The Other Question I Get Asked

Posted on August 19, 2013 by losingemma

(Edited Aug. 22, 2013 I forgot about the cruise)

(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July 2012 and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now living in Liberty Township, Ohio at the home of her fiance’s grandparents, attending Wright State University, and talking about getting married. Emma claims her mother poisoned her with DDT and that she had to move to Ohio to get away from her mother. She also claims her future mother-in-law, lives in fear that Emma’s mother will show up and kill her entire family.)

Phill got our Buck Trail, Hoschton home in the divorce. I couldn’t have afforded it by myself anyway. While Phill got the house, I still own half the items in the house. Phill has only let me have a few things out of the house. I have no idea if he still has my things or has gotten rid of them. When I tried to call him in Dec. of 2012, he had my phone number blocked. Before that, the last time I spoke to him on the phone was in Sept. of 2011. (Maybe I called him too much?)

The question I get asked quite frequently is if I thought there was something odd going on between Phill and Emma, and I’ve already answered that. No, I didn’t.

The other question I get asked is if there was another woman. Well, at first I didn’t think so. I loved and trusted my husband. What can I say? Maybe I was stupid. At times, I joked that Emma was the other woman, and in some ways she was. After Phill had me thrown out of my home, he and Emma did everything together: drinking beer with the neighbors (Emma didn’t drink, but it was odd for a 17 year old to be sitting over at the neighbors with 6 or 8 middle aged people who were sitting around drinking beer.) Occasionally, we went out to dinner with some of Phill’s coworkers from UPS, and Emma posted on her facebook about doing that. She was taking her mom’s place. Another time, Phill posted on his face book a picture of Emma at some bar/restaurant where they went to to hear a band. Phill took Emma to the Georgia Aquarium, something I’d talked about us doing as a family, and he took Emma white water rafting, something I’d asked him about doing with the church youth group. Phill took Emma out more that he took his wife out. Also, we’d been talking about some kind of big family trip after Emma graduated high school. Phill and I never took a trip on our 20th anniversary or our 25th anniversary, so I always knew we’d do something special on our 30th in 2014. We were planning on taking some kind of trip as a family after Emma graduated high school. Well, Phill and Emma took a cruise, but I wasn’t invited.

Was there another woman? I have no idea. Phill had always said if he wanted to have an affair, he was smart enough to cover his tracks. He was an over the road truck driver, a computer geek, and way smarter than I’ll ever be. I know this was true, but I always thought he was committed to the marriage and I didn’t have anything to worry about.

Before Phill and I were married, we agreed that if we ever had problems, we would go to marriage counseling before calling it quits. Phill went to marriage counseling one time, and he took Emma with him. We could not ride together because he wanted to take Emma. (During this time, Emma was staying at a neighbor’s.) Phill dropped Emma off at the mall, and we met at the counselor’s. I remember how odd it was that he wanted to hold my hand while we sat in the counselor’s waiting room, but when we were in her office, he told the counselor he believed Emma that I was a child abuser. When I tried to point out how some of the things Emma said could not be true, he wouldn’t hear it.

Things did not go well with the therapist, but Phill agreed to a second appointment. A few days later he refused to go back, and I had to cancel the appointment. After we left the therapist’s office, he picked up Emma and they went out to dinner while I went home alone. The only reason I found out that they went out to dinner was because later, Phill carelessly threw the receipt away in the bathroom trash basket, and I happened to notice it.

Later, after Phill had initiated the divorce, I turned over some of the lies I had uncovered about Emma to my attorney, and he in turn, turned over everything to Phill’s attorney. Of course, the biggest lie was that the supposed catalyst for Emma remembering being molested, the rape of her friend Lacey, never happened. I thought that Emma would have to back down on her story, and Phill would apologize and maybe there was hope for saving the family, but for whatever reason, Phill’s excuse was that all the lies I uncovered were because other people told them to Emma. Lacey told Emma she was raped and that she tried to commit suicide. The girl down the street told Emma she was pregnant and had an abortion…………….. Phill refused to believe Emma made up any of these stories. It was all someone else’s fault.

Was Phill that stupid that he was completely snowed by his daughter’s stories? I’ve been told I’m a fool not to believe there was another woman. The only thing I know is that right after the divorce was final, an old girlfriend of Phill’s showed up on his facebook. When I first met Phill, he was in love with Ruth Lindemann, of Danville Ill. She married a friend of his named Eric, and the only time I knew of Phill hearing from her was when she sent him a Christmas card the first year we were married. As a young wife, I was pretty insecure about my husband receiving a card from a former love, especially because to track down his address, I was pretty sure she would have known he was married, and yet my name was not included on the card. Also, she did not sign her husband’s name on the card, but simply, “Love Roo.” Perhaps she was already divorced at the time. Could it be a coincidence that 30 years later, just as his divorce is final, Ruth showed up on Phill’s facebook page? When Phill was home, he spent hours everyday out on the sun porch on the computer. I did not often know what he was doing, and did not try to look at what was on his computer.

Phill and I have now been divorced for over a year. I have no idea who he’s involved with or if he is remarried. It doesn’t really matter. You can live up to the vows you make, but that’s all you can do. You have no control over your spouse, and if he chooses to break the vows he made, you just have to move on.

I really want to get back to Emma’s story, but since I have been asked these two questions so many times, I wanted to take the time to address them.

Emma and Her Dad

Posted on August 10, 2013 by losingemma

I’ve been asked this over and over again, I will address it and move on. Did I think my husband was molesting out daughter? The police and attorneys told us that in many cases, children accuse someone of this crime because the someone who is molesting them, is someone closer to them, such as a family member.

No, I have never, ever thought that Phill was molesting his daughter.

Another question I get asked is why did Phill want a divorce? Why, after finding out about all Emma’s lies, was Phill so complicit in going along with Emma? Why would Phill not want to get to the bottom of whatever the problem was and save his family? Why did Phill not want to get to the truth? What kind of man lets his wife take the blame for something he knows she didn’t do? Was there another woman? Was Phill using Emma because he wanted a divorce, just like Emma was using Phill to cover up her lies?

As a matter of fact, an old girlfriend, whom I didn’t even know Phill had been in touch with for all the years of our marriage, showed up on his facebook as soon as the divorce was final. Coincidence?

I will tell you about her in my next post.

About Those Criminal Charges…

Posted on August 4, 2013 by losingemma

(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now living in Ohio with her some of her boyfriend’s family, attending Wright State, and talking about getting marriede.)

A few people contacted me by phone or e-mail, concerned that I was actually going to be facing criminal charges, but that last post was more of a joke. (It’s been 2 1/2 years of hell, but I have survived with my sense of humor intact.) Emma did not do her research this time and has been going around telling people that her mother poisoned her over the years with DDT. She claims to have the toxicology report that proves it. Those of you who know Emma know that she had issues with frequent vomiting, so her excuse is that she threw up because her mother was poisoning her. Depending on whom her audience is, she may accuse me of Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy or outright attempted murder. Sometimes she has claimed that I started poisoning her because I was angry that she was “molested.” My attorney would love to have a copy of the toxicology report, but I think we’ll be waiting quite a while on that one.

(As for the Van Munchausen by Proxy, no, Emma, I did not enjoy all those doctor visits, hospital visits, tests, etc. It was definitely not my idea of fun, but something I did because I wanted you to get well.)

I’ve recently heard some things Emma has been saying about her fiance’s family.. Of course, I don’t know what is true and what isn’t, having never met these folks, but I think when some of these stories get back to the Buchheims, Emma my wear out her welcome with Tyler’s family. Tyler’s grandparents have so graciously taken her in so that she could live closer to Tyler.

Of course, as a mother, I want to see Emma get her act together, try to make amends for some of the damage she has done, and get on the right path. It is difficult and painful to see this very bright young woman, who once dreamed of being a pediatrician, a politician, a nurse, or a counselor, hurting so many people. She had such a promising future, and she still could, but right now, I’m afraid for anyone in Emma’s way of getting what she wants. One of my biggest fears is that Emma seems to lack a conscience.

Early on, when Emma turned on me, I saw something like this on a friend’s facebook page:

I was afraid to post it because Emma would probably accuse me of threatening her. In may case, just ignore the part about “hunt you down” and “stalk you.” I just want to make that clear, otherwise Emma’s going to be calling the police and accusing me of stalking her. Right now, I feel pretty safe posting this while she is in Ohio, and I am several states away!

Again, I thank those of you who have contacted me and offered encouragement or shared your stories about your experiences with Emma. If you want to contact me privately, you can do so: losingemma@gmail.com I will keep all e-mails confidential.

More to come…..

Waiting on Criminal Charges

Posted on July 21, 2013 by losingemma

Emma and the children of her “Other Mother.” Derek and Johnathan McCravy. You can read about Emma’s other mother, Sandi (Sandra Brooks McCravy) in the June 18 post below.

Updated July 22, 2013
One of Emma’s (Emma Roey, Emma Kate Roey, Emma Katherine Roey) more recent claims is that her mother was POISONING her. She claims to have the toxicology report that she and her dad had done. I can assure you, dear readers, that my attorney is anxiously waiting on this report since I will be facing criminal charges at that point. Actually, I am deliberately leaving out exactly what Emma claims to have poisoned with, and I will write more about this topic at a later date. Emma made a big mistake when she picked her poison (pun intended).

Emma also says she had to move to Ohio to get away from her mother, who is dangerous. This would be the same mother she has not seen in over two years. More likely, as a psychologist explained to me when Emma started with this, “I was an abused child” nonsense, Emma needed a new audience. Emma is now on her 3rd college, and as people figure her out, she will keep moving around. There were too many people in Georgia who were on to Emma. She didn’t last long at Piedmont College (Demorest Ga.) and I have to wonder if while living in the dorm, were the other kids figuring her out? Before Emma even went to off to college, someone mentioned to me that dorms can be brutal, kids are smart, and Emma would not be able to pull the kind of stuff of that she had already.

Another thing the psychologist told me was that if i wasn’t around, Emma would find someone else to turn on, and it sounds like this is already occurring with Emma turning on her boyfriend’s family. Some of the stories she is telling about them have gotten back to me. I have not met T. or his parents, but I’m seriously doubting some of the things I’ve heard that Emma is saying about them.

Emma talks about getting married soon. As a mother, of course it is very painful not to be in my daughter’s life, not included in her wedding plans, etc., but I also know how sad this whole thing is. How can a child who has caused so much destruction be ready to take on something as serious as marriage. I feel for T. and his family and I hate to think of the pain she will bring them, but as a parent, I understand that Emma is 19 and going to do whatever she is going to do. You have to let go, and let your children go out on their own. My situation was a little different because I didn’t let go, but was thrown out of my home, but still, Emma has to live with the consequences of her actions. Sooner or later, she will have to quit blaming others for her own faults and mistakes.

As for marriage, well, around the time Emma accused the priest of sexually molesting her, she was also interested in becoming an emancipated minor. What teen doesn’t want to leave their parents’ home and not have to follow the rules. That is not unusual.
I had had a friend, several years before, who had been an emancipated minor, and Emma brought it up many times, asking me about it. Emma often told me that she could do that, get her own place and take care of herself. I would tell her how lucky she was that she didn’t have to, and I think it took Emma a while to realize that being independent meant getting a job, paying the bills, and not having a daddy who did all that for you. Emma went to great extremes to get her independence but still be financially supported by her daddy. She wanted her independence, but didn’t want the hard work and responsibility that went along with it. Now, this child who wanted so badly to be independent, wants to get married at the age of 19.

I have been receiving information about Emma from friends of hers and/or her dad. Some people have just wanted to fill me in on things Emma has said, some people have wanted to give me their stories of their dealings with Emma, and many of you have wanted to ask me some questions. I am happy to answer any questions, so please continue to write and/or call. I will be addressing some of these questions on the blog as well.

Many of you have been great armchair therapists, sending me your thoughts and information. One close friend had even made many of the same predictions that the psychologist made, and was definitely much better at reading Emma than the local therapists we took her to. I have a lot to write about Emma and these “professionals”. One social worker told me that 4 out of 5 therapists aren’t worth their salt, and from our experiences, I definitely believe that’s true.

Pathological lying? Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Borderline Personality? BiPolar? You all have provided me with some interesting reading. So…………if I’m not in jail with an attempted murder charge, I will keep posting. If I am in jail, just call to find out the visitors’ hours. I’m sure I’ll be ready for some company.

Recent Emma Tales

Posted on July 14, 2013 by losingemma

I want to thank those of you who have shared your stories of encounters with Emma. I am compiling these stories in a file, but will respect the privacy of those of you who’ve contacted me. Sadly, while up in Liberty Township, Ohio, with Merrie and Albert Knopp, the grandparents of her boyfriend, Tyler Buchheim, an architecture student at Notre Dame, Emma continues to tell some tall tales, and I am finding they are not just about me, but about others close to her. I will be publishing these stories at a later date, but since they are still coming in, I don’t feel ready to do that right now. I will not be able to share all the stories because I don’t want to write anything that might give away the people who have confided in me. One thing I do appreciate though, by sharing your stories with me, these stories have answered some questions about Emma’s behavior that I had.

If anyone else has any questions about anything Emma has said, please feel free to contact me. I will answer all e-mails privately.

Chapter 3 Emma Accuses a Priest

Posted on June 25, 2013 by losingemma

Updated July 13, 2013

I’ve added more to this post, so if you have read it, you may want to reread.
(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now living in Ohio with her some of her boyfriend’s family and talking about getting married to Tyler Buchheim, an architecture student at Notre Dame.)
Chapter 3

Emma Accuses a Priest

Up to 10% of child abuse claims turn out to be false.

On her Dad’s 52^nd birthday, Sunday, March 21, 2010, Emma told us she’d been molested.

Sundays were usually a family/church day. We went to church and Sunday school in the mornings, and then took Emma back to church for her youth group in the evenings. Emma had been the secretary to the youth group, and enjoyed the position. Maybe it was her need for control, but Emma liked knowing what was going on with everyone and keeping tabs on who was coming to what. The only complaint I heard about her was from a couple of adults who mentioned that Emma was a little pushy and somewhat rude in some of her e-mails, being a little bit ugly when people did not respond to her requests for head counts and such. I tried to discuss this with Emma, occasionally proof read her e-mails and point out that she needed to be a little more polite in her writing, but of course this did not go over well.

I don’t really remember what we did on that day. I think it was a quiet day, and it may have been the year that I’d found a recipe for brussell sprout stuffed meatballs, which sounded like something Phill would love, and I spent the afternoon cooking. Emma went to her youth group, and Phill picked her up and brought her home.

That night, I was sitting in bed, reading, when Phill came in and said Emma had something to tell us. Emma hemmed and hawed about wanting to tell us, but not wanting to tell us, and finally said she had been molested by someone at church. Again, Emma went back and forth about telling us and not wanting to tell us who it was. My mind seemed to be going about a million miles an hour. I could not see how it could happen. Emma was never more than a few minutes away from me. If I didn’t know where she was or who she was with, I went to check on her. When she served as an acolyte, I would go downstairs to the Parish Hall after church, and if Emma didn’t show up within a few minutes, I would go back upstairs to check on her. I couldn’t understand how Emma could have been molested. I couldn’t think of anyone who would have had access to Emma long enough to molest her. Phill had suspected a gentleman who trained the acolytes. That was something I could not see because when the acolytes were training, they were always in a group.

I got upset and kept asking Emma, “Who?………Who molested you?” and told Emma to answer me. Finally, Emma cried and said, “He Baptized my dad!” Phill and I knew immediately whom she was referring to. Phill was baptized by an interim priest who served at our church for one year. This gentleman was retired and worked as a supply priest, filling in for different parishes and had agreed to serve at our church the year our priest left and the church was in the long process of looking for a new priest.
To file a complaint with the church, we had to write up a statement. Emma was reluctant to do this, and I had to push her to get it done. She and I wrote up her statement, and here is an excerpt of her description of what happened:
The first time it happened was after I had taken off my vestments and went across the hall to the ladies’ room. I was wearing shoes with a strap, and they were a bit too big for me. The strap kept falling down, so I stopped, just inside the doorway, to fix it. He walked in behind me, closed and locked the door. I didn’t know what was going to happen, but I knew something was wrong. I was really scared. I backed up against the wall. I could see he was saying something because his lips were moving, but I think I was scared and shocked and didn’t really hear what he said. I couldn’t move. I just stood there and watched him. He was still talking, and he looked angry. I started to cry, and I closed my eyes. I could feel him lift up my dress and pull down my panties. He stuck his fingers inside me. I kept crying. I don’t know how long it lasted. It seemed like a long time, but it wasn’t. Afterwards, I was starting to process a little of what was happening. He told me he was going to baptize my dad, which I already knew, and he told me that if I told my family about this it would break my dad’s faith and tear my family apart. He washed his hands, then he went out of the restroom and closed the door behind him. I stood there crying for a few minutes, then I dried my face and went downstairs. I was very careful about how I acted; I believed what he said about my family, and I wanted so much for my dad to be baptized. So I acted like nothing had happened, and I didn’t tell anyone.

It happened four times after that. The only difference was that after the first time, it always happened in the sacristy. He would shut the door and do the same thing. And he always told me that if I told anyone, I would break my dad’s new faith. The times were about a month apart, until he left the church. Occasionally I would get unrobed and downstairs fast enough that he didn’t have a chance, so it didn’t happen every time I served.

Some side notes:

Does it seem a little odd that Emma claimed her friend had been raped on her birthday, just a few months before, and then announces her own story of molestation on her dad’s birthday?

There was one other thing that was odd that night. Several months before, Emma had overheard something and had been carrying it around, ruminating on it, and possibly, like on many other occasions, I believe Emma may have taken something she heard and made the story about herself. Emma heard something about a case of molestation, and months later, Emma had to be the victim of molestation. Did she really believe she was molested? Did she need to top the story she’d heard? Several people have mentioned to me that Emma may be a pathological liar. Some of the characteristics of a pathological liar seem to suit Emma:

1. The stories told are not entirely improbable and often have some element of truth.

2. The stories told tend toward presenting the liar favorably. For example, the person might be presented as being fantastically brave, knowing or being related to many famous people.

Another interesting point about pathological liars is that the average age of onset it 16 years old, the age Emma was when she told us she was molested.

Looking back on Emma’s lies, there was usually some element of truth to her stories. For example, she talked about drug parties at school after reading about the drug parties in the Reader’s Digest.

Emma told a story about having to call 911 on a boy she was babysitting, and that she had to lock herself in the bathroom, although she never babysat that child, BUT she had heard about the parents having to call 911 on their son. This lie also put Emma in a favorable light, showing how brave she was.

Emma told stories about her friends on the school bus. According to Emma, the four girls she rode the bus with all drank, and/or smoked, and/or did drugs, and/or were having sex, etc.

I have many more lies to share, but you can see a pattern of 1) some element of truth and 2) Emma portrayed as favorable in her stories.

I’m not trying to diagnose Emma. I am just a mom, and will share from a mother’s perspective. After so many people mentioned their own thoughts to me, I had to look up and read about pathological lying, and I can see why people would think that about Emma.

Sandra Brooks McCravy lying for Emma

Posted on June 18, 2013 by losingemma

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Another Interesting Offer

Posted on April 21, 2013 by losingemma

(Updated April 30, 2013. See pictures below.)

I received a call recently from someone from a television show called “The Test.” Mind you, I don’t even have a television that works, so I know very little about what is on television. My husband was so kind as to give me a television that stopped working shortly after he gave it to me, so I asked for an old television that was out in the garage he had wanted to get rid of. (At the time, we had 4 televisions.) Along with all my other things, I never got it.

In December, I tried to call Phill (Phillip Roey) about a dentist bill that he was supposed to have paid when we were married, and found out he blocked my number. The last time I had called him was in Sept. of the year before, while we were still married. This is a man who can not face the truth about his daughter and would rather throw away his wife. Apparently, calling your husband once every 15 months must be some sort of harassment, and Phill felt the need to block my phone calls as well as keep all my things. Occasionally, I’ve wondered how Phill will resolve all this when he is willing to admit what a terrible mistake he made. Of course, he discovered that his daughter lied about her friend being raped, lied about a neighbor whom Emma claimed was a real slut, drug user, and had abortion(s), lied about one of her closest friend’s, Kayla Benefield’s mother and grandparents, claiming the grandparents were white supremacists, etc., and he still couldn’t question his daughter about her lies, so I don’t expect that to really change. This is a man in real denial and, as his own attorney put it, letting Emma run the show.

But, I digress. This blog is about Emma. When I get it all written for the book, Phill will have his own sections, but right now I want to focus on Emma and her problems.

Unfortunately, after 3 weeks in Europe, I am working a lot these next few weeks, so I have no time coming up to work on my writing. I will probably write a few short essays. I do have something planned for Mother’s Day about Sandra Brooks McCravy, Emma’s new mommy, so stay tuned for that.

Sandra Brooks McCravy, Sandi McCravy and Emma (Emma Kate Roey, Emma Katherine Roey)

Derek and Johnathan McCravy and Emma (Emma Kate Roey, Emma Katherine Roey)

Sooooooooooo, the other night, after work, I discovered I had a message on my phone from a television show called “The Test” and it is done by Dr. Phil’s son or something. Apparently, they take stories like ours and put them through the test, whether it be DNA, Polygraphs, etc. As much as Emma is proud of her acting skills, and as much as she likes attention, she might want to do this, but I still don’t think she would go on this type of show because she’s too afraid of being found out.

Thanks for tuning in. I really didn’t want to get snarky on this page, but some of it is going to get ugly. I will be happy to take down this page anytime Emma wants me to. She knows what she needs to do.

(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man, Tyler Buchheim., originally from Liberty Township, Ohio, who is an architecture student at Notre Dame (fromerly of Lakota High School, West Chester, Ohio.) Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for Tyler’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )

Emma Ready for Marriage?

Posted on February 26, 2013 by losingemma

April 15, 2013

Thanks to those of you for the e-mails of encouragement that I have received, and for your concern because I haven’t posted in a while. I had a few weeks of internet problems and then I was out of the country for 3 weeks, so I am back, ready to get to work and finish writing the story of Emma. And to those of you who asked how I am doing, I am doing well, thanks. Yes, I was devastated for quite some time over what Emma did. I felt like I’d been hit by a truck I never saw coming, but what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and I’m getting stronger everyday. I am fortunate enough to have work that I like and know I make a difference. I work with some great people. Amazingly enough, I have a pretty great life. God is good. That doesn’t mean I still don’t have some bad days. Talk to someone who was falsely accused, and it’s something you never completely get over, but you get back on your feet, take charge, and go on.

What can you say about a child whom the Dr. Phil show would like to have on as a guest? I recently received calls from two of the assistants from the show. Anyone that knows me knows I am a fairly private person, so tv is not my cup of tea, but I think Emma would love the attention except for the fact that she would be too afraid of someone would get to the truth.

Later, I will be posting some of Emma’s writings on her need for control. Emma got control, but at what cost? Cost doesn’t matter as long as she got what she wanted. She destroyed her parents marriage and her lies cost her dad a ton of money. In addition to wrecking two cars that her dad got her, the attorneys fees were huge, her dad lost half his IRA, 401K, and his pension. He also had to refinance our home which, at the time, was almost paid for.

Sometimes, thinking along the lines of cartoon superheroes, I wonder what Emma could have accomplished if she had used her powers for good instead of evil. Look at how much she’s accomplished. Yes, she did some horrible things, in fact, quite a few horrible things. Imagine what Emma could have done if she put all that energy into doing something good instead of destroying the reputation of a priest and of her own mother. Does Emma have a conscience? Is she a pathological liar? Another form of mental illness? I will be sharing the story and you can make the decision for yourself.

(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to a young man named T. . Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope for T’s sake, Emma gets some help before she gets married. )

I have been very busy and have not had a lot of time to work on the blog. Thank you to those of you who have written, asking how I am. I will continue to tell the story of Emma. It may just take me a while to get it all down.

As you can see from some of Emma’s posts to Pinterest, she definitely has marriage on her mind. I find this interesting after her lies so greatly contributed to destroying her own parents’ marriage. Emma had no respect for her own parents’ marriage, so it will be interesting to see what happens in her own. I can’t tell you how many people have told me Emma will find out the hard way when what goes around comes around. Several people have also me they believe in karma, and that Emma is setting herself up for a fall. Personally, I feel like starting out a marriage on as many lies as Emma has under her belt is a disaster waiting to happen.
I did receive a not from T’s mom, S. of xxx, who said Emma and T. are not engaged, so I really wonder why Emma is telling people she is. Perhaps she is, perhaps she isn’t. Either way, she’s got marriage on her mind.

Emma’s Need for Control

Posted on February 3, 2013 by losingemma

(If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma is now attending Piedmont college in Demorest, Ga. She has been telling people she is engaged to Tyler Buchheim, an architecture student at Notre Dame University. Emma does not care who she hurts to get what she wants, and I hope Emma gets some help before she gets married.)

I have a stack of letters that Emma wrote to her friend “Lacey”, the on-line friend that Emma called her “best friend” whom she had never actually met in person and who Emma claimed was raped and tried to commit suicide. This young lady was kind enough to turn over all the documents from Emma. I will be posting these documents on the blog at a later date.
In one of the e-mails, Emma mentioned her need for being in control. This is almost ironic, as Emma called her mother a “control freak” and claimed I “micro-managed” her life. Part of the reason Emma turned so viciously on her mother was because by getting rid of her, Emma gained complete control. Her dad was on the road for several days a week, and what more could a teenage girl want than to be in control of the family home by getting mom out of the way and with dad being on the road? Dad had the purse strings, so she couldn’t get rid of him completely, but Emma could use him to her full advantage by getting rid of mom. It’s also ironic that Emma is thinking so much about marriage after she destroyed her parents marriage with her lies. But then, she got away with accusing an innocent man of sexually abusing her, so what’s a divorce in the grand scheme of things?

One of the things Emma took control over was her education. Emma went to Jackson County Comprehensive High School for 9th grade. At first she loved the school and the freedom, but then hated the school, exaggerated stories about drinking, drugs, sex, pregnancy, claimed that African American kids got preferential treatment, told stories about cross dressers, and claimed that her drama group was full of lesbians. She ended up throwing up so much, that we took her out during the 2nd semester, and she finished school on line. We decided to let her continue with on line school for 10th grade, and that was when she made up the rape and molestation stories. Emma never made any friends as JCCHS, and then after the molestation story, Emma became even more isolated, not attending church, youth group, etc., so we decided to put her in Jefferson High School for 11th grade. Again, Emma hated public school, and hated me for putting her there. When I would pick Emma up from school, I always had to wait for her, so if the weather was nice, I would put the windows down in the car. When Emma got into the car, she would not speak until either I put the windows up or we were out of earshot of the other kids whom she called, “The Creepers.” Emma wanted to start college early, but after I she pulled her little DFACS stunt, I told her that would not be happening and that she would be finishing 12th grade at Jefferson High School. Emma knew, by getting rid of her mother, she would be able to get out of the school she hated so much. She was able to start college, and her dad even got her a car (one of two that she totaled, I was told later). Emma was in full control. I will go into more detail about our experience with Jefferson High School (Jefferson, Ga.) later.

Stay tuned for Chapter Three which will be the story of Emma Accusing the Priest of Molesting Her, and I am also about to start an essay about Emma Getting Married. Below is a picture of Emma next to a cabinet that Phill got me for my 50th birthday. Emma was jealous of the money Phill spent on me and griped that I did not need and did not deserve the cabinet.

Emma, A GCU student! (Emma Roey, Emma Katherine Roey, Emma Kate Roey, Sophie Buchheim)
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