removed from our home. I never abused my daughter. In fact, we stopped spanking Emma when she was about 10 or 11 because spanking her did no good, and she started hitting us back.

Emma told the lie about her friend being raped and claimed it brought up repressed memories of her own “molestation” when she was 12 to: DFACS, the Jackson County Sherriff’s Department, the Gwinnett County police, four attorneys, 7 therapists, two psychiatrists, two psychologists, the staff at Peachford Psychiatric hospital, friends and family, church officials from two different churches, teachers, etc. and Phill doesn’t think Emma has a problem and called this “teenage drama”.

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While Emma does have a very high IQ and can be very charming, I believe she has some serious problems. For years, I was the mother she wanted to cuddle with and talk “girl talk” with. One of Emma’s therapists told us that Emma saw things as “You are either for Emma or against Emma.” with no middle ground. I believe, Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit, and then once she knew I suspected she was not molested, she turned on me with full force. Emma also was abusive to our family dog. She would walk into our lab/mix like he wasn’t there, forcing him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. She told me that she just didn’t like our dog, and that a few years before, she would hit and kick him when I wasn’t around. I thought she did and said these things to upset me, knowing how much I hate to see or hear about animals or children being abused, but once when my sister was visiting and Phill and I weren’t home, my sister saw Emma walk into our dog, to force him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. Even though this dog loved Emma, she would ignore him when she came home and he was happy to see her. She also complained anytime I let him go for a ride with us in the car even though he sat in the back and she sat in the front.

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I was heartbroken and stunned by what Phill and Emma did, and once I got my bearings, I began to investigate many stories Emma had told us. I am enclosing only a few of her stories here, and I have many, many more. Some of you will see yourselves in these stories.

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When Emma rode the bus to school, she told us many stories about some of the girls in the neighborhood that she sat with on the bus. According to Emma, at the beginning of the school year, one young lady in the neighborhood got high and drunk at a party and ended up pregnant. Emma came home after attending a birthday party with a couple of girls in the neighborhood and told me she was so upset because this friend had told her she had an abortion. Emma was crying, almost hysterically, when she told me the story. She stated that the girl’s parents had taken her to have the abortion. She claimed the friend did not tell her until after she had the abortion because she knew Emma would try to talk her out of it. At the end of the school year, Emma stated that this young lady thought she was pregnant again after the prom. Emma also mentioned a 9th grader, who had a 4 yr. old in 2008.
e-mail from a young lady in our neighborhood:
“Whoa, none of us have ever been pregnant, ever. And for that matter, none of us were promiscuous at all. These stories are starting to greatly irritate me because they are such blatant and horrible lies.”

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“(H) was a girl who had a baby when she was 16, back in 2008. So no, the child was not 4 (and still isn’t 4), but that baby does exist. No one had sex or ever smoked on the bus. “

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Emma also claimed that a friend in the neighborhood’s older brother had been arrested for marijuana and was in jail for the 2nd time. I checked with this friend, and this story was not true as well.

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Emma told us, while at JCCHS, that there were about 10 pregnant freshman girls in the school. A neighbor who works at JCCHS told me that there were 2 pregnant girls in the entire school that year.

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While attending JCCHS, Emma told us a story about a neighbor coming out to the school bus and in front of all the kids on the bus, telling the driver that her daughter could not sit with her boyfriend because the parents caught the kids having sex. Here is an excerpt from the neighbor’s e-mail:
“”Hello,
First, (A) was caught sneaking out of the house, but it was to go see the boy. I did not approach the bus driver however about where or with whom (A)sat.
Second, I met Emma one day while I was out walking and asked how she liked Jackson Co. HS. She told me she didn’t like it and had been sick and in the hospital. She said she had all A’s and had been making up the time and doing the work but she was told she was going to be failed anyway. I just remember how odd I thought this was because I volunteered at the HS counseling office once a week and I knew they had credit recovery in addition to knowing that the HS bent over backwards to try to work with students and get them graduated. I remember thinking that something just didn’t seem right and there had to be more to it however, as a volunteer, I did not feel it would have been appropriate for me to inquire into it further.”

(Name removed)
NOTE: Emma was NEVER the hospital that year. –J.R.

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Emma told Phill and I a story about being called over the PA system to the office at JCCHS, along with two other girls who rode the bus with her. She stated that they were checked by a police officer with a drug dog, after a boy in our subdivision reported them, saying they sold drugs on the bus. She went in to great detail about talking to the police officer and telling him that she volunteered with a rescue. She said after the police dog checked her over, the officer turned to the principal the assistant principal and said, “That would be a negative.” Below are e-mails from at JCCHS:
“The drug dogs are allowed in the parking lot, lockers, and inside classrooms with students out of the class. If administration has reason to believe that a student could possibly have drugs on them, the search is conducted by an administrator and usually the School Resource Officer. If females are involved, I am usually the one that completes the search. During the time your daughter was here, I was never involved in a search with her.
I checked Emma’s discipline record during the time she was enrolled at JCCHS-there is no record of any behavior issues. We don’t call students over the PA if they are going to be searched. An Assistant principal or the School Resource Officer goes to the classroom to get them. I hope this helps.

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Emma greatly exaggerated stories of drug use and pregnancy and JCCHS and Jefferson High School. Just after starting at JCCHS, she told us that her friends in the neighborhood talked about drug parties where kids took whatever they could get from their parents medicine cabinets and threw everything into a bowl and then just grabbed pills and took them. I later realized this was a story she read in Reader’s Digest (which we subscribed to) and when I looked up the article, it was the same month Emma had told me that story.
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Relayed to me by our pastor’s wife:
“On December 23, 2010, Emma told me that she had been employed to baby sit for the priest of Mary and Martha Episcopal Church in the Hamilton Mill community. She said that the son of the priest was bi-polar. She said that during the evening the son became so unruly that for her safety she had to lock herself in the bathroom and that she waited there until the parents returned to allow her to come out of the bathroom in a safe situation. It seemed to me that this was a bizarre and improbable story. She further told me that she called the police to come to the pastor’s house to protect her. It bears seeking the collaboration of the parents of the boy in question to be certain that she baby sat for them and that this circumstance truly occurred.
Please let me know if you need more information concerning this discussion with Emma.”
An e-mail from Fr.( B)who is the pastor of our current church:
“P. (name removed) is fighting a stomach virus last night and today that she got at school. She wanted me to add that Emma told her that she had called the police to protect her from the priest’s son during the night described. So, I have added it into this edited version of the e-mail to you. If we can help please let us know.
Fr. (B)
NOTE: Emma NEVER babysat for these children. She took a story that she had heard about the parents having to call 911 on their son, and made the story about herself. Emma disliked these boys immensely and told me many times that she would not babysit them if she had been asked.

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Below is a statement from Emma’s aunt:
“Dec. 19, 2010, I called Emma to wish her a happy birthday. I asked her what she got for her birthday, and she replied, “Not much.” And went on to explain that she and her mother had been shopping a few times in the weeks prior to her birthday, and the clothes they bought were for her birthday presents. When I asked her what kind of cake she was having, she replied that there was no cake and that they were going to have “some sort of fondue” for dinner.
The next day, I questioned my sister about Emma’s birthday, and she told me that Emma’s big present was a Netbook, which Emma was most excited about, and that Emma had received several smaller presents. I thought perhaps she hadn’t opened her presents when I called, but found out she had. When I asked about the clothes, her mother said she hadn’t gotten any clothes for her birthday.
I asked my sister if she’d gotten Emma a cake, and she replied that Emma had the cheesecake she requested, her favorite.”

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Note: Emma claimed I became upset and hit or shoved her on her birthday, and she bruised her toes in the incident. Her dad was home all day on her birthday and knows this did not happen. That afternoon, Emma “accidently” kicked the cabinet in her bathroom and screamed so loudly that her dad and I came running to see what happened. I examined her foot to make sure she was ok. She later had a bruise on this foot, and showed it to DFACS, claiming I gave her the bruise.
Emma later complained to her therapist that her17th birthday wasn’t special enough because her dad was sick and we didn’t take her out. At the same session, she also complained that her 16th birthday wasn’t special either. That year, she wanted clothes, so I took her shopping on three different occasions just before her birthday. In addition to several other gifts, she got over $400 worth of clothes that she picked out herself.
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An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to (X):

I was teaching my mom iris folding, the technique I used on the card I sent you (you should have it now). I love her, but it’s sooo hard to teach her. She has arthritis in her hands and she’s sooo slow. It’s like, I could do this ten times faster and not waste half the material she does, but it’s really important to her to do it herself. And on top of that, she gets really angry when I try to keep her from making mistakes. She wants to do it her way, but she will get really frustrated when hers don’t turn out as nicely as mine do (because she refuses to take my advice, which I give in a very respectful tone that still gets labeled “smart-a**”). It gets me so frustrated, because it’s not even fun for me anymore. What’s worse yet is when she wants to ‘help’ with my projects. But she invariably ruins them! So I mostly try to work when she’s not home.
Note: Emma and I had a lovely afternoon making iris-folded cards. Because my niece and a friend were having babies, we made a couple of baby cards and then a couple of all-occasion cards as well. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and having watched iris folding many times, it is a simple technique, and I had no difficulty making the cards. I have spent many hours teaching Emma beading and wire work (my hobbies). As far as “helping” Emma, she was well past the age where she needed my help with her arts and crafts, so this is a lie about me calling her names, taking over her projects, and “ruining” them. I was just the mother who spent tons of money on crafts for all the things Emma wanted to try like card making, knitting, crochet, beadwork, art, fabric, sewing lessons, ect. I was also the one who drove her to all the classes she wanted to take. Besides arts and crafts and sports, there was also drama, which she was very good at.
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When asked to dog sit for one of our Deer Creek neighbors, Emma went over so that she could be shown what to do, where the food was kept, etc. Emma came home and told me a great story about this lady being drunk when she got there. Emma put on a show, imitating this lady’s supposed drunk actions. It occurred to me later that this lady had asked Emma to come right when she got home from work, so it didn’t seem likely that this she could have been drunk. I have confirmed that this story wasn’t true. Again though, Emma knew I would not call this lady up to ask her if she had been drunk. ***************************************************************************
A friend, K. was going to the Cirque De Soliel and had an extra ticket, so she invited Emma to go. When Emma came home, she said she had a great time, but said something like, “You know how when you go to a movie or something and there’s someone near you that won’t quit talking, that was what K. and her mom were like.” She claimed that people around them kept looking at them , giving them dirty looks, etc. I thought this story was odd at the time, but I wasn’t going to call K. up and ask her. I had been thinking about this story a lot recently, so I asked K. about this story, and she said this story was not ture. She said that it was the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra with Cirque De Soliel, and that if you had been talking, they would ask you to leave. I’m not sure why Emma felt the need to make up a story like this to someone who was being so generous to her. **********************************************************
When the son of some Deer Creek neighbors’ passed away, Emma and I heard another neighbor speak, at the funeral, about a conversation he had with his young son about the death. Emma took that conversation and embellished it in a letter to her on-line friend:
“I was babysitting (C- 5 yrs) and (D– 7 yrs) and when I’d gotten there at 9am, (C) wasn’t awake yet. I went in at about 10 am to check on him. I could tell he wasn’t asleep, even though his eyes were closed. I said, “Come on, (C)! Breakfast time!” His eyes didn’t open and he said, “I’m not getting up,, Miss Em.” “Yes, you are! We’re going down to the lake after breakfast!: And eyes still stubbornly closed he replied, “I’m going to sleep until I wake up with (M-deceased child).
(X), I totally lost it. I just picked him up, held him in my arms, and cried. And then I saw (D) standing in the doorway. He came over and sat on the bed , put his little arm around me, and kept saying, “It’s ok, Miss Em, he didn’t mean it. …..”
Note, at this time, Emma had never even babysat the children she mentioned in the letter.

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I am enclosing a copy of my attorney’s letter once we started investigating some of the lies Emma has told. I thought when Phill found out Emma’s friend was never raped, he would see that she has a problem with telling the truth, but Phill told me this was just “teenage drama.” Emma has told lie after lie after lie, but Phill believes she was molested, and that her mother “abused” her. I believe Phill does not want to believe the truth about his own daughter, so getting rid of his wife was a way not to face his daughter’s problems.

Re: Roey v. Phillip Thomas Roey
Superior Court of Jackson County
Civil Action File No. M11CV0547

Dear ________:

As you know per our recent conversations, my client is insistent that the allegations made against her by her daughter are fabricated and completely baseless. She is extremely upset at what these allegations have done to her family and how they have destroyed her reputation. She is especially concerned with the mental health of her daughter and implores your client to seek the appropriate help for her.

At my client’s request, I am enclosing material obtained and prepared by my client evidencing serious issues with Emma Roey’s accusations and general truthfulness. You will see from the statements and documentation that Emma has serious issues with making up stories and does not seem to care who she hurts. For example, she has alleged a drug-sniffing dog came to her school, and she was called over the PA system to the office to be searched for drugs. Per the school official, it never happened. These types of allegations could have caused school officials and other children on the bus serious issues. She alleged that another child was so dangerous as to cause her to have to lock herself in a closet. She never babysat the child in question. This allegation seriously damages the reputation of a child.

Perhaps the most important discovery was her allegations that supposedly started the entire “memory” of her alleged molestation by a church official. She stated to her parents and counselors that she spoke with her friend Laura on her birthday, December 19, 2009. She alleged first that (X) was raped and in the hospital. She later alleged that (X) was in the hospital for attempted suicide after recalling a rape incident. We have contacted the (X)’s father. None of this ever happened. We are in the process of obtaining an affidavit from the Father (and X if necessary) stating that (X) was never in the hospital (his words were that she was not even BORN in a hospital), was never raped, never attempted suicide, etc., and she never told Emma anything of the sort happened. He states that he and his daughter have gone back through emails and other communication with Emma at the time and there was no mention of (X) in this condition in these communications.

It is extremely telling that the incident that supposedly led to Emma’s recollection of the sexual abuse NEVER HAPPENED. If the alleged triggering event never took place, it only stands to reason that the event that was allegedly triggered (sexual abuse) never happened. It is also curious that within one week of being informed that this sexual abuse case was to be filed, she alleges that my client physically abused her. The more reasonable explanation may be that Emma was scared that the real truth (that nothing happened) was about to come out, that someone might talk to (X), and that someone might start investigating her other “stories”. She then creates a fantastic tale of abuse about her mother to get the heat off of her. It is interesting that the sexual abuse case apparently has not been filed and it appears that, even after aggressively pursuing the action against the clergyman, neither Emma nor her father is pushing the case forward. It appears that she is now happy that the new story has covered the old one.

Emma Roey has presented her baseless allegations and one-sided information to your client and her counselors, and it appears that no one has made any attempt to look into the truthfulness of the allegations. My client does not believe that the counselors can adequately treat Emma without honest information. While I am not a psychologist, I think it would be relevant for the counselors to have information that might cause them to treat what may be a personality disorder rather than issues resulted from alleged abuse (physical and sexual). In order for my client to help with her own counseling, she has provided this information to her own counselor and it is my understanding that the counselor was concerned for Emma. It is my further understanding that the counselor is going to either forward the information to, or discuss the information with, the counselor for Emma.

If the allegations against my client and the minister (sexual allegations) are untrue, it would appear that Emma is willing to go to great lengths for attention and is willing to destroy anyone and anything. Your client may want to recall that he was the object of her accusations a couple of years ago (alleging that he called her vile names on a regular basis) and my client defended him, seeking treatment for the child. Emma needs help before she destroys herself and/or someone else. My client implores your client to review this information with an open mind and, if he will, work together with my client to both help the child and help this family. I am sure that if he both looks at this information and reviews other incidents using common sense, and not the protectiveness that all of us parents have concerning our children, he will come to the correct conclusion and want to help his daughter.

Please call me with any questions or if I can be of assistance. Both my client and I want to see Emma get help and for the family to begin healing.
Yours very truly,

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False Police Report Filed by Emma

In 2012, Emma filed a false report with the police. I don’t know exactly when the report was made, but I am guessing that it was the night I was at my women’s small group, down the street from our home. Emma was a part of the group for 6 years, so she knows the schedule of when we meet. I would guess that she probably checked to see if my car was there. Emma does not have a protective order against me. That expired in April of 2011 after Phill took out the protective order against me. Also, I have witnesses who went with me and left with me. My attorney does not even want me to go to my own home to collect my belongings because he fears for my own safety or that Phill or Emma will claim something else that didn’t happen. I can assure you, I’m not going anywhere near Emma. She has worked at the Mall of Ga. Chik-fil-a for months, and I won’t even go to the mall without a witness. She’s my daughter, and I love her, but she has some serious problems. I believe she is mentally ill. After discussing our family with therapists, counselors, and social workers, I am afraid that Phill and I did not see a lot of warning signs we should have picked up on over the years. This is a child who snow-balled one story into another. She would rather destroy her own family than admit to her lies. I am very concerned for Emma’s future, and for what she may do to those around her.

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As I stated earlier, this letter contains only a few of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I have many more, and you can contact me if you are interested in reading further. My attorney has a record of all the original e-mails and confirmations of witnesses who verified that Emma told them things that were untrue. He has spoken to many of these people himself. I’m sure what we have is just part of a collection, and that there is much more that hasn’t even been uncovered. If you have any questions or comments about anything Emma may have said, please feel free to contact me. Now that the divorce is final, I will be taking this story public. I will also be keeping a blog and posting the entire story here:

https://losingemma.wordpress.com

Addendum:

On Aug. 13, 2012, I had dinner with some friends in my old Deer Creek neighborhood, down the street from my former home. I was there from about 6-9pm, and after I left, Phill, who was somewhere up north, on the road for UPS, called my old neighbors to ask if I was moving in with them. They had no idea what he was talking about. He told them that Emma had seen my car at their house and was afraid to be home alone. I’m not sure why a 3 hour visit warranted a call to see if I was moving in with my old neighbors. I have not seen Emma for 1 year and 5 months. I don’t believe Emma is afraid of me. I believe Emma is afraid to face me.

Losing Emma

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