7/15/12 Working on the Blog

I’m figuring out how to do the blog.  I’m also hoping to be able to add pictures.  If I were a writer, I’d be laying everything out and trying to put it in order, but I think in this case, I will create topic and then go in and work on them, add to them, edit, etc.  I really need a computer class to learn!

I will give each therapist or counseling center their own page, as well as some of the people involved.  Out of respect for privacy, I will either change names or not use names at all of people Emma hurt.

Some of the topics I will be covering are as follows:

 

 

Sandra Brooks McCravy, probably had the biggest influence on Emma doing what she did.  I had no idea that they had an inappropriate relationship going on, talking on the phone late at night, after we thought Emma was asleep.  Sandy was a friend of mine for about 7 years, mostly because she sort of latched on to me.  I did like her though, but considered her very needy.  She usually called me anywhere from a few to several times a week, usually in crisis.  Phill called her “High Maintenance” and often joked that I had to “talk her down.”   She was very high strung and would get upset with her family and want someone to listen.  Occasionally, I got annoyed that she would call and never even ask, “How are you?” but go on and on about her problems.  She was always upset with her mother because she said her mother favored her sister, a former beauty queen, and favored her sister’s children over her own.  She would call me from the bathtub when she was loaded down with  pillows, cookies, and brownies (no water though) and had had an argument with her husband.   She was in therapy with Dr. Genie Burnett at Manna Treatment for years (that should have told me something there), had a history of laxative abuse, seeing a psychiatrist, on psych meds, etc.  There’s a lot more to tell there, but I’ll save that for her own section.  Sandy did have her good points, and one day Emma and I got into a conversation about friendships, and I told her that no friendship is 50-50, and used Sandy for an example.  I told Emma that Sandy was very needy, and as long as I recognized that, it was fine.  If I had been a needy person, and needed as much attention as she did, I’m sure the friendship wouldn’t have worked.

Dr. Genie Burnett (“Oh, I’ve been on and off antidepressants for years!”) at Manna Treatment.

 

Suzie McGarvey, Lanier Counseling, who, even after finding out about lie after lie that Emma told, refused to contact my therapist so we could work on this as a family.

 

Dr. Richard Born, who, I’ve been told, did a very poor Psychological Evaluation on Emma.  She told him lie after lie, and he never looked into anything she said.  I was also told by several other professionals that to do a complete Psychological Evaluation, he should have interviewed me alone, Phill alone, Phill and I together (without Emma), and all three of us.  He did none of those things.

 

After DFACS got involved, they sent therapists from the Social Empowerment Center (SEC) to see Emma.  I’ve been told that therpists who work for DFACS are the bottom of the barrel, and I believe it after our experience!  This group seemed to have high turnover, as the best therapist, who met with Phill and I several times, left for another job, and two of them were young, or new grads with little experience and planned on getting their Master’s, so they weren’t exactly therpists, and I’m sure had no experience working with kids like Emma.

 

Well, that’s it for today.  This is going to take some work, but one day, the whole story will be out here.

 

 

 

Sending out a Letter

Dear Friends and Family,

Originally, I wrote this letter last summer, but my attorney wanted me to postpone sending it. After 26 years of marriage and being a stay-at-home mom, Phill took away my home and wanted to pay as little alimony as possible. Since I have had great difficulty finding work after being out of nursing for 17 years, and I was and am still dependent on Phill financially, I had to remain quiet until the divorce was final. I think this was probably a mistake, and I should have sent this out so Emma would have had to face what she’s done.
On April 7, 2011, unbeknownst to me, Phill filed a protective order against me. Two sheriffs arrived at my home, allowed me a few minutes to pack my personal belongings and leave the premises. I had to give them the keys to my home, and I had nowhere to go. I later found out that Phill and Emma had conspired to get me out of my own home under the pretense that I had been abusing my daughter. I was devastated. Not long after this, Phill told a neighbor that I had left them. Obviously, this was not true. I would like to share with you what preceded the divorce.

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On Dec. 19, 2009, her 16th birthday, Phill and I went to pick Emma up from a church youth group meeting. She ran to me as we entered the building, very upset, and told me that her friend, (X), an on-line friend whom Emma had never met in person, called her from the hospital, and told her that she had been raped.
Over the next few days, Emma claimed she tried to call (X) several times, but couldn’t reach her. She said she spoke to her older sister. Over that week Emma changed the story and said that (X) had been raped some time previously and was in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide. Emma said (X’s) extended family had been over for a family gathering, when (X) had taken some pills, laid down on her mother’s bed was found unresponsive by a family member, and then taken to the hospital. I did not know (X) or her family, so I was not going to call them about such a personal matter. This turned out to be a big mistake. Later on, Emma said that (X) told her that the man who raped her threatened to kill her family if she told anyone who he was so (X) was afraid to talk about what happened. Over the next couple of months , I asked Emma how (X) was doing . Emma said that(X) was in therapy and didn’t want to talk about what happened. Emma told me that (X) also had been molested as a child and volunteered with a group at her church that counseled or supported other victims of molestation.
Sometime during the summer of 2009, Emma told me that (X’s) mother had breast cancer. She said (X) had been homeschooled, but was going to public school for 10th grade because her mother was too sick to homeschool her. Emma told me that (X) had called or texted her to tell her that her mother was hospitalized several times that summer. On at least two occasions, Emma told me that (X’s) mom was so sick, that the doctors thought she might not survive her cancer.
NOTE: It was not until Summer of 2011 that I found out for certain that Emma had lied about her friend. My attorney has spoken to the father of the young lady that Emma claimed was raped and called her from the hospital, and he has confirmed that it never happened, his daughter was not raped, was not in the hospital, never tried to commit suicide, and never counseled victims of molestation. He stated that (X) had never been in a hospital in her entire life and wasn’t even born in a hospital. I have spoken to the mother of Emma’s friend several times, and she did have breast cancer, but did very well with outpatient treatment, and she was NEVER hospitalized and never dying. The friend’s mother also sent me copies of e-mails Emma sent to her friend, and I found many more lies in those letters.

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On March 21, 2010, her dad’s birthday, Emma told Phill and I that she had been molested, by a former priest, at our church when she was 12 years old. At this time, the man Emma accused of molesting her was running for public office. Because of what Emma did, he had to temporarily drop out of the political race he was in. At the time Emma told us this, she had been babysitting and teaching for about a year and a half, a friend’s little girl whose father was going on trial for sexually abusing her. Emma also spent a year co-teaching the little girl’s Sunday school class. We were friends with the little girl’s mother and grandmother. I believe Emma got the idea for the molestation story because her relationship with this little girl. Also, Emma was fascinated by stories of children being kidnapped or murdered, like Elizabeth Smart and Jaycee Dugard.
Phill and I whole-heartedly believed Emma when she told us she had been molested. We reported it to the church, and because of our frustration at the way we felt the church tried to sweep it under the rug, we decided to talk to some attorneys. Emma wrote to Allen Hunt, (WSB radio) who e-mailed her the name of an attorney. He also called this attorney about Emma and we went to see him. This attorney believed Emma as well, and wanted to take our case and sue the church. Emma later told Phill that I forced her to write Allen Hunt, but the fact is that she asked me to write him, and I suggested she do it because I thought her letter would mean more if she wrote it herself.

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In Dec. of 2010, about a week after I had told Emma that the attorney was ready to file the law suit, Emma had someone call DFACS to say that I was physically abusing her. I was in bed asleep when 3 men from the sheriff’s department showed up at the door to check on Emma. I had no idea what was going on, and DFACS came and removed Emma from our home. Later on, when I was interviewed by DFACS, I was able to refute almost every accusation made by Emma. Two of the dates that she said I supposedly abused her, her dad was with her all day. One was her birthday, when Phill was off and home all day, and one was a day when he took her to the Dr. in Marietta and I was out Christmas shopping for her. (It is interesting to note that Emma claimed her friend was raped on her 16th birthday, she told us about being “molested” on her Dad’s birthday, and she claimed I abused her on her 17th birthday). I believe Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit because she knew her lies would be discovered if the case went to court.
After Emma accused me of abuse, I began to suspect that the molestation story wasn’t true, and by claiming to need to get on the computer when I was using it, Emma saw an e-mail I’d written so my sister, mentioning my suspicions and that one of the therapists suggested Emma might be schizophrenic. Because of the DFACS involvement, Emma had to see some therapists provided by DFACS. She was also seeing a therapist that Phill and I took her to. I found out later, that Emma was allowed to say whatever she wanted to her therapists, and because of patient confidentiality, no one verified her stories. I had no idea what Emma was saying to her therapists, but thought she needed someone to talk to. I should have suspected something because when the therapists would leave the house, not wanting to pry, I would just ask if things went ok. Emma could never look me in the eye after meeting with her therapists. I just assumed she didn’t want to talk and tried to give her some space and privacy. I did not know that Emma was continuing to tell her therapists lies about her mother being abusive.

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Phill and I took away Emma’s cell phone and computer privileges without supervision. Emma was very angry about this, and very angry to return to public school. I was upset over being accused of abuse, I told her she would not be going to college her senior year of high school and could finish high school at the public school before she started college.

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We also insisted that Emma do her homework in the living room or at the dining room table where we could keep an eye on her. Emma began spending a lot of time in her bathroom, claiming that she didn’t have time to drink at school, so she drank so much at home and, as a result, had to use the bathroom a lot. Because we found a friend had provided Emma with a trac phone, I had suspected she was up to something else with all the time in her bathroom, but did not know what. Later, Phill claimed he saw a bruise on Emma’s arm that she claimed I gave her. I believe now that she was working on creating this bruise during all the time she spent in the bathroom. She kept a cord hung on a mirror, and I suspect that is what she used to tighten around her arm to make it look like someone grabbed her.

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During late Feb. or early March of 2011, Phill claimed to the bruise on Emma’s arm. He did not tell me about the bruise until sometime later. I never saw it. He was taking her to school, and she happened to be wearing a t-shirt. Phill claimed that her jacket slipped down, and he saw the bruise she had tried to cover with makeup. This was when we were having some very cold weather, and Emma, who was always cold natured and always wore long sleeves, complained about how cold the school was, and came home from school and put her robe on over her clothes. One day, when Phill was off and driving Emma to school, she just happened to wear a t-shirt and just happened to let her jacket slip so he could see this bruise.
During this time, Emma had also taken an AP psychology course and had learned a lot about sexual and physical abuse, catatonia, etc.

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In March of last year, Emma told her therapist that she wanted to go live in a group home to get away from me. I felt this this would have probably been the best thing for Emma and that if she saw children who had been truly abused, she might have realized how good she had things. Phill was very upset over the thought of Emma leaving our home and wanted me to leave instead. I was never told exactly what I was accused of doing except Phill claimed that Emma said I shoved or pushed her and then “blocked it out” and had no memory of my actions. This was totally absurd. I asked Phill to install hidden cameras in the house so I could prove these things didn’t happen, but he said if I knew the cameras were there, I would not do these things. I argued with him that if Emma did not know cameras were in the house, and she tried to accuse me of abusing her, we would have proof that I didn’t. Phill refused to do this and sent Emma to stay with various neighbors or friends. When I refused to leave our home, and said we needed to work on this as a family, and get help for our family was when he filed a protective order and had me removed from our home. I never abused my daughter. In fact, we stopped spanking Emma when she was about 10 or 11 because spanking her did no good, and she started hitting us back.

Emma told the lie about her friend being raped and claimed it brought up repressed memories of her own “molestation” when she was 12 to: DFACS, the Jackson County Sherriff’s Department, the Gwinnett County police, four attorneys, 7 therapists, two psychiatrists, two psychologists, the staff at Peachford Psychiatric hospital, friends and family, church officials from two different churches, teachers, etc. and Phill doesn’t think Emma has a problem and called this “teenage drama”.

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While Emma does have a very high IQ and can be very charming, I believe she has some serious problems. For years, I was the mother she wanted to cuddle with and talk “girl talk” with. One of Emma’s therapists told us that Emma saw things as “You are either for Emma or against Emma.” with no middle ground. I believe, Emma accused me of abuse to stop the law suit, and then once she knew I suspected she was not molested, she turned on me with full force. Emma also was abusive to our family dog. She would walk into our lab/mix like he wasn’t there, forcing him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. She told me that she just didn’t like our dog, and that a few years before, she would hit and kick him when I wasn’t around. I thought she did and said these things to upset me, knowing how much I hate to see or hear about animals or children being abused, but once when my sister was visiting and Phill and I weren’t home, my sister saw Emma walk into our dog, to force him to move out of her way, rather than walk around him. Even though this dog loved Emma, she would ignore him when she came home and he was happy to see her. She also complained anytime I let him go for a ride with us in the car even though he sat in the back and she sat in the front.

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I was heartbroken and stunned by what Phill and Emma did, and once I got my bearings, I began to investigate many stories Emma had told us. I am enclosing only a few of her stories here, and I have many, many more. Some of you will see yourselves in these stories.

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When Emma rode the bus to school, she told us many stories about some of the girls in the neighborhood that she sat with on the bus. According to Emma, at the beginning of the school year, one young lady in the neighborhood got high and drunk at a party and ended up pregnant. Emma came home after attending a birthday party with a couple of girls in the neighborhood and told me she was so upset because this friend had told her she had an abortion. Emma was crying, almost hysterically, when she told me the story. She stated that the girl’s parents had taken her to have the abortion. She claimed the friend did not tell her until after she had the abortion because she knew Emma would try to talk her out of it. At the end of the school year, Emma stated that this young lady thought she was pregnant again after the prom. Emma also mentioned a 9th grader, who had a 4 yr. old in 2008.
e-mail from a young lady in our neighborhood:
“Whoa, none of us have ever been pregnant, ever. And for that matter, none of us were promiscuous at all. These stories are starting to greatly irritate me because they are such blatant and horrible lies.”

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“(H) was a girl who had a baby when she was 16, back in 2008. So no, the child was not 4 (and still isn’t 4), but that baby does exist. No one had sex or ever smoked on the bus. “

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Emma also claimed that a friend in the neighborhood’s older brother had been arrested for marijuana and was in jail for the 2nd time. I checked with this friend, and this story was not true as well.

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Emma told us, while at JCCHS, that there were about 10 pregnant freshman girls in the school. A neighbor who works at JCCHS told me that there were 2 pregnant girls in the entire school that year.

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While attending JCCHS, Emma told us a story about a neighbor coming out to the school bus and in front of all the kids on the bus, telling the driver that her daughter could not sit with her boyfriend because the parents caught the kids having sex. Here is an excerpt from the neighbor’s e-mail:
“”Hello,
First, (A) was caught sneaking out of the house, but it was to go see the boy. I did not approach the bus driver however about where or with whom (A)sat.
Second, I met Emma one day while I was out walking and asked how she liked Jackson Co. HS. She told me she didn’t like it and had been sick and in the hospital. She said she had all A’s and had been making up the time and doing the work but she was told she was going to be failed anyway. I just remember how odd I thought this was because I volunteered at the HS counseling office once a week and I knew they had credit recovery in addition to knowing that the HS bent over backwards to try to work with students and get them graduated. I remember thinking that something just didn’t seem right and there had to be more to it however, as a volunteer, I did not feel it would have been appropriate for me to inquire into it further.”

(Name removed)
NOTE: Emma was NEVER the hospital that year. –J.R.

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Emma told Phill and I a story about being called over the PA system to the office at JCCHS, along with two other girls who rode the bus with her. She stated that they were checked by a police officer with a drug dog, after a boy in our subdivision reported them, saying they sold drugs on the bus. She went in to great detail about talking to the police officer and telling him that she volunteered with a rescue. She said after the police dog checked her over, the officer turned to the principal the assistant principal and said, “That would be a negative.” Below are e-mails from at JCCHS:
“The drug dogs are allowed in the parking lot, lockers, and inside classrooms with students out of the class. If administration has reason to believe that a student could possibly have drugs on them, the search is conducted by an administrator and usually the School Resource Officer. If females are involved, I am usually the one that completes the search. During the time your daughter was here, I was never involved in a search with her.
I checked Emma’s discipline record during the time she was enrolled at JCCHS-there is no record of any behavior issues. We don’t call students over the PA if they are going to be searched. An Assistant principal or the School Resource Officer goes to the classroom to get them. I hope this helps.

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Emma greatly exaggerated stories of drug use and pregnancy and JCCHS and Jefferson High School. Just after starting at JCCHS, she told us that her friends in the neighborhood talked about drug parties where kids took whatever they could get from their parents medicine cabinets and threw everything into a bowl and then just grabbed pills and took them. I later realized this was a story she read in Reader’s Digest (which we subscribed to) and when I looked up the article, it was the same month Emma had told me that story.
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Relayed to me by our pastor’s wife:
“On December 23, 2010, Emma told me that she had been employed to baby sit for the priest of Mary and Martha Episcopal Church in the Hamilton Mill community. She said that the son of the priest was bi-polar. She said that during the evening the son became so unruly that for her safety she had to lock herself in the bathroom and that she waited there until the parents returned to allow her to come out of the bathroom in a safe situation. It seemed to me that this was a bizarre and improbable story. She further told me that she called the police to come to the pastor’s house to protect her. It bears seeking the collaboration of the parents of the boy in question to be certain that she baby sat for them and that this circumstance truly occurred.
Please let me know if you need more information concerning this discussion with Emma.”
An e-mail from Fr.( B)who is the pastor of our current church:
“P. (name removed) is fighting a stomach virus last night and today that she got at school. She wanted me to add that Emma told her that she had called the police to protect her from the priest’s son during the night described. So, I have added it into this edited version of the e-mail to you. If we can help please let us know.
Fr. (B)
NOTE: Emma NEVER babysat for these children. She took a story that she had heard about the parents having to call 911 on their son, and made the story about herself. Emma disliked these boys immensely and told me many times that she would not babysit them if she had been asked.

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Below is a statement from Emma’s aunt:
“Dec. 19, 2010, I called Emma to wish her a happy birthday. I asked her what she got for her birthday, and she replied, “Not much.” And went on to explain that she and her mother had been shopping a few times in the weeks prior to her birthday, and the clothes they bought were for her birthday presents. When I asked her what kind of cake she was having, she replied that there was no cake and that they were going to have “some sort of fondue” for dinner.
The next day, I questioned my sister about Emma’s birthday, and she told me that Emma’s big present was a Netbook, which Emma was most excited about, and that Emma had received several smaller presents. I thought perhaps she hadn’t opened her presents when I called, but found out she had. When I asked about the clothes, her mother said she hadn’t gotten any clothes for her birthday.
I asked my sister if she’d gotten Emma a cake, and she replied that Emma had the cheesecake she requested, her favorite.”

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Note: Emma claimed I became upset and hit or shoved her on her birthday, and she bruised her toes in the incident. Her dad was home all day on her birthday and knows this did not happen. That afternoon, Emma “accidently” kicked the cabinet in her bathroom and screamed so loudly that her dad and I came running to see what happened. I examined her foot to make sure she was ok. She later had a bruise on this foot, and showed it to DFACS, claiming I gave her the bruise.
Emma later complained to her therapist that her17th birthday wasn’t special enough because her dad was sick and we didn’t take her out. At the same session, she also complained that her 16th birthday wasn’t special either. That year, she wanted clothes, so I took her shopping on three different occasions just before her birthday. In addition to several other gifts, she got over $400 worth of clothes that she picked out herself.
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An excerpt from a letter Emma wrote to (X):

I was teaching my mom iris folding, the technique I used on the card I sent you (you should have it now). I love her, but it’s sooo hard to teach her. She has arthritis in her hands and she’s sooo slow. It’s like, I could do this ten times faster and not waste half the material she does, but it’s really important to her to do it herself. And on top of that, she gets really angry when I try to keep her from making mistakes. She wants to do it her way, but she will get really frustrated when hers don’t turn out as nicely as mine do (because she refuses to take my advice, which I give in a very respectful tone that still gets labeled “smart-a**”). It gets me so frustrated, because it’s not even fun for me anymore. What’s worse yet is when she wants to ‘help’ with my projects. But she invariably ruins them! So I mostly try to work when she’s not home.
Note: Emma and I had a lovely afternoon making iris-folded cards. Because my niece and a friend were having babies, we made a couple of baby cards and then a couple of all-occasion cards as well. I do not have arthritis in my hands, and having watched iris folding many times, it is a simple technique, and I had no difficulty making the cards. I have spent many hours teaching Emma beading and wire work (my hobbies). As far as “helping” Emma, she was well past the age where she needed my help with her arts and crafts, so this is a lie about me calling her names, taking over her projects, and “ruining” them. I was just the mother who spent tons of money on crafts for all the things Emma wanted to try like card making, knitting, crochet, beadwork, art, fabric, sewing lessons, ect. I was also the one who drove her to all the classes she wanted to take. Besides arts and crafts and sports, there was also drama, which she was very good at.
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When asked to dog sit for one of our Deer Creek neighbors, Emma went over so that she could be shown what to do, where the food was kept, etc. Emma came home and told me a great story about this lady being drunk when she got there. Emma put on a show, imitating this lady’s supposed drunk actions. It occurred to me later that this lady had asked Emma to come right when she got home from work, so it didn’t seem likely that this she could have been drunk. I have confirmed that this story wasn’t true. Again though, Emma knew I would not call this lady up to ask her if she had been drunk. ***************************************************************************
A friend, K. was going to the Cirque De Soliel and had an extra ticket, so she invited Emma to go. When Emma came home, she said she had a great time, but said something like, “You know how when you go to a movie or something and there’s someone near you that won’t quit talking, that was what K. and her mom were like.” She claimed that people around them kept looking at them , giving them dirty looks, etc. I thought this story was odd at the time, but I wasn’t going to call K. up and ask her. I had been thinking about this story a lot recently, so I asked K. about this story, and she said this story was not ture. She said that it was the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra with Cirque De Soliel, and that if you had been talking, they would ask you to leave. I’m not sure why Emma felt the need to make up a story like this to someone who was being so generous to her. **********************************************************
When the son of some Deer Creek neighbors’ passed away, Emma and I heard another neighbor speak, at the funeral, about a conversation he had with his young son about the death. Emma took that conversation and embellished it in a letter to her on-line friend:
“I was babysitting (C- 5 yrs) and (D– 7 yrs) and when I’d gotten there at 9am, (C) wasn’t awake yet. I went in at about 10 am to check on him. I could tell he wasn’t asleep, even though his eyes were closed. I said, “Come on, (C)! Breakfast time!” His eyes didn’t open and he said, “I’m not getting up,, Miss Em.” “Yes, you are! We’re going down to the lake after breakfast!: And eyes still stubbornly closed he replied, “I’m going to sleep until I wake up with (M-deceased child).
(X), I totally lost it. I just picked him up, held him in my arms, and cried. And then I saw (D) standing in the doorway. He came over and sat on the bed , put his little arm around me, and kept saying, “It’s ok, Miss Em, he didn’t mean it. …..”
Note, at this time, Emma had never even babysat the children she mentioned in the letter.

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I am enclosing a copy of my attorney’s letter once we started investigating some of the lies Emma has told. I thought when Phill found out Emma’s friend was never raped, he would see that she has a problem with telling the truth, but Phill told me this was just “teenage drama.” Emma has told lie after lie after lie, but Phill believes she was molested, and that her mother “abused” her. I believe Phill does not want to believe the truth about his own daughter, so getting rid of his wife was a way not to face his daughter’s problems.

Re:  Roey v. Phillip Thomas Roey
Superior Court of Jackson County
Civil Action File No. M11CV0547

Dear ________:

As you know per our recent conversations, my client is insistent that the allegations made against her by her daughter are fabricated and completely baseless. She is extremely upset at what these allegations have done to her family and how they have destroyed her reputation. She is especially concerned with the mental health of her daughter and implores your client to seek the appropriate help for her.

At my client’s request, I am enclosing material obtained and prepared by my client evidencing serious issues with Emma Roey’s accusations and general truthfulness. You will see from the statements and documentation that Emma has serious issues with making up stories and does not seem to care who she hurts. For example, she has alleged a drug-sniffing dog came to her school, and she was called over the PA system to the office to be searched for drugs. Per the school official, it never happened. These types of allegations could have caused school officials and other children on the bus serious issues. She alleged that another child was so dangerous as to cause her to have to lock herself in a closet. She never babysat the child in question. This allegation seriously damages the reputation of a child.

Perhaps the most important discovery was her allegations that supposedly started the entire “memory” of her alleged molestation by a church official. She stated to her parents and counselors that she spoke with her friend Laura on her birthday, December 19, 2009. She alleged first that (X) was raped and in the hospital. She later alleged that (X) was in the hospital for attempted suicide after recalling a rape incident. We have contacted the (X)’s father. None of this ever happened. We are in the process of obtaining an affidavit from the Father (and X if necessary) stating that (X) was never in the hospital (his words were that she was not even BORN in a hospital), was never raped, never attempted suicide, etc., and she never told Emma anything of the sort happened. He states that he and his daughter have gone back through emails and other communication with Emma at the time and there was no mention of (X) in this condition in these communications.

It is extremely telling that the incident that supposedly led to Emma’s recollection of the sexual abuse NEVER HAPPENED. If the alleged triggering event never took place, it only stands to reason that the event that was allegedly triggered (sexual abuse) never happened. It is also curious that within one week of being informed that this sexual abuse case was to be filed, she alleges that my client physically abused her. The more reasonable explanation may be that Emma was scared that the real truth (that nothing happened) was about to come out, that someone might talk to (X), and that someone might start investigating her other “stories”. She then creates a fantastic tale of abuse about her mother to get the heat off of her. It is interesting that the sexual abuse case apparently has not been filed and it appears that, even after aggressively pursuing the action against the clergyman, neither Emma nor her father is pushing the case forward. It appears that she is now happy that the new story has covered the old one.

Emma Roey has presented her baseless allegations and one-sided information to your client and her counselors, and it appears that no one has made any attempt to look into the truthfulness of the allegations. My client does not believe that the counselors can adequately treat Emma without honest information. While I am not a psychologist, I think it would be relevant for the counselors to have information that might cause them to treat what may be a personality disorder rather than issues resulted from alleged abuse (physical and sexual). In order for my client to help with her own counseling, she has provided this information to her own counselor and it is my understanding that the counselor was concerned for Emma. It is my further understanding that the counselor is going to either forward the information to, or discuss the information with, the counselor for Emma.

If the allegations against my client and the minister (sexual allegations) are untrue, it would appear that Emma is willing to go to great lengths for attention and is willing to destroy anyone and anything. Your client may want to recall that he was the object of her accusations a couple of years ago (alleging that he called her vile names on a regular basis) and my client defended him, seeking treatment for the child. Emma needs help before she destroys herself and/or someone else. My client implores your client to review this information with an open mind and, if he will, work together with my client to both help the child and help this family. I am sure that if he both looks at this information and reviews other incidents using common sense, and not the protectiveness that all of us parents have concerning our children, he will come to the correct conclusion and want to help his daughter.

Please call me with any questions or if I can be of assistance. Both my client and I want to see Emma get help and for the family to begin healing.
Yours very truly,

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False Police Report Filed by Emma

In 2012, Emma filed a false report with the police. I don’t know exactly when the report was made, but I am guessing that it was the night I was at my women’s small group, down the street from our home. Emma was a part of the group for 6 years, so she knows the schedule of when we meet. I would guess that she probably checked to see if my car was there. Emma does not have a protective order against me. That expired in April of 2011 after Phill took out the protective order against me. Also, I have witnesses who went with me and left with me. My attorney does not even want me to go to my own home to collect my belongings because he fears for my own safety or that Phill or Emma will claim something else that didn’t happen. I can assure you, I’m not going anywhere near Emma. She has worked at the Mall of Ga. Chik-fil-a for months, and I won’t even go to the mall without a witness. She’s my daughter, and I love her, but she has some serious problems. I believe she is mentally ill. After discussing our family with therapists, counselors, and social workers, I am afraid that Phill and I did not see a lot of warning signs we should have picked up on over the years. This is a child who snow-balled one story into another. She would rather destroy her own family than admit to her lies. I am very concerned for Emma’s future, and for what she may do to those around her.

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As I stated earlier, this letter contains only a few of Emma’s lies that I have documented. I have many more, and you can contact me if you are interested in reading further. My attorney has a record of all the original e-mails and confirmations of witnesses who verified that Emma told them things that were untrue. He has spoken to many of these people himself. I’m sure what we have is just part of a collection, and that there is much more that hasn’t even been uncovered. If you have any questions or comments about anything Emma may have said, please feel free to contact me. Now that the divorce is final, I will be taking this story public. I will also be keeping a blog and posting the entire story here:

https://losingemma.wordpress.com

Addendum:

On Aug. 13, 2012, I had dinner with some friends in my old Deer Creek neighborhood, down the street from my former home.   I was there from about 6-9pm, and after I left, Phill, who was somewhere up north, on the road for UPS, called my old neighbors to ask if I was moving in with them.  They had no idea what he was talking about.  He told them that Emma had seen my car at their house and was afraid to be home alone.  I’m not sure why a 3 hour visit warranted a call to see if I was moving in with my old neighbors. I have not seen Emma for 1 year and 5 months.  I don’t believe Emma is afraid of me.  I believe Emma is afraid to face me.

Introduction

This is a story about a child who destroyed her own family.  She had a lot of help from her dad, some lousy therapists, and  Georgia’s DFACS (Division of Family and Children’s Services).  There is something wrong with a system that gives a child so much control.  This is a child who’s IQ is probably higher than most, if not all, of these “professionals” who worked with her.  Is she mentally ill or extremely manipulative?  I believe time will tell.

Last year, I was home alone one morning, when two sheriffs arrived at my door and told me my husband had filed a protective order against me under the pretense that I had physically abused my daughter.  I had to pack up some belongings, give the deputies my keys, and leave my home.  Because I had been a stay-at-home-mom, and had been out of the work force for 16 years, I was financially dependent on my husband.  He wanted to pay as little alimony as possible, so my attorney did not want me to do anything to risk losing financial support. My husband and daughter were allowed to say whatever they wanted to say, ruin my name and reputation, and I couldn’t comment.  Now it is my turn.  The divorce is final, and I will be posting the entire story here.  I have been told over and over again that this story is so bizarre, I need to write a book.  Well, I’m not a writer, and not up to that, but I have kept a diary as well as pages and pages of notes, and I will share the story here.  It will come out in bits and pieces, and maybe it won’t follow a clear plot, like a book would, but I will share what I have bit by bit, as I get to it.