If you are new to this blog, you may want to read the posts “In a Nutshell” or go to July 2012 and read “Sending out a Letter.” Both of these posts give a brief description of what happened. As Emma’s mom, I am blogging my experiences with Emma and the things she did/does. This is a child who made up a story about rape, accused a priest of molesting her, and then as her attorney was about to file a lawsuit against the priest and the church, Emma accused her mother of physical abuse to stop the lawsuit because she knew her lies were about to be discovered. Emma claims to have the TOXICOLOGY REPORT to prove that her mother poisoned her with DDT and that she had to move to get away from her mother. (My attorney has been waiting for months for over a year for that that toxicology report.) Emma was recently living with her boyfriend’s family in Ohio, but came back to Ga. when the boyfriend began to have doubts about Emma and broke off their relationship. As long as my daughter is accusing me of child abuse and attempted murder, I will continue to tell her story.
The Rewards of Being a Victim
Before Phill took out the Temporary Protective Order, to have me removed from my home, we had to come up with places for Emma to stay. After all, she wanted to go live in a group home. My thought was that she needed to live in a group home and to see what it’s like for kids who didn’t have it as good as she did. Let her meet kids who really were abused or who came from bad situations. Emma’s life would look like the life of a princess compared to some of these kids. She had two parents who loved her and she was allowed to do almost anything she wanted (within reason). She never lacked for food, clothes, or a warm bed. Of course once, when Emma and I got into an argument over something she wanted (I can’t remember what it was now.) and she didn’t get her way, she got angry and screamed at me, “YOU HAD ME! YOU OWE ME!” At the time, I thought it was a pretty ugly thing to say, but we all say things we don’t mean in anger. Emma said a lot of ugly things over the years, but for some reason, this one stuck with me probably more than any other. It sort of haunted me, and it still does. I’m sad to say that I really felt like this was in insight into Emma’s world. Emma felt like we owed her.
When Emma stayed with friends and neighbors, she got treated like a beloved guest with dinners, plays, clothes, trips to the beauty shop, etc. After all, who wouldn’t want to do something nice for a poor abused child who was beaten and poisoned by her mother? Emma made out like a bandit. I will share about some of the people Emma stayed with, and how Emma took advantage. I’m sure I only know a few of the rewards Emma collected. There’s probably a lot more that I don’t know.
From what Phill told me, Emma mostly stayed with our neighbors, John and Judy Hall, but she also stayed with some other neighbors, Randall and Cora Andrews, and one of Phill’s RC plane buddies and his wife, Mike and Wendy Timms who lived not far from us in Hoschton, but now live in Dacula, Ga. Since Emma didn’t want to see me, I didn’t always know where she was. Phill just told me what he wanted to.
John and Judy Hall probably have the most interesting story of all the people Emma stayed with. Everything I am sharing here is what Phill told me, so I don’t know what is true and what is not. I didn’t really know the Halls well, only talking to them occasionally if we ran into them when we were out taking a walk. One day, Judy herself did tell me some things about her grandchildren and her ex-son-in-law, but everything else I heard from Phill.
Phill met the Halls when our neighbors recommended him to help them with their computer. Those of you that know Phill know what a computer geek his is, and he is very talented at building, working on, and pretty much anything to do with computers. It used to be his main interest until he got back into RC planes. The Hall’s daughter, Jina, was married to a race car driver named Buckshot Jones and going through a divorce. Phill ended up doing a lot of computer work for the Halls and much of it had to do with Jina’s divorce. Several times he told me he had to “wipe out” their hard drive in case they were subpoenaed during the divorce. I never asked what kind of things they were trying to hide, but there must have been something they thought would be incriminating on their computer. The Halls appreciated that Phill would drop everything and go work on their computer whenever they called and they paid him well. Phill joked that the Halls knew how to treat him when he came over. If it was in the morning, they fixed him a cup of coffee when he walked in, and if it was after noon or later, they always handed him a beer when he walked in.
For a while, Jina and the boys lived with John and Judy, and they had some sort of strange arrangement where she got the boys from 6am to 6pm, and then their dad got the boys from 6pm to 6am. It sounded really odd to me that their dad would only have the boys for a couple of hours before they went to bed every night, and then have to get them up so early to give them back to their mom? It was really the strangest custody agreement I’d ever heard of. The boys were little then, and it made no sense to me to be putting them through that.
Phill said that Buckshot Jones came from a very wealthy Gwinnett County family, and his grandfather was a judge or something high up in the Gwinnett County government. He told me that Jina received $10,000 a month in temporary support from her husband. I remember Phill and I talking about it, and we were both kind of astounded that someone could receive that much money, but I have no doubt some race car drivers do really well.
Over the course of the divorce, there were a lot of ugly things that Phill would come home and tell me. Jina moved out and bought a home, but then the home was foreclosed on when Buckshot didn’t pay the support he owed, so Jina couldn’t pay her mortgage.
Jina had a beautiful giant schnauzer that the couple fought over, and Buckshot eventually won custody of the dog. Phill said as soon as he got the dog, he got rid of it, and Jina and the boys were heartbroken. Judy and John had two miniature schnauzers, and they bought the boys a Jack Rusell because one day they said that was what they wanted. If you know anything about Jack Russells, they are not a breed for everybody, and from what Phill told me later, the Halls regretted getting the dog because after a couple of days, the boys were no longer interested in it, and they were stuck with it.
Phill told me at one point, Jina had a video tape of something incriminating about Buckshot, but some friends of hers stole it. I could not imagine friends doing this, and when I asked about it, Phill said that the Halls believed the friends were paid off by Buckshot’s family to steal the video.
Judy and John were not allowed to discipline their grandchildren because if it got back to Buckshot, he would not let the Halls have visits with the boys. Phil told me the boys behaved horribly and called John and Judy all sorts of horrible names. At one point, he said one of the boys stole Judy’s cell phone to give it to their dad who was trying to get some information from it. He also said they Judy complained that Buckshot sat in bed and watched porn on his computer with the boys present.
At one point, Phill told me that the Halls were thinking of selling their house because of all the money they’d spent on their daughter’s legal bills.
Much later, I think well after the divorce was final, Emma and I were walking our dogs around the block. We were in front of the Hall’s home, when Judy pulled up and got out of her car to check the mailbox. We spoke for a few minutes, and she asked about how Emma was doing, school, etc. I may have asked how her grandsons were doing in school, and I think at that point the older one was in 2nd grade and the younger one was in kindergarten. Judy got to talking about her grandsons and I could tell it made her very sad. She told me that their dad wouldn’t get out of bed to get them to school, so they had missed twenty-something days of school already and were likely to be held back a grade. Phill had told me that Jina volunteered at the school, so she could be around her kids and try to help them, but often she’d be there and the boys were not. It was all very sad.
Judy worked part time for salon in Brasleton, and the one time I got to see Emma, sitting in the van, she’d had her hair done. Since about 9th grade, Emma frequently used a straight iron on her hair, and it was very straight, cut in layers and looked very pretty. Phill told me that Emma had wanted to get her hair cut, but I wouldn’t let her. Well, as you can see from this photo, that’s not true.
Judy was a petite lady, but because of some health problems, she put on some weight, and she gave Emma a bunch of clothes. Emma always was a clothes horse, so from what Phill told me, she was thrilled about that.
At first, the Hall’s were driving Emma to school, and I think Phill was paying them to at least cover gas money. Emma had a permit, but Phill did not want Emma to get her driver’s license until she was 18. Funny thing was, once he got rid of his wife, he let Emma go ahead and get her license so she could drive herself. From what some of the neighbors told me, she then totaled two cars and she may have gotten a ticket in New Jersey. She had failed the test for her permit the first time, so I’ve often wondered how she did on her driver’s test. With her dad being a truck driver, you’d think she would have had plenty of lessons, but I missed this milestone in my daughter’s life, so I really don’t know how she did on the driving test.
When John and Judy went out of town, Emma stayed with our neighbors, Cora and Randall Andrews who lived behind us, and across the street from Judy and John Hall. Randall worked with Phill at UPS and was the union steward until he fell on the job and if I remember right, damaged both rotator cuffs. Randall was a hard worker, and when he wasn’t at UPS, he did tractor work on the side. After winning a settlement with UPS, Randall became a truck driving instructor. Since his wife was a teacher, he liked to joke that they were both teachers. Cora stayed home with the kids when they were little and then went back to teaching P.E. and also went back to school to get her Ph.D. in P.E. She then became a coach at Jackson County Commprehensive High School.
Phill was a big help to Cora when she was working on her Ph.D. He helped her with computer work, and Cora even thanked him in her dissertation. Phill got a kick out of that she mentioned him, but didn’t even mention her husband in her acknowledgement.
Randall and Cora had two boys who Emma played with when she was little, but once the kids started school, they didn’t see much of each other. When the kids were little, we helped each other out, occasionally watching each other’s kids. Phill and I even kept the boys when Randall had a heart attack and was in the hospital.
When Emma started high school at Jackson County Comprehensive High School, she never had anything nice to say about her former playmates. She claimed they always looked high or looked to be on something at school. Knowing how involved the boys were in school, and how involved their parents were, I didn’t believe this for a minute. I’m sure they boys weren’t perfect angels, but they both were very involved in sports and other school activities. Since Emma claimed she often saw them looking this way in the morning when she went to school, I suspected they might have been sleepy because it was early in the morning and with sports and homework, they were probably short on sleep. Emma went on and on about them and I remember at one point she tried to convince me that the younger son had a reputation for partying and using drugs. Both of these boys went on to college, and the younger son turned down an appointment to West Point to go to UGA and even got some scholarship money.
Emma also talked about Cora (Dr. Andrews) when she went to JCCHS. Emma had a coach named Coach Beaver for P.E. and Freshman Focus class. Coach Beaver, according to Emma, also moonlighted as a cop in Statham, Ga., and would tell the kids about all the drug problems in Statham.
According to Emma, Coach Beaver and Dr. Andrews had some sort of rivalray. Emma claimed that one time, in P.E. class, Dr. Andrews walked through the gym and told Emma to put some nets or something away when they were done. She said when they finished, she started putting the nets away and Coach Beaver yelled at Emma and asked her what she was doing. When she stated that Dr. Andrews had asked her to put the nets away, Emma said Coach Beaver told her to leave the nets where they were and if Dr. Andrews wanted the nets put away, she could do it herself. Did this really happen? I never asked neither Cora, nor Coach Beaver, but I’m guessing probably not, just like I’m guessing that Coach Beaver didn’t moonlight as a policeman.
Since I’m on the topic of Coach Beaver, I will mention a couple of other funny things Emma said about Coach Beaver. She claimed that Coach Beaver and her political science teacher (I can’t remember his name.) lived across the street from each other. This was during the 2008 election. Emma claimed that Coach Beaver was a conservative and her political science teacher was a liberal, so they both tried to out-do each other with signs in their yards for their particular candidate. Hmmm. I wonder what the odds are of these two teachers living across from each other and being political rivals ?
While staying with the Andrews, Emma went got to go see a play at her old high school under her favorite teacher, Bonnie Roberts, who was the drama teacher. (I will have another whole essay to write about Emma’s experience being in Drama at JCCHS, including confirmation from Ms. Roberts as to some of the lies Emma told about Drama.)
Emma also stayed at the home of Mike and Wendy Timms, one of Phill’s RC plane buddies. I might have met Mike at an RC event, but I’m not sure. Mike and Wendy have to daughter a few years younger than Emma, and one of them shares Emma’s name. They also had the fact that the girls were home schooled in common. I know the Timms family often went to the week-long RC event, SEFF, down in Americus, Ga. because Phill and Emma both talked about them being there.
Emma spent a weekend at the Timms’ home when they still lived in Hoschton. With the Timms family, Emma went out to eat Mexican food, and went to see a play that her latest crush, Johnathan McCravy, happened to have a role in. I think she also went to church that Sunday with the family. If I remember right, they went out for Mexican after church.
After I was removed from my home, Emma also spent some time with her friend Kayla Benifield Weaver, at the home of Kayla’s mom and stepdad, Sheree and Jeff Barwise, not far from home. Anytime Emma went to Kayla’s they ate out a lot because Emma claimed that Sheree didn’t cook, and I have a cute picture of a group of them going bowling.
This victim thing really paid off for Emma. She was treated like a guest everywhere she went (No chores!) and there were so many wonderful fringe benefits like meals out, plays, clothes, shopping, etc. It’s tough being a victim.